Just had my [F] first one night stand with a really sweet guy [M] And it was lovely!

I apologize for my shitload of extra background information. You can just skip to the [THE ONE NIGHT STAND] part if you’re not interested in the rest.

[BACKGROUND INFORMATION]

I have never been the person to even consider a one night stand. Sex without feelings always seemed so…useless and scary to me. I don’t have a lot of experience and even though I did engage in sexual play before, the penetration part has always been super scary to me and I have failed that with my previous boyfriends..
I am just…kinda small. Kinda tight.
So most of the times it would hurt so much that I’d asked my boyfriend to stop. But we were in a very loving relationship and he would always consider how I felt and stop if needed. With a stranger, I wouldn’t know if we could have that bond and trust.

[CURRENT SITUATION]

So I am traveling alone in Korea and I have been using tinder to meet some nice people to language/culture exchange with and have dinner. I didn’t really have sex in mind, and yeah, I guess it’s not the best place to find a non-sexual relationship. But ok.

Some people I met through the app were kinda creepy. Some were awkward, but alright to have around for a few hours talking and dinner. And some guys I matched with basically said they were looking for a one night stand. I always kindly said I was not looking for that and unmatched them.

[THIS GUY]

This guy started having a normal conversation with me first and asked how much I was enjoying Korea up til now.
Eventually he asked if I was interested in sex with him.
I said I am not interested, since I don’t want to meet up with a promise beforehand that we will have sex at the end of the day. But I also said I would be open for it if I meet up with someone for fun and he just turns out to be a real nice person I’m attracted to.
(But I never really felt attracted to anyone before in my life. Not even my ex boyfriend, which is also one of the reasons we eventually broke up. So I said it while thinking the chance is gonna be pretty fucking small I will feel comfortable enough and attracted enough to engage in sex at the end of the evening, but the chance was there.)

He said that was actually pretty cool of me and he agreed. Said he was actually really attracted to me, but totally understood if I didn’t want to have sex by the end of the day when we meet up. He didn’t give me the feeling he was a creep so I gave him an ok for meeting up for dinner.

(at this point, I still didn’t know what he looked like because he cut off the head of his pictures or just puts a sticker over it. I matched with him on tinder in the first place because he wrote in his profile he was interested in language exchange/ practising English…)

[THE DINNER]

We met up for dinner at a Korean bbq restaurant. I arrived earlier so I waited in front of the subway station.
He arrived, and to my surprise, he was actually …..reaally handsome….

We went to the restaurant and talked a little bit.
Once in the restaurant, he ordered the food and poured me a drink. Throughout the dinner, he took care of me and grilled / cut the meat..put it in my bowl, told me which sauces would be good with which meat, etc. Whenever I emptied my glass, he would refill it as well.
I know it’s in the Korean culture to do that, especially when you’re with a foreigner who obviously knows less about the eating culture. But even so, it was really nice to experience this and this allowed me to enjoy the moment a lot. He was also really nice to talk to, even though he would struggle with his English. But in a cute/ not annoying way. Since he did have a pretty big understanding of English. We laughed a lot and I believe we would both have had a very nice evening if it just ended here.

[THE ONE NIGHT STAND]

After dinner, we were taking a walk and we talked more. And at some point he asked me: “so…did you change your mind about the sex?”
And I said: “no..not exactly, but..it’s a little bit scary..”
He told me I shouldn’t do it if it makes me feel bad. And said he could bring me to the subway station instead.
Out of embarassment I typed in my google translate: “ah…actually, I am fine with doing other sexual acts but..just no penetration. Is that fine..?”
He was kinda confused about that and google translated back: What do you mean..?
And I typed: “well..we can go, but I am just afraid of it entering me…because it hurts”
He looked a bit flustered but promised he wouldn’t do anything to hurt me. Then asked: “so..you’re really fine with this?”. I said yes, and then we went to a love hotel.

Once in there, he said I could shower first. I went into the shower AND WAS LITERALLY RETHINKING MY LIFE CHOICES. HOW DID I END UP HERE?? WHO AM I EVEN–‘
So I undressed and wanted to take a shower, but decided to ask him: “do you..want to shower together with me?”
The question actually surprised him a lot and he shyly said: “no, it”s ok..you can go first >//<”

I was also pretty self conscious about the fact I didn’t shave. Since, I never expected I would end up here. But I guess it’s pretty abnormal in Asian culture anyways to shave, so in the end it didn’t really matter.

