To start off, my wife and I have been together for almost 15 years. High school sweethearts, first and only “everythings”. We both love each other very much and would never make the other uncomfortable in any situation. We have a pretty consistent sex life and are both satisfied in bed. (To my knowledge, that is. She’s not writing this, but I’ve only heard positive input on her end) I apologise in advance for any grammar issues. I ain’t always so good with the words…
There will be a TL;DR at the end if you don’t want ALL of the details. And if people want, I’d happily share other stories from our sex life as some things are exciting but realistic. So please give me some input
And a designated point that starts the recent story that makes me wonder on her feelings. So skip to the “//////” or the “TL;DR” if you are so inclined.
Sorry if the formatting is weird. This is being typed up on my phone.
Things started off slow for us. But once we got passed our first kiss, we kick-started our sexual journey pretty quickly. We started having sexual contact about a year into us dating. Things got pretty crazy in my eyes right away. As we were virgins and I couldn’t believe someone wanted anything to do with me. Let alone my dick.
I still remember being so nervous the first time she even tried to go towards my zipper. I would keep a pillow over my lap while we would make out, (for hours at a time, might I add. How the hell did we “just make out” for HOURS?) I wanted to be as respectful as possible towards her. If she didn’t want to see my penis, even just the obvious bungle in my pants, I did not want to force that upon her.
The first time she touched my penis is still one of my top memories of my manhood. I remember being in the middle of kissing her then feeling her hand move under my “safety pillow”. I stopped her. Said “Are you sure you want to do this?” She nodded and exhaled with an enthusiastic moan. She moved under the pillow to my pants, worked the zipper and slowly started to stroke my cock. Up and down. Up and down. I was in heaven. This lasted for about 4 and a 1/2 minutes and then something happened I did not expect. She, in the middle of kissing and jerking me off, starts to laugh. Immediate fear and terror fill my chest. I was so worried that my penis wasn’t big enough for her or something like that. She suddenly stops and says, “shit babe, you have a great dick.” (I’m half surprised I didn’t start cumming right then and there) I joking say, “Thank you? Would you mind continuing? It feels really great!” She then starts laughing again and explains how she will, but she needs to go to the bathroom.
During our premarital and even pre-intercourse days, this was a common theme. Things would start getting hot and heavy. We would start getting handsy and frisky, then before she would make me cum she would have to go to the bathroom.
I am a very selfless lover. If she’s not happy, I’m not happy. To this day, she cums before I do. At least once. I make sure and insist on it. I’d happily give her 3-5 orgasms to my 1, any day. But back to the foreplay.
Almost every single time we would have our fun (before and even after we started having sex) our “foreplay” which I don’t even know what you can call it, if it isn’t follow by sex, but anyway. Our “play” was 95% of the time mutual. If she was touching my penis, I was rubbing her clit, or fingering her. We loved it. I would do my best to make her cum as fast as possible, all while trying to make it as pleasurable as possible. Probably because I had a fear of cumming before her. I’m no stud when it comes to my orgasms. Especially when we are having actual, unprotected sex. But during all of those times of our “mutual masturbation” (really not sure if that’s what it’s called since we were taking care of each other versus ourselves) I would have her cum and right before I would, she would stop. Saying she had to go to the bathroom, she didn’t want to make a mess, or someone would walk in on us. I’m was never truly mad about this, just a bit confused. And thus my wondering on her feelings of cum started.
I can probably say that my wife has made me cum, using her hands, 5 times total in our entire relationship. Maybe…give or take one, honestly. She’s never made me cum using her mouth. She’s given me blowjobs and I’ve eaten her out. The scales tip in the direction of me pleasuring her orally more, but I don’t mind. Her mouth is small, and my penis is slightly above average in length but pretty girthy. It’s difficult for her and she doesn’t really enjoy doing it nearly as much as I like eating her out. No big deal. She does know how much I like getting head though, so it is a bit of a treat when she does. But still, between 4 and 6 times of cumming in the last 15 years. One time while I was driving her home. That’s a hot story for another time if people are interested. Now comes a bit of an interesting point for her.
