Im 24, Married and a Dad.
I work the typical 8 hours a day, 5 days a week, I wake up early, work around loud machinery, In hot factories doing alot of physical work, its exhausting and my muscles constantly ache. But everyones got to make a living somehow.
I come home from work, cook dinner for my wife, feed, bathe and put my daughter to bed. And spend what little time I have trying to relax.
My weekends arent much of a break either.
Lawns need to be mowed and the House needs to be maintained, and friends or family usually want to come over, its an endless cycle.
Once the necessities like groceries, rent and bills are paid for, I like to spoil my wife, dinner at a restaurant, expensive gifts, or a candle lit night at home with a movie.
Romantically and Emotionally its almost perfect.
Almost.
When it comes to sex, we are two completely different people.
My wife is fairly vanilla, shes not big on foreplay, doesnt care for massages, and when it comes to sex, its fairly basic, ontop of that, she has an extremely low sex drive.
So we may only be intimate once a month or two, perhaps even more.
For her she is satisfied, content, she doesnt think about sex or crave it.
But thats the problem… I am a sex addict.
Sex helps me relax, it reduces my stress levels and helps me calm down, it helps me sleep.
So Its always on my mind.
I can flirt, I can give her a massage, a candle lit dinner with dessert and a movie, give her my wallet and let her run rampant. I do what i can to keep her happy, and she is truely happy.
Ive spoken to my wife about it, let her know how I feel but she simply states that if she isnt in the mood, then she isnt in the mood. Its not something I can change.
Ive bought her toys in an attempt to spice things up in the bedroom, tried to introduce her to some of my kinks, and even sat down and just spoken with her. But nothing seems to work.
So what is a husband supposed to do?
Some would say a loyal husband should suck it up, use his hands and watch porn…
I could, but to that i say, Ive been watching porn since i was a kid, I was an Adult toy tester and reviewer so Ive got plenty of toys if I wanted them, but nothing will ever beat the real thing, nothing beats real physical contact…
Some of you might not agree with it, some of you might even absolutely despise the idea of it, but I am a cheater… I have been for a long time.
But as weird as it sounds, my relationship wouldnt have lasted anywhere near as long as it has if I didnt give into my desires every once in a while.
My wife is happy, I make sure all her needs are cared for. I always prioritise Sex with my wife, it doesnt happen often, but when it does, its always passionate and its romantic. I put her first and always make sure she is satisfied.
But in those large gaps between our more intimate moments, I cant afford to be stressed or fustrated, So I need to take care of my own needs and desires, I explore my kinks, and let loose.
The people I meet are a means to an end, they know no emotion is involved, its not romantic and there is no diamond ring at the end of the road.
Its only about the sex.
Kinky, dirty, primal desires, the kind of things I cant do with my wife.
anywhere and at any time. The kind of sex that leaves you breathing heavily, sweating profusely covered in eachothers cum, rough sex, dirty sex, kinky sex
Ropes and handcuffs, blindfolds and toys.
biting, scratching, hair pulling, spanking and choking. Where safewords arent never muttered and where limits are few and far between. There is no judgement, because we know we are just using eachother to fullfil a need.
Ive been a cheater for years, and i dont think id ever stop 😉🤫
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/11amgzs/m_picturesque_family_man_with_secrets