I hadn't seen this lover in 10 months or so. Why? He was, in some ways, a perfect "Friend" with Benefits. I didn't see any relationship potential with him at all – and therefore was able to simply enjoy the moments and the sex. When it came to the sex, was he the best? No, not by a long shot. But the sex was good.
I heard from him on POF, shortly after re-joining: "Your new pics look great btw, wow. Very nice :)"
I simply responded "thank you".
To which he countered "are you free tonight?"
Asking directly if I was free was different for him. The reality was, I was free. I had no plans. I had no dates and no real prospects. I said: Yes, I happen to be free – why?
Him: I have to see you again, Ann. It's been too long.
We sat for more than 2 hours over drinks and dinner. Afterwards, I invited him back to my place. We sat on the couch and I waited for him to make a move. Finally I asked him why he hadn't, and he responded that he sometimes liked an aggressive woman. Right. Feeling magnanimous I proceeded to give him a blow job that he will hopefully remember forever, given the touching, ass play, and other things that went along with it.