Once we started having sex we did not use protection. We should have been. It was stupid. We know this. We are fortunate every day that we don’t have a sophomore (good god that is crazy to think about) in highschool running around. But we got lucky. Eventually we stared using condoms but didn’t have many. It was difficult for us to buy them for fear of someone seeing us buying them. We tried our best to get them but could only do so much. Eventually she went on the pill and we were off to the races.
Most of our sexy time would start by us making out for a while. Then the foreplay would start. Passionate kisses and some sexual touching is some of my favorite parts of sex (even still). I love it. I love foreplay. Possibly even more than sex. As I said before I don’t last super long with unprotected sex so I get super nervous and anxious that I’m going to cum too early. I like the slow build up of getting each other ready and really turned on. Once she got on the pill I would still not cum inside of her, I never had. No matter how close I got, or how much I wanted to. I never came inside of her. A few times though, I almost came, but I was able to pinch it off and run to get a towel or tissue. To go back to the point of my story, she didn’t like my cum. I eventually found out that she in fact had a dislike for my cum because it was, “gross” (thanks babe, really makin me feel great about my bodily fluids here /s)
So the truth was out. She did in fact hate my cum because it was “gross”. I can see where she’s coming from (pun not intended but a pretty happy accident) it is a bit weird. Gross, I don’t think so. It’s a part of my body. I’m not one to make someone feel bad for liking or disliking something so I just went with it. Now for the kicker.
She doesn’t mind if I cum inside of her. Not even a little bit. She is totally fine doing the awkward “cross-legged” walk to the bathroom after we have sex so she doesn’t get any on her legs as gravity starts to do it’s job. Once again, I’m not one to question/shame her for her feelings but it seems a bit strange to me that she is grossed out by my cum anywhere on her body, but inside of her pussy. A woman’s most private personal place, it is totally cool. Yes, I also understand that that’s how kids are made so maybe that was something she knew she would have to deal with for when we wanted a family, but believe me. Kids were not anywhere near our plans.
We have a terrific sex life as I mentioned before. After she first went on the pill we would still have sex “unprotected”, and I wouldn’t cum in her. Then one day she literally begged me to. Literally mid sex I tell her “Oh fuck babe, I’m gonna cum! Stop! Stop! Stop” she says, “No, I’m on the pill. Just cum inside me. Please.”
We have just lost cabin pressure…
“What?” “Please?” “You want me to what?”
“I want you to cum inside me. You don’t get to cum when we have sex and we don’t have condoms, but I want you to feel good.” (Ah, wife material right there)
I take at least 5 minutes of deep critical thinking (so probably like 17 second since we were still mid doggy-style) and I ask her to repeat herself and confirm what she’s asking. That she wants me to cum inside of her. That SHE, wants my CUM, the thing she hates, inside of HER body. Excuse me, but what the actual fuck?
She confirms my question with a plea again. At this point as I mentioned, I was about to blow, this put me over the top. So for the first time, I came inside of her. It was magical. Insert every cliches simile and metaphor you care to imagine. When I was done, since she herself had had 2 orgasms already, she hoped off the bed and went to the bathroom, as if she’d taken care of this mess so often she could do it in her sleep. I laid there for several minutes just hyperventilating thinking about what I had just done and waiting for the scream to come from the bathroom as my load would begin to pour out of her.
The screams never came. She came back to the bed, I gave her a big hug and a kiss then went to the bathroom to clean myself up a bit. When I got back to the room, she was dressed and scrolling through her phone. I got dressed and sat on the bed. We talked about what happened and she said it was totally fine for me to continue to cum inside of her. “It’s much easier to clean up a mess we can contain. So either in me, or in a condom, makes no difference to me since I’m on the pill”
Needless to say, we stopped using condoms all together unless we were not at home.
////////////////////////////////////
Now fast forward to a few weeks ago. It had been some time since the last time we had had sex. Maybe a few weeks at most. Jobs and life get in the way some times. Anyway, we had gotten into bed, and started to fool around.
