Hi! I’m starting writing erotica, but before publish my firt short story I would like to ask women some questions:
How does it feel an orgasm?
What are the sensations?
How reacts your body?
How can a man or yourself make you have an orgasm? For example: where do you need to feel the penis when being penetrated?
Where do you need to be stimulated (touched, licked, sucked, etc.) to have an orgasm?
What’s the best way a man can stimulate your clitoris (clit)?
How should be an orgasm to be qualified as intense (the bests you have had)?
What’s your prefered way of being stimulated for having an orgasm? For example: “I like when I’m being penetrated while I stimulate my clitoris with my fingers.” “I love when my man licks my pussy while stimulating my clitoris with his fingers.”
Is it obligatory to stimulate the clitoris to have an orgasm?
How many orgasms in average do you have when having sex and how much time do you have between orgasms?
What’s the biggest amount of orgasms you have had when having sex?
Do you usually have less orgasms when masturbating or the same?
The orgasms are more intense when having sex or masturbating?
If you masturbate, what are your favorite toys?
I know is a lot of questions, but feel free to answer the ones you want. I’m asking because one of the biggest complains of women readind erotica is when orgasms are described in a wrong way.
Source: reddit.com/r/eroticliterature/comments/7pztl3/about_female_orgasms
Wow, that’s a lot of questions!
And none of them have a clear answer. It’s like asking someone to describe the taste of vanilla ice cream. Personally, I love vanilla and could wax poetic about the creamy richness or almost cloying flavor. My wife hates it and her only reply would be a disapproving glare. Granted, when I first started writing erotica, I had many of the same types of questions, but realized that other people telling me what they like/feel/etc. is not as important as my ability to evoke arousal in the reader. Naturally, it’s easier to write descriptively, when we have experienced the thing we are writing about, but I doubt Tolkien has ever smelled a dragon, nor has Charlaine Harris met a vampire.
I like erotica and read quite a bit of it and that is what got me into writing it. It would be the author’s description of the action that would excite me, and so I began to emulate those phrases or scenarios that made my naughty bits tingle. So, while I will most likely never know what a woman’s orgasm would feel like, the intent of my writing is not to provide the most accurate description, but to describe it in a way that brings the reader excitement. It’s not the orgasm itself that is important, but its role in the story as a whole that creates arousal.
Certainly, a poor description is a turn off, but that applies to everything. How does it feel to be helpless, in hand cuffs? How does the ass cheek of a bratty step-daughter feel under the rough hand of a stern daddy? How does the musk of a shifter smell, as it claims, marks, its mate in a cool, moon lit forest? While the time honored advice is to look at some of the best sellers on Amazon and see how they do it, I am a huge fan of Literotica. One can sign up for free, mountains of free erotica, volunteer editors to help fledgling writers and a fairly forgiving community of readers. Except with their Taboo section. They have a very definitive idea of what they want Taboo to look like and god help you if you deviate. Not really, but one of my stories riled some readers up because it wasn’t taboo enough. That is how we learn, though. Good luck with your writing and have fun.