Long time lurker here, not really sure how this story will be taken. I guess I am just trying to get this story out there and at the end try and get some advice as to where to go from here.
For obvious reasons this is a throwaway to protect those involved.
First off I suppose I had best describe the individuals involved: Jen is in her mid-thirties and is married to Jim. She is around 5’ 10”, fit, fake breasts that are in the 34 DD-ish range. Very talkative and outgoing. Not shy in the least bit.
Jim is in his late thirties to early forties, again, married to Jen. He is around 5’ 11”, extremely in shape. Much quieter than Jen. The two of them are active in the swinging lifestyle and are good friends of ours.
Rebecca is in her early twenties and we are dating. She is 5’ 6”, fit, 34DD, but are real as opposed to Jen. She has a cute ass that is perfect for her body, even though she would like it to be bigger. She is a bit shy until she gets comfortable and will be very open after that.
Me, I’m in my late twenties and have been dating Rebecca for some time now. I’m 5’ 10”, not in shape, but quite average, sometimes I wonder how I end up around all these in shape people. I am quiet and am usually the one who just takes it all in, even though I try and get into crazy and kinky situations with my gf.
Onto the story,
We have all be friends for a decent amount of time and have had a few experience out together and the girls have been together before, but that’s for another story if people want. We were out drinking at our local watering hole one late evening this past summer when the talk of going to a pool arose. Me and Rebecca love going to the neighbors pools in the area when invited and this was no exception. We all decided that we were going to go.
Three guys that had come to the bar were kind of interested in both the girls and wanted to come along. I, as usual, was a bit hesitant, but of course Jen being as outgoing as she is told them to come along. So I run to the store before we go and buy some beers to head out. It’s a great night weather wise, high seventies even with the sun down.
We all arrive at our friend’s pool, and I let them know that we would be swimming, and they told us to go ahead since they weren’t home anyways. I am usually prepared during the summer so I had swimsuits for me and the gf. Of course Jen, Jim, and the three other guys don’t, so what does Jen suggest? Skinny dipping of course. Now I am comfortable being naked around Jen and Jim but not around three guys I have just met, and the gf feels the same. Nonetheless, we all hop on in beer in hand.
For about an hour or so, we are all just having a good time in our own groups for the most part. The three guys are just hanging out at one end of the pool and the two couples on the other. We are all drinking and laughing telling stories when one of the guys gets bold and comes over and begins to hit on the girls. Rebecca isn’t really having it, she blows him off. Jen on the other hand loves the attention so she starts joking with him. Before I get to the next part, let me remind you again that Jen and Jim are fully active in the swinging lifestyle, and Jen is especially outgoing in initiating anything.
After another beer or so, the other two guys get out and hang out on the picnic table and have another beer. Jen swims over to the other end of the pool and the last guy still in the pool follows her. Jim, Rebecca, and I stay on our end of the pool knowing full well what is about to happen. We can hear a few audible grunts from the guy and the water splashing around a bit. From what we figure out, she started with a light hand job into full on blowing this guy. Me and the gf can tell that Jim is a bit agitated because Jen said nothing to him before embarking on her escapades. The guy must not have lasted long, because they shortly come back after what was only a matter of a few minutes.
Jen is now all amped up and ready for a full on fuck session with her husband. Rebecca being slightly intoxicated is also feeling the sexual tension and wants to dive right in between Jen’s legs. Rebecca whispers to Jen and Jim to come back to our place, and that we can all have fun. The one guy that had just finished with Jen seems to not get the hint, so we all just get out and begin to dry off to leave. The three guys finally take off in the opposite direction so we all hop in my truck and head towards the house.
Rebecca and Jen are in the backseat making out already, the sexual arousal was so thick you could cut it with a knife. Jim and I are just cheersing our beers and enjoying the show. We get to the house and all run upstairs, mind you Jen and Jim are wearing only a towel. We get upstairs and the booze is hitting us all, Jen the hardest of all. She starts to get sick and needs a trash can for a minute. The rest of us think well I guess that is going to end the night.
I get up to head to the bathroom as my gf comes out of the bedroom and tells me, fuck it, she still wants to have sex, and in front of the other couple nonetheless! I quickly use the facilities and come back in, she is rifling through our stash of porn and finds one of her favorite lesbian ones and puts it in the dvd player. It begins to play, Jen is still a bit coherent but hardly, Jim is rubbing her leg and me and the gf are holding onto each other as we take it all in. Within five minutes of two girls going at it on screen, Rebecca grabs me and gives me the ‘fuck me eyes’ I oblige as quickly as I can.
Pretty soon she is on top of me moaning and riding me hard and fast, we both look over and Jen has regained her composure and is now pulling Jim in to fuck her as she lies on her back. This is when things start to blur together. Me and the gf are getting hot and heavy and I’m fucking her really hard as the mood in the room is thrilling as hell. Rebecca reaches over constantly and grabs Jen’s tits and squeezes them. I’m feeling like I’m probably not going to last much longer when she whispers in my ear “want to switch?” now I’m thinking that she means switch up positions, doggy style is our favorite so I was more than eager to. She catches what my thought process is, and says “no, switch with Jim” I don’t have much time to think about it, and the intoxication is not helping. I don’t say anything and pull out of her.