The kissing started. Not nearly for HOURS like we used to, but long enough to get each other fully excited and ready to continue. We were in a kind of half-assed spooning position that I loved. Since we have been together so long, the “safety pillow”
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/c56jxd/my_wife_hates_cumi_think_definitely_a_bit_long
TL;DR
Sex life is awkward for virgins. Girl will give handys but doesn’t let him finish because she thinks cum is gross. Dude is confused as fuck for a while until she explains that. Sex life progresses and she gets on the pill and after a time asks him to cum inside her because it’s less messy. Guy marries girl despite her lack of desire to reciprocate oral and manual manipulation, thinks pumping her guts full of spunk makes up for it.
Here is were I left out…my bad! Kinda new to this!
Now fast forward to a few weeks ago. It had been some me since the last time we had had sex. Maybe a few weeks at most. Jobs and life get in the way some times. Anyway, we had gotten into bed, and started to fool around.
The kissing started. Not nearly for HOURS like we used to, but long enough to get each other fully excited and ready to continue. We were in a kind of half-assed spooning position that I loved. Since we have been together so long, the “safety pillow” has since been removed. She loved my dick now, just not my cum.
I moved for her vagina first. My fingers met her clit and I immediately started to tickle and twirl on her clit. I spent at least 2 minutes prepping her beginning to swell clit, then I grabbed our lube. We have this fancy “cooling lube” that we both really like. I took my freshly lubed fingers and stared to stroke her clit between my middle and pointer finger. Essentially, “holding” it like a cigarette. As I move my fingers back and forth over her clit, using the lube to allow everything to become a slippery, slidey, pleasure zone. Shortly I moved to her vagina. Using my wet fingers not just from the lube but her juices as well. As I prodded my fingers inside of her, wimpers and moans of pleasure came from her.
After several minutes of my finger fucking, I would alternate to her clit. Lather, rinse, repeat. Gradually edging her closer and closer to orgasm. I love doing this. Did I mention I love foreplay or pleasing my wife? As she tells me she’s just about ready to cum I stop and let her come back do for a second. I then build her back up to the point of no return, but before she does over the top I stop again. We both enjoy doing this. This isn’t some type of serious torture/denial play, but rather some light teasing as we both know where it would ends up.
After her second or third peak, she told me she was close. I stopped. Her breathing began to calm slightly then she grabbed at my pants. She told me, quite sternly I might add, to “take off your shorts and underwear. I’m not fucking around here. No games.” I’ve started to poke the sex bear that I loved messing with. As I took off my shorts my underwear followed along with.
Before I could reposition her to face me a bit better, she started stroking my cock. I’m not talking this, “underwhelming”, “okay, just gotta do this to get the motor running” kind of a stroke, but the stroke that I hadn’t felt in years. The last few times we have had sex our foreplay has gotten a bit more interesting. We have gotten a bit more comfortable with the whole “dominant” and “submissive” roles, without ever labeling each other. I’m more dominant usually, because she likes that and I aim to please. As I was saying, since the old days of our foreplay and handjobs and things, she has gotten a bit more experimental with her techniques. She will use two hands, in a twisting motion, go really fast, really slow and tight. Just barely grazing me around the head of my penis too. She’s fantastic. She deserves an award. She has been focused of the head of my penis more recently to which I have no complaints. The frenulum in particular. Again. No complaints. It’s an amazing area that I had never known could bring me so much pleasure with such minimal effort. So as she has her hand wrapped around my cock, she has been starting to thumb at my frenulum whilst jerking me off. It’s almost too much to handle.
Back to the other day. Like I said, this was no mediocre, low-effort handjob. We had been making out passionately and I had been working her vagina for about 15 minutes by this time. I was super horny and ready for my turn. Then she pulls out this type of enthusiasm? God damn woman. She is basically laying on her side almost turned away from me, but turned just enough that I can still get a few paws at her pussy and tits all while trying to count her teeth with my tongue. She starts working the length of my dick and says to me, “Wow! You sure are excited!” I knew what this meant. But playing dumb I ask what she means. “You know, you’re just…really…wet already.” I don’t normally have a ton of pre-cum. Some, not a lot. But pre-cum is still cum and therefore “gross”. Here comes the real shocker and surprise. As she says this she begins to play with the head of my penis and starts rubbing her finger over the hole. Pre-cum is now starting to coat her hands slightly and I can tell. Even in the dark.
