How my girlfriend made me a dominant [MF]

I have been lurking for a long time on this sub and I think it’s time to tell you a few stories of my own. To start with this is not a one-time tale of the best sex of my life, though I would like to write that too someday. So if you are looking to jerk off to a sex story this might not be a good choice.

At the time of this event, I lived in a small town in northern India and was working with an MNC as a consultant. I have grown up in a relatively small town in India and terms like domination, submission and bonding were never in my dictionary. Until I met this girl we’d call RT. RT was from Delhi and had taken a year off after her graduation to volunteer for a local NGO in the same town I was working at. This was in late 2015. We met socially at an event organized by my friend at his small-time café cum restaurant. She was a little on the chubbier side and had a very cute and innocent look on her face.

To cut the story short she asked for my number (I am an introvert and can never gather the guts to ask for a number from a girl) and we hit it off. We had been seeing each other for about two weeks when we had sex for the first time. She initiated it with a kiss that became a french kiss and which eventually had us naked in her bed within the next ten minutes or so. I am not very proud of my sexual beginning with her. I was inexperienced and it was vanilla, mostly in missionary and I could not cum most times from performance anxiety. I had dreamed of fucking so much and here when I was given this golden opportunity with the most understanding and caring girl I could not perform. I did eat her out and ensured that she came. That’s when I realized I loved eating pussy. But I realized that she wanted a lot more from our sexual relationship. Around this time we watched ‘50 Shades of Grey’ together and that changed my life. not a big fan of the movie but it started a conversation on BDSM between us. She told me she would like to be dominated like that. She wanted to feel like someone owned her and she was there to please them. I wasn’t sure if I had that in me as my confidence in sex was already down, she convinced me to try. I researched being a dominant and the results blew my mind away. I was amazed that people really did have submissives who liked being instructed by their masters and it got them off. People like to be peed on, was when I stopped looking for more data. Everything I read really turned me on.

So armed with all the confidence of a to-be dominant I tried to give her instructions. We decided a safe word and I am not embarrassed to tell you that the first few times I tried giving her instructions in bed she laughed like hell. For example- I had read about orgasm denial and I wanted to see if that worked. So here’s how it went:

Me: Do not cum.

RT: What? (followed by roaring laughter) We are still undressing. Get me worked up at least.

Me: Oh. Okay.

She told me that I should try saying it when we are having sex and she is getting close. Also, she said that I should try with smaller instructions first. “Ask me to suck your cock, ask me to swallow, ask me to beg for your cock in my pussy and don’t give it to me until I beg.” She had done her homework better than me since I know she had never tried it herself before. My mind was noting down everything. As I gave her the instructions that she asked me to give to her I started gaining confidence and started fucking her harder. I automatically started being a little rough on her as well. I smacked her ass hard and pulled her hair (had never done either before, she never used the safe word). I came really hard that day. She told me later that she loved it when I pulled back her hair. I have never had performance anxiety since that day even if I wasn’t dominating.

She loved being addressed as ‘My slave’ and didn’t like being called ‘My slut’. Some things we did together – tied her up and went out to meet friends, asked her to edge herself in the office, denied her orgasm for a week, asked her to send me shots of her pussy from the office washroom (all those times her pussy was visibly wet), made her ask permission for cumming and masturbating, fucked her in the ass, made her walk on all fours for a day and a lot of other things that we looked up on the internet. We also made a list of awards and punishments. Considering I live in India which is not a country known for sexual openness in such matters I think I have been very lucky to have had a partner like her.

She shifted back to Delhi after six months but not before teaching me so much more about BDSM. We tried to continue this even long distance but she didn’t want to anymore as it only made her horny and I wasn’t there to satisfy her. She got married in 2017.

This already has become a novel so I’ll stop. If she reads this she’ll definitely know who I am and that this is my profile. I know she’s on reddit and frankly, I think she’d be amused. We’re still in touch and that’s a story for another day. Tell me if you liked this and would like to know more. If you are drifting into dom-sub relationship with your partner and want the help of a guy who has learned it from square one, I’ll love to assist.

Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/ad8kqt/how_my_girlfriend_made_me_a_dominant_mf