Conversation with my ex [MF]

*I will soon return to my regular programming, but I wanted to get this up. Again, I realize this is weird for GWS, but whatever.*

*Someone asked me if my ex would write a story from his perspective and in absolutely no uncertain terms he declined. When I posted an “interview” with my friend yesterday he said he’d be down for that. Enjoy…*

Viola: Alright [name], why are we here?

Ex: you asked me if I would write a story from my perspective and I said hell no.

Viola: That doesn’t describe why we’re here. That’s not helpful.

Ex: I saw you interview your friend and said you could interview me and transcribe it. But you have to keep me anonymous and I have absolute veto power.

V: Thank you. That’s actually helpful. Do you want a fake name?

Ex: Why do I need that?

V: idk.

Ex: I still haven’t decided if you can post this. This is not something that happens to me everyday.

V: How did we meet?

Ex: A mutual friend

My friend wanted to be featured on this account… Enjoy [FF]

*One of my best friends found out I blogged about sex and got jealous because she is quite adventurous. She’s still single so I live vicariously through her. Her sex stories are hilarious.*
*I told her I would feature her if she let me ask her whatever I wanted and transcribe our conversation. So I realize this is an odd GWS format, but I promise she has great stories. I had to alter this slightly because we kept getting off track, but enjoy.*
V: Do you want to pick a name?
S: Wait. Do you have a fake name?
V: Yeah, I go by Viola.
S: Seriously?
V: It’s my blog, fuck off.
S: Ok, then call me Sasha. That’s the fake name I give out when guys hit on me.
V: How do we know each other?
S: We met at a BBQ after I went on a terrible date and have been friends for 7 years or so.
V: So you’re single in… Do you want to pick a fake city?
S: Gotham.
V: Seriously?
S: Yeah.
V: What’s it like being single in Gotham?
S: It’s like having every option available and none. So there are 6 women for every 1 man, and they’re all rich and full of themselves.
V: Luckily you’re not just into men.
S: Yeah, thank god.
V: How do you identify?
S: Pan I guess. You?
V: I still say bi but idk what I am. Wait… have we made out?
S: Seriously? Yes. A few times.
V: I just now remembered that.
S: I used to make out with [my straight best friend] all the time.
V: What? She’s straight.
S: Yeah, but she’s a good kisser.
V: God, we were all weird.
S: And then you went and got married.
V: What’s the weirdest date you’ve been on?
S: I have so many. The day before we went into lockdown I went on a date. We accidentally wore the same outfit that should have been our first sign. He liked “Cather in the Rye” which should have been the second sign. Basically, he shit on everything I loved to the point when he went to the bathroom the bartender next to me told me I should leave. I ended up leaving the bar with a girl instead. He wasn’t happy.
V: What’s the weirdest thing you’ve done in bed.
S: You first.
V: It’s hard to quantify. I licked cum off the floor once.
S: Seriously? Why?
V: A dude told me to.
S: You never told me that one. I guess I just dated a dude who had a lot of kinks. The first time we fucked he flipped me over like I was a propeller. He put me over his knee and spanked me until I said I’d be a good girl.
V: Fuck, that’s hot.
S: Yeah and he was into weird things… Like he had a penis pump and liked hot wax a little too much. He was king of edging though which I wasn’t into.
V: You don’t like edging???
S: Sometimes but not EVERY time. I have shit to do. You need to give me my time.
V: What’s the worst sex you’ve ever had.
S: Oh my god. Ok. I was dating someone for a while and I came to his place and he broke up with me, but asked if I still wanted to have sex. I was down. It was January so I thought I’d fuck him until the Spring. Gotham gets too cold to find a new partner in winter. So I’m on top and we’re fucking and he asks if I want to try something. He pulls out a rope from his drawer. The thing was, I had seen that drawer the day before. So at some point within that 24-hour window, this dude had decided to break up with me AND bought a rope in case I was still down to fuck with bondage. He didn’t even know how to tie knots so I had to teach him like we were in Girlscouts. He got off, but that ruined the magic for me.
V: Dude, what? He sounds… interesting.
S: I attract weird people.
V: What’s the best sex you’ve ever had?
S: Probably when I lost my virginity.
V: Seriously? That’s refreshing.
S: Yeah we had been together three years. We broke up because we were going to college but decided to have sex before. Like we high-fived and everything. We got a hotel room and it was so sweet. He was also good at sex all things considered. We had chips and guac after. It was so sweet.
V: I know very few people who describe their first time like that.
S: There was another time that stands out. It started off terrible. I almost shit myself because Gotham has no bathrooms and he had to wait for me in his lobby while I got sick (*she’s lactose intolerant*). He was really, really nice about it and convinced me to stay and took care of me until I felt better. That night Gotham had fireworks and I climaxed while I was on top and looked out the window to watch them. It was just sweet and intimate. Plus he kissed me a lot during sex.
V: I hate kissing during sex.
S: Yeah, you would.
V: These stories are not what I expected.
S: Why?
V: Like my best sex stories are usually really degrading, and so many of your stories are crazy. You just like really intimate sex though.
S: With guys…
V: And with women?
S: I get really weird… Like I fisted an Orthodox jew the other night.
V: What?
S: Yeah. I’m a switch so I dom women. Generally, lesbian sex takes too long.
V: Dude, this is so weird. I fuck for hours.
S: I’m tight and it hurts. How do you do it?
V: Oh because it’s not all penetration. I play with my food before I eat it.
S: Sometimes with guys that doesn’t feel like an option. They just go for it.
V: That’s depressing.
*Men of Gotham, do better.*
V: What’s the weirdest thing you like in bed.
S: I’ve never said this to anyone, but I have a tights fetish… As in I like getting tights torn off me.
V: That’s so hot. Are you into underwear being torn off too? That used to be my thing.
S: have you seen how expensive my underwear is? Hell no.
V: Ok tell me more sex stories.
S: Oh! There was “The Count.”
V: What? I don’t know this story.
S: I dated a dude who was a physical therapist. I thought he’d be able to pop my back whenever I wanted. We were fucking and he started counting from 1-6 over-and-over. When I asked what he was doing he told me he was trying not to come. Afterwards he said it was amazing.
V: Dude, I had a dude do that to me.
S: Did we fuck the same guy?
V: Doubtful, this was in France. Have we ever fucked the same person?
S: Nah, we just had some overlap with make-outs.
I want to be clear I have never fucked this girl… Even though I probably would.
S: Oh! I once dated someone with the same name as me.
V: Did you scream your own name?
S: Hell no. I never do that anyway. I have to disassociate when I’m fucking. I bet you scream names, right?
V: When I’m told.
S: God you’re such a sub.
V: Wait, do you role play?
S: Always. Last Halloween my boyfriend and I dressed as a student and a professor. He spanked me with a ruler after. Have you done that?
V: No, I just fucked my professor instead.
S: Way to one-up me.
V: You literally dom’d a dude at a sex club last week. I don’t think I can one-up you.
S: Oh! Also a weird story, I dated a dude who used to like it when I had sex with other people. He’d tell me who to fuck and then make me tell him all about it. He said he’d physically watch his last girlfriend fuck. He also would leave random things out and tell me how to fuck myself with them when he was gone.
V: Dude, that’s so hot.
*And then we went to yoga together so the interview had to end. She’s a gem though.*