She doesn’t really enjoy using lube or spit when giving me handjobs unless I ask for it. She would rather just use any lube that is on/in her vagina from me fingering her as lube for when we have sex. But will rarely lube up my cock by her own choosing when rubbing my dick. The handjobs she gives are not nearly as bad/dry as they sound. She’s honestly an artist.
So with my fully hard cock and her “pre-cum lubed” hands going to town, she starts rubbing my dick on her ass/thigh area as she jerks me off. Holy fuck. This is amazing. What’s happening? She knows what’s happening. She knows what she’s doing. She knows what’s coming out of my dick. And she sure as hell knows where she’s putting it. This goes on for several minutes. I approach my point of no return and tell her to stop so I don’t make even more of a mess, even though in the back of my mind I am praying to be the next version of Jackson Pollack and spray all of my cum over her fantastic ass and thighs. I’m a sucker for legs and ass and thighs. Thicc thighs save lives everybody.
After she hears me say I’m about to cum she tells me to get on top of her and fuck her. Me being the dumbass that I am, say no. I start fingering her again hoping to bring her to at least one orgasm as I know if I put my dick inside if her I will immediately start to cum. I start poking and prodding at her clit and finger her some more as I can tell she is beginning to climax. I hear her moans and yips as she starts to cum. The whole time I’m hoping she starts to jerk me off at the same time, but she does not. She doesn’t jerk me off. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. I’m not mad, but beginning to want to cum myself.
So as soon as I stop rubbing her clit and she has about 20% of her orgasm left, I start to fuck her. Yep. You’re lookin at the 8 pump chump here. Well, in all fairness, we did spend the last 30 or 40 minutes pleasuring each other. But still. It almost took more time to move and find a good position, so I could make my long and hard thursts into her just the way I like to. As I started to cum our moans filled the room. I kept pumping my cum as deep as I could into her as she begged me to keep going.
Then it was over. We caught our breaths and she made her way to the bathroom to release, what I could only imagine to be the flood gates from some type of sex filled fire hydrant. She walked back to our room and found me laying on the bed. I got up to go to the bathroom and clean myself up as well. I got into the room and we cuddled for a bit. I exhaled loudly and she asked what the matter was and I just responded with, “I’m empty babe. Totally empty” She had the look of her face as if she understood exactly what I was implying. She said that she was exhausted herself.
I’m really not sure what her look meant. Was she impressed my the amount of cum I had produced? Are women actually turned on by cum who aren’t porn stars getting paid to act that way? I wonder why she kept rubbing my cum draining cock on her legs as she was jerking me off even though she hates cum?
TL;DR (probably waaaaaay too long)
My wife has had a history of hating cum on the outside of her body. She has seemed significantly less grossed out by it in the last few weeks. She has no problem with me cumming (unprotected might I add) inside of her. I’ve mentioned her actions of rubbing my pre-cum on her ass and legs and she blushed and laughed it off saying that she though I liked it. Spoiler alert. I loved it.
How do I bring this up to her again without shaming her into being less grossed out by something she hated? I would love handjobs and the ability to cum outside of her. It’s actually a “fantasy”of mine.
Do some women actually not HATE men’s cum?
If anybody stuck around for any part of this, or even the whole thing, I really appreciate the time you took. So feel free to give me any type of feedback.
Cheers!
Oh, and if somehow my wife sees this, as she is on Reddit too, just probably not the NSFW side, you are just as much of a “closet dirty girl” as I expected.
You can’t generalize any sex’s fetish. Some women like cum, anal, PIV, long cunnilingus, and some are the opposite, and all mixtures.
But I will say I think of cum just as happy juice. Indifferent, more of a by-product. but I dated a couple guys whose cum smelled so strongly, so chlorine-y, you could smell it from across the room. I never wanted them to come in my mouth, on my, or really any where in the open for fear of a gag reflex. Just sayin