Rebecca looks at Jen and Jim and says “switch”, no other words are exchanged, Rebecca lies on her back just like Jen and Jim and I switch places. I stare directly at Rebecca as I enter Jen, thoughts and emotions running out of control, I watch as Rebecca tells Jim to fuck her. I fuck Jen fast and hard, but I was already close so I don’t last much longer and pull out and cum all over Jen’s stomach. Jen is moaning and so is the gf, I motion to switch back, but when I get back to Rebecca, I see Jim has already cum on her too, but he proceeds to fuck his wife again. Rebecca gets upset that I came on Jen and not her and quickly runs out of the room.
I chase her and hold her tight and she asks me why I didn’t save it for her. I told her that I loved her and that at the point I couldn’t hold it in anymore but that I was staring at her the whole time. The booze and the situation that had just happened was making things a mess. It took me quite some time to calm her down about the situation. I have no idea how much time had gone by, but Jim is holding Jen up and tells us he had best get her home. I get Rebecca calmed down and we snuggle up and pass out.
The next morning was a bit awkward but I broke the ice and told her that I was sorry, and she says it’ll take her a bit of time but that she will be okay. She messages Jen and tells her that she had fun but isn’t sure that what had transpired the night before was for us. We hear back from them, Jen says it is no problem.
Since then we have not really ever brought up what happened with the exception of the next time we hung out with Jen and Jim, which went well, we all had a few laughs about it. I love my gf and I know she loves me. She is very insecure about herself, even though she is a 10, and that isn’t just me saying that because we are dating. Everyone around us tells her how gorgeous she is, and we have had lots of female friend’s that know she is bi come and approach her and tell her she is the best looking girl around. In her own eyes she thinks she is around a 5 or 6, and I blame that a lot on her really rough past, but we won’t get into that. I really haven’t given much thought into the swinging lifestyle since that night. I really don’t need another woman other than Rebecca to satisfy my needs, but I would love to have a threesome where just the girls get involved and me and the gf, and if it progresses to more, than that is just a bonus. I strongly encourage her to get involved with women whether I am there or not. We have since bought many more toys for girl on girl encounters. She has since played with a handful of girls and I have not gotten involved, I just love the thought of it and she usually tells me all about it later.
Where I am looking for advice is what has happened recently. Twice during sex we have had one of our favorite porns on and while we are having sex she will tell me to tell her how much I want to fuck the girl in the scene. Both times I have told her how I only have eyes for her and want to just be with her, although a small bit of me would want to fuck a porn star, what guy wouldn’t?? But she tells me that it is okay and she wants me to go into great detail of how I would fuck the girl on screen, I finally give in and tell her all the dirty things I would do, and she cums hard, like harder than most times. Both times her pussy clenched so hard onto me that I was just barely able to pull out and cum all over her chest. As much as I loved those two sessions, I don’t dare bring them up on my own, I would only want to do so again if she did, for fear of her getting upset and pissed off with me. AND then we have the last incident, where we were dirty texting back and forth which we do almost daily. She proceeds to send me a text saying, “I just got off to thinking about you fucking another girl while I’m kissing you. Why are my fantasies the exact opposite of what I want in real life?” So I try and skirt around the situation and ask her if she came hard. She said yes “really hard”. The she asks if it makes me horny. I tell her “I hope I was telling you how much I love you in the fantasy” and she says yes “your eyes were always on me and I loved when you pulled her hair hard, that made me excited” That night we had great sex but it wasn’t brought up again.
I want to know how to help make her fantasy a reality. Again I know this probably sounds cliché, but I really love my gf and am more than happy with her, but I wonder if progressing our sex life would make it even stronger, plus somewhere deep down I feel like she really wants her fantasy to come true. But I think that is has to be her idea and not mine, so I am trying not to push it, but I wish I had some ideas in order to let her know that I am okay with just about anything she fantasizes about. Is there anyone out there with some advice? Maybe women or couples who have been in this position before? I know that no everyone’s situation is the same but I am just looking for some advice. Maybe this is just a rant and that I should just leave it alone, but who knows, if it’ll make our sex life that much better, than our overall relationship will be that much better.
TL;DR Me and the gf had our first experiment with swinging, decided it wasn’t for us. Figured we would go back to what we knew best. Recently gf has been fantasizing about me with another woman and it turns her on but doesn’t think she would really want that in real life. I want it to be her idea and want things to progress but am no pushing it.
Thanks for reading, sorry for the length!!!
