This is kind of a therapy/kink thing for me, and I’m living sort of a secret life. I can’t talk to very many people about this stuff. My wife doesn’t like the gory details, even though we’re in an open marriage.
After my first fling came/went, I was well on my way to my 2nd 3rd 4th woman. My confidence was high after my first one. I was ready to up the bar a little. The 2nd woman I matched with who was willing to meet in person was Nurse Jackie (NJ). She was a married woman who was 45 and living with a high libido and a dead bedroom. She basically said that she got the thumbs up from her husband after she gave him the ultimatum: start putting out, or let me go do my thing, or I’m leaving you. He let her go do her thing.
After exchanging pleasantries via dating app, we decided to meet at an indoor rock climbing place for a first date. She showed up late, her typical fashion. 2 min into meeting her for the first time in person, she stated talking about how she owned a strap on rig and couldn’t find anyone to use it on. Now, I don’t want to get anyone too excited, she never did use it on me, although I entertained the idea…we just didn’t develop our relationship to the point that I felt comfortable with that sort of thing. I AM into pegging, and my wife has certainly done the deed with me, but that’s another story. I feel 100% comfortable with her, so I ask her to put stuff in my ass. I just met NJ 3 min ago, and she’s basically asking me if she can fuck my ass with a strap on. HA!!
The first date goes well. We keep our clothes on…its sort of my policy to do so now. We can bang on the 2nd date, but I just like to present myself as more of a gentleman. Takes a lot of the pressure off.
The 2-6th date we basically got into a stride where we would find something fun to do, maybe a bike ride, or get a hotel room with a pool/hot tub. Maybe go out for dinner. But we’d always fuck. That at the end of the day is basically what we were both after. We kind of kept an arms length from each other emotionally.
She had this rockin’ body. It was basically built for sex. Her tits were so big and perky they looked fake. Her ass was perfectly round. She was very curvy in the right places. She was also a total slut. She showed up to our dates with a bag of sex toys. She basically traveled with them all the time from what I could tell. She always wore lacy/sexy bras and underwear. And her butt plug. It was huge. She would put it in with ease. She’d be standing there, right in front of me, talking about work, and pull it out of her bag, put it in her mouth to lube it up, and just plow it right in, no problem, without missing a beat or breaking a sentence. Then we’d fuck.
The sex wasn’t anything all that special. The lack of emotion kind of ruined it for me. But it was fun and interesting. “No” wasn’t really in her vocabulary. I didn’t really take full advantage of this, because I never really got fully comfortable with her. She was multi-orgasmic, and when we had sex, she would cum like 10-15x. Then, after feeling really good about myself, she’d ground me by saying 20-30x in a session is not unheard of. She never tapped out. I’d get tired and be done. She would go as long as I could handle it.
She loved to take pics. She sent me nude photos like every other day for months straight. I assumed she was sending the same ones to 10 other guys. I wasn’t special or anything. I did get to take pics of her a couple times at her request. She asked me to capture me cumming on her face, a new one for her, which I happily obliged.
We had some good times when I could keep up. I’d stand in front of her, and grab her head and just fuck her mouth as hard as I wanted. I’d put her on her knees and bury my face into her ass crack. She loved it all. I’d fuck her as hard as I could for as long as I could and she’d look at me and say “you know you can do that harder if you want, right?” I never felt I was giving her what she wanted, despite making her cum 10 times in a half hour. It was weird. I never did fuck her in the ass. I’m confident she would have let me. I kind of wanted to, I just never got comfortable enough around her. I would do stuff like finger her ass while she was riding me, and she seemed to enjoy it, but never took it futher than that. She was a sub, so she never really asked for much. I kind of just did what I wanted to her and she took it.
I also wanted to get into group stuff with her. She was doing as much with other people. My wife and I have an agreement that we are not getting into group stuff, so I’m not asking around, but NJ would have fucked me and 4 other guys at the same time if I set it up. Maybe some day I’ll be that guy, but not today. NJ had this way about her. I couldn’t put my finger on it. She just seemed distant. I never felt like I was good enough for her.
My wife was particularly intimidated by NJ. She saw pics…I showed her. I kept trying to tell her I wasn’t into her the way she thought I was. It was just sex. But she let it bother her more than she should have. After we broke up, I told my wife, “see…I told ya this wasn’t serious!”
It kind of just faded out. I was spending my time trying to find women who I was more into. She wasn’t really putting much effort into hanging out. I texted her after about 6 weeks of silence and told her I was hanging out with some other people and didn’t have a lot of time to get together. She didn’t seem to care, and we parted ways amicably. I could probably text her right now and get together with her. She was always down to fuck.
I walked away from that relationship even more confident. I learned a lot from her about how to hit on women. How to get them naked. Believe it or not, this is still new to me. Being monogamous for so long. I never really learned how to hit on women, since I hooked up with my wife when we were 19. She’s in the same boat. Going on dates with random guys, having sex with them. Our stories aren’t much different. She’s grown a lot in the last year as well. She as confident as ever. Guys are throwing themselves at her. I’m reaping the benefits from that. A confident wife is a sexy wife. Our marriage is stronger than ever, and we are super hot for each other. Hopefully we can hold it together, because being open is pretty hard to deal with sometimes.
Source: reddit.com/r/eroticliterature/comments/z7ty9h/open_marriage_adventures_from_the_male_half