So yeah, I showered, then he showered. And….then we were there…in the room.
I am honestly so awkward lol, I can’t believe he put up with me.

We cuddled and kissed in bed and I started touching his dick that slowly got harder. He started touching me as well and we slowly undressed each other and then cuddled with our bare bodies against each other. We kissed more and slowly started to feel each other.

I asked him if I could lick him, and he said yes.
So I went down on him and started kissing his balls. Slowly went up and started twirling my tongue around the top of his penis. Then put it inside my mouth and started giving him a blowjob while using my hand to play with his balls. I started to hear him moaning silently..then louder..and louder.
As I heard his breathing go faster and faster, I stopped and crawled back into his arms, smiling teasingly. And we kissed more.

He asked if I wanted to try the penetration thing, and I said no..

Then he rolled me on my back and started kissing my neck. Slowly making his way to my boobs and he put his hand in my panties.
He was licking circles around my nipple while his hand gently touched my clit. Making gentle circling around it and honestly, it made me so, so wet.
He put his finger in and started fingering me and I humped against him, yearning for more. At this point you could literally hear how wet I was down there.

And I said: Do you..want to try going all the way?
And he asked me: Are you really sure about this?
I said yes, and he lovingly patted me on the head. Asked me if I was taking anticonception. Which I wasn’t, so he put on a condom. (Thank god, people who are considerate about that!!)

He put it in and asked me if it hurt. It hurt a little, but not enough to ask him to stop.
He started pounding it in and first slowly..then harder..faster.
All the while hugging me and kissing my neck, licking my ear..
I kissed him as well and it really just, felt so safe.

He moaned very silently. So did I. Sometimes he would say something in Korean, and then apologize quickly after and said he couldn’t think properly about his English in the moment. I understood that and actually, the Korean was kinda sexy anyways.
At some point he moaned: “you’re so tight..”
I asked him if that’s a problem..and he said: “no..but it’s just really hard to last long because it feels so good” >//<

I noticed he almost came at some points and then stopped for a second. But then I would just teasingly start moving to bring him closer to the edge. Making him feel kinda hopeless and hug me in despair..moaning..

Eventually he came and started to take off the condom. He wanted to get some tissues to clean the remains off his dick, but I told him to stop and licked the rest clean.
After that we cuddled and smiled at each other for bit. We laid there for a while until he looked up in his phone when my last subway would go.
(which was in 30 minutes)

He asked if I wanted to shower together this time, and I said yes.
He took the shower head and made sure the water was the right temperature. Then pointed it towards me to make me wet. After that he watered himself (lol im saying it like he’s a plant, how do you say this in proper English anyways). I took the shower gel and soaped him in, then he took some too and did the same for me. Stopping at my boobs, slowly massaging them in shower gel. We rinsed each other off and were ready to go to the subway station.

Once outside, we noticed it was raining super hard.
Me, as the Dutch person I am, just thought: well, can’t be helped. Let’s just make a run for it.
But he told me to wait right there and looked for the nearest convenience store and said he’d buy an umbrella for me. I said it was ok, but he said it wasn’t.
Then he ran off in the pouring rain and got back with two umbrellas.

We walked to the subway station together and well, and he looked up the route for me. Then I heard him say: “ah……….”
I asked him what’s up, and then realized as well: ah..there goes the last subway …

He searched a new route for me and hailed a cab that would take me back to the guest house and told me to message him if I got home safely.

We waved goodbye and well, that’s probably the last time I’m gonna see him, since I’m leaving his city in 2 days.

But it was a great first one night stand experience. One that made me feel very safe and loved, even though there was no love involved. I never would have thought I would do this in my life, would you have told me BEFORE TODAY, I would have thought you’re crazy.
But it somehow ended up like this, and it was lovely.

Even after this happened, I am not sure if I would ever do this again with someone else. It feels so out of character and still scary to me. I feel lucky it ended up being lovely, and I also kinda feel like I want to treasure this first time..

Thank you for reading and sorry for the rambling.

Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/cemjaq/just_had_my_f_first_one_night_stand_with_a_really