I am a married 24 year old mother. Our baby was born 8 months ago. Almost as soon as our pregnancy was confirmed my husband lost sexual interest in me. Something about the life growing in my tummy made him feel that sex urges were inappropriate. Strangely, he was still romantic, and we hugged and cuddled and he was very sweet. Liked to touch my stomach and pretend to talk to the baby inside. But he never got hard, and wanted to see me naked less frequently. By the sixth month we had a pretty dead bedroom except that he still asked me often to go down on him.
As my body swelled he lost all interest in me. I began to question my new appearance, felt “fat” and unsexy. I liked the favorable attention I sometimes received from friends and co-workers, couldn’t understand his indifference. My hormones were drowning me and I masturbated like crazy.
I ended up cheating on business travel with my best male friend in the office. I did NOT plan to cheat. Didn’t shave, or even pack sexy clothes or undies. Co-worker and I had a very light dinner together in the hotel and met again at 7 at the hot tub. Talking, we of course talked about the elephant in the room, by which I mean the hippo in the hot tub.