The time I cheated [MF]

I hate this story. I’ve put off writing it.

I’m not a cheater… Although some of my exes would disagree because my relationship lines blur. There were many times I dated multiple people at once and, although I was upfront I didn’t want a relationship, I did hurt feelings.

I REALLY cheated once though.

I really wish I had loved my ex. I tried so hard to love him. He was obsessed with me and I’m not sure anyone has ever loved me as much as he did. He chased me for a year and then I broke down and gave him a chance.

When I say he was obsessed with me I mean it. I was the only thing he loved.

So the thing is, I don’t half-ass anything, including being a girlfriend. If I am your girlfriend, I will girlfriend the fuck out of you. Your friends will love me, your mom will love me, and I will be supportive AF about all of your hobbies, interests, and career.

I am a GREAT girlfriend when I commit, which is why it takes me so long to do so. It’s also why people who I date generally think we are just the absolute happiest.

I hooked up with my hometown hero and it was almost unbelievably bad [FM]

Don’t worry, this is not about high school kids.

My husband actually told me to write this because he thinks it’s hilarious and someone asked if I had ever had bad sex in my AMA last night. This story came to mind.

Also if any of you still thought I was cool, you’re about to see that I’m so fucking lame.

We all have that one person from high school, right? The one who everyone in school knows and is basically the the closest thing to a celebrity in your hometown?

Yeah, I was not cool enough in high school to hook up with him. He was two years older than me and dated a girl who was basically perfect looking.

I mean, I’m not going to do the whole, “I was such a nerd trope” because I was fine. I was pretty well liked and relatively social. I was just a normal amount of insecure and didn’t know how to dress myself.

*I still really don’t.*

How the turn tables have turned [FF]

Alright I’ve been Tik Toking a lot trying to build a brand while writing this damn book.

*I feel so fucking stupid saying that.*

So two days ago I found out my ex girlfriend HAS A FUCKING TIK TOK. Not just any account either, but one where she describes in detail how to responsibly dominate someone in bed.

When I found it I texted her and was like, “Bitch, why didn’t you tell me you had a #KinkTok?”