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/3mut2r/our_first_time_switching_mfmf
It sounds like you need to work through one of her fantasies in real life. If I was in your shoes, the next time she starts talking about another girl or a pornstar in the scene you’re watching; I’d say thing like "I’d love to have her eat your pussy while I get to kiss every inch of you" or something that keeps her as the center of the fantasy. You’re not focused on your pleasure but hers. More than that, maybe you should ask her to fill a fantasy of yours that’s not a threesome. Something just a little out of your normal sex life. Maybe lingerie, or a French Maid costume or tape yourselves and watch it the next time you have sex, since you like to have porn on. Just push the envelope a little. Then, since you "owe" her a fantasy, you can let her pick the one to live out. Also if you film yourselves you can say, "oh that girl in the movie is so sexy… the things I’d do to her…" She’s still the center of things, but you get to fuck her like a pornstar. I hope I gave you some ideas, OP, but even if mine are crap but they get you closer to a solution…. I want to share something that happened to me with a friend. I’ll be brief, she had a long distance BF while we were in college together, they hadn’t seen each other in months and she said she was horny. She called him and asked if she could fool around with me and his reply was "have fun baby." She’s bi and they have a more or less closed relationship, but they have enough love for each other that they knew that she just needed to have sex with a guy to get it out of her system and I was that guy. It sounds like you’re crazy for Rebecca and she knows it, but still feels a little insecure. So for a little bit she be the object of your desire and you’re there for her desires. Hope this helps OP
That sounds like a great idea. Thanks. I don’t know how else to let her know that she is the center of everything because I tell her but sometimes I feel like her own mind gets in the way and won’t let herself know that. As to your story, did everything turn out alright? Are all parties involved still friends? Thanks again for the advice, if you have anymore advice I am always open to it.
Yeah I understand your position. Especially if she she thinks she is a 5-6 and not the 10 that she really is. Just don’t over do it. Make her happy and don’t let on any ulterior motives. When you suggest fulfilling one of your fantasies, if she assumes that it is a threesome or another woman then I’d say something like," why do I need another woman when you… blank." Add a personal touch. As for my story we were friends afterward but have drifted apart. Her and I were at a community college together and he was at a 4 year. Now all of us are at 3 different 4 years so there is 0 communication with me, but her and her BF are still going strong.
So the other guy gets to come on her without saving it for his wife and she doesn’t say anything, but when you can’t hold it in and save it for her (something you guys didn’t even arrange beforehand that you had to do) she gets upset? She is a bit of a hypocrite. She is lucky to have you. I for one don’t like being cucked, even by another girl. Sharing another girl or a full swap is fine for me, but I don’t like being excluded from sex. I want my needs filled too because I have a high sex drive. If my girlfriend wanted tone with girls too, she would have to let me share or let me find another girl to have fun with. Your girl is very lucky you don’t mind her being with girls without you; you should probably remind her of that to help her open up. My current fiancée doesn’t swing, so I had to put that life behind me; I don’t have to worry anymore. Sometimes I miss it though with my first fiancée.
Just hopefully it didn’t strain your overall relationship and personal life too much. At least there was that open communication. I will definitely have to keep in mind that is always about her, which it ultimately is, thats why I allow her to be with women as much as she wants as long as she gets pleasured and comes home to me.
I’m just caught up on how to remind her that I allow her to do that, because it honestly makes me happy and turns me on to know that she is pleasured by a woman. I want her to be happy and turned on. And I guess the only reason the whole swapping thing has even crossed my mind is obviously after our first time and then now the fantasies she has been having. If you don’t mind me asking, how was the whole swinging lifestyle with your first fiance? Did it have any bearing on why you two are no longer together, if I may ask? Does your current fiance know about your previous lifestyle?
My first fiancée was lesbian before me. I think she always was, but she just loved me despite my gender. I helped her through a bad situation, and she asked me out when I was actually on my way to ask out her neighbor in our dorm. It’s funny how that worked out. I was her first man, but she was with MANY women before me. I didn’t want to be anything but monogamous, but she pressured me a bit over time that she wanted to be with women again and stay with me. I felt emasculated a bit a first because I felt like I wasn’t enough for her. Eventually, I opened up to allowing our poly third partner, a close friend of ours… We’ll call her Violet. Eventually I became ok with a couple other girls on rare occasions that were friends of ours. I was always involved, or I was with one girl while my first fiancée was with another. We had a spontaneous foursome with my first fiancée’s roommate and her fiancé. My first fiancé decided she didn’t want to try another guy ever again; she didn’t like the way he handled her. We split because of a lot of complicated stuff. I had to switch colleges. She got pregnant. She caused herself a miscarriage when she was 7 months pregnant with my daughter. There is a lot to it that I am not explaining, but it had nothing to do with our non monogamous lifestyle.
Sorry, I didn’t mean to bring up bad memories. I guess where it sounds like our situations are the same yet different, is that I really don’t get that emasculated feeling, but then again my gf wasn’t a lesbian, at least not that I know of, haha. She did tell me she was with a woman or two before me, but I also do know she had another guy before me, left him right before meeting me. It sounds like you are quite into the monogamous lifestyle, that your love for one is just that! Hope your current fiance and you live out a long and healthy marriage and life!! Thanks for your stories, and advice!