I now know why.

I was scrolling through today and heard her talking about how to spank.

*Lol, yep you were always good at that.*

Then I got to one about her making her sub wear toys in public.

*Lol, that’s so funny. You used to make me do that.*

Then I got to a story about how she dated someone who liked to be dominated so much she couldn’t come without her permission.

*Wait…*

She then tells this story about how her EX once “disobeyed” and she spanked her (me) so hard her ex had bruises all over her ass.

There were at least two parts of America she didn’t hate [FF]

I was VERY naive when this happened btw. It was also over ten years ago.

I spent a few months traveling alone when i was younger. I was writing and had an online job so I just decided to hostel hop for a while.

I met this girl in a hostel who was not initially too impressed with me. She mumbled something about having to share a room with an American and was pretty rude for a bit.

*Whatever, people hate Americans. I learned very early in my travels to shrug it off.*

So this girl wore all black, chain smoked like crazy, and had the mouth of a damn sailer. She was pretty sexy, but I’m also just attracted to anyone who is a little mean to me.

*Good luck unpacking that one.*

Finally she turns to me without warning and says, “American. I’m bored. Let’s grab dinner.”

*Ok?*

She picks a random restaurant and chain smokes the entire way there. I barely get a word in she’s going off so long about how much she hates American politics and probably knows more about my government than I do.

Turns out withholding punishment is worse than withholding orgasms [MF]

I haven’t written about rough sex in a while. I got a little dark for a bit and had to pull back.

*All my normal disclaimers: this was consensual sex between two experienced people who had established safewords and boundaries.*

I used to practice BDSM with a guy for a while and got a wee bit addicted to getting punished. You would think the occasional free pass would be fun, but once you start going down the path of pain/pleasure combination, it’s hard to stop.

So yeah, he used to get mad if I orgasmed without his permission. He usually let me but one day I texted him to ask if I was allowed to get myself off and he said absolutely not.

I did anyway.

When I get home I wait for him to ask me about it but he is literally just cooking dinner like normal. Not only that, but he greets me with a smile and is weirdly talkative and playful.

*Our sex life actually doesn’t carry over very much to our friendship but I thought the point of him denying me was because I was about to be dom’d the fuck up.*

I went above and beyond my groomswoman duties [FFM]

*Quick side note: I recently resigned from my job to spend the next five months writing. Y’all’s comments were exceptionally kind and encouraging so thank you again.*

I should start by saying I was in the wedding as a groomsman, but there was a small conflict on which side I would be on. I was pretty close with both of them and they only had one person each as their wedding party.

I’ve also hooked up with both of them separately before they got together and we ALMOST had a threesome.

*I felt like such a baller getting that invitation.*

So before this wedding the groom gets a little nervous at one point and I convince him to do a shot with me.

*That’s totally rational, right?*

He’s freaking out a little and I tell him to just drink until he calms down.

I have absolutely no doubt these two should get married and they’re stupid happy now, but both were just struggling with the whole “lifelong commitment” thing. As I am convincing the groom he is not making a mistake, the bride runs down the stairs almost in tears and says she needs to see him.

Fuck the Sushi [FM]

I actually recently talked to the ex I hate and he brought this story up. I still hate him but I love this story…

I was once at my boyfriend’s house and he texted me that he would pick up dinner after his run.

*He used to be my boss and had to buy me lunch. He knew what I liked.*

So he got home with like 10 different rolls of sushi, placed the takeout beside me, and then went to take a shower.

*Bro, wtf would you do? Am I supposed to NOT lay the sushi on my body?*

So yes, I decided to lay the sushi on my body. The problem is that this is more difficult than it sounds. First off, his dining room table was not big enough for me to stretch out on. I ended up pulling two chairs close to his coffee table so I could spread my legs on the chairs and lie back on the table.

*He showered in like 5 minutes btw. I had to move fast.*

I took off all my clothes and left a trail leading to where I would end up.

We were very bad at breaking up [FM]

I have written about this dude many times because we had great sex. However, I fucking hate this man. He is the only ex I genuinely dislike.

But yeah, the sex was great.

It took us like 6 months to break up because we kept meeting up and fucking. It got to the point I think we’d intentionally make each other mad just so we could have hate sex.

One day I got a text saying he absolutely had to talk to me. I agreed to meet him in public because I assumed it would stop us from fucking.

We met up and he did not look great. He had dark circles under his eyes and I swear looked strung out.

“You ok, bro?” I asked when I sat down.

Essentially he had been seeing someone she had broken up with him after two dates, claiming he was a pompous ass.

*He was.*

“I haven’t been able to sleep. I’m afraid I might just be an asshole.”

*He was.*

“Ok, well first step I think is sleeping so you can think about this rationally.”