Several years ago, when I first started exploring ethical non-monogamy, I downloaded OKCupid to check out the dating scene (something I’d never before had the chance to explore). I remember seeing this absolutely stunning woman on the app – gorgeous smile, nose ring, tattoos – and she seemed to be charmingly goofy on top of that, so I eagerly swiped right and just agonized over writing the perfect intro message. I can’t remember what I wrote, but I’m sure it was a little cringy. Anyway, she didn’t swipe back, I went on with my life, met new people, fell in love, made mistakes, learned a lot about myself and completely forgot about her.
Until a few months ago. Through mutual friends, we met at a small party. I immediately recognized her, but it took me a minute to realize from where. We started talking, we hit it off, and I texted her later asking if she’d be down to get coffee sometime. And she said yes!! I couldn’t believe it. I didn’t tell her that I recognized her from OKC years ago…
We went on some dates and got along great, totally on the same wavelength when it came to humor and values and what we were looking for in new connections (we both seemed to be interested in a FWB situation). We even talked about dating apps, and she mentioned she tried OKC some time ago but didn’t have much luck there… I thought about saying something but I just kinda commiserated instead! After a couple of dates we both had some external stresses and chaotic schedules for a while, and we weren’t able to see each other for over a month. Until last night.
I invited her over for dinner. We talked about expectations beforehand; I was mostly interested in cooking with her and catching up, but also very eager to make out with her and explore our physical connection. And while I didn’t expect things to go further than that, I was comfortable with more if the vibe was right. She was very much on the same page as me, and just in case, we exchanged our respective recent STD test results (all clear). I was so beyond excited, and still genuinely expected this to just be a make-out date.
Dinner was excellent, conversation was bubbling, and after a few drinks, we started making out on the couch. Oh my god. We had kissed a couple of times before, but they were quick and semi-public and nothing like this. We were completely in tune with each other, and both just immediately turned on. We moved to the bedroom, kissing and groping, but also cracking jokes and making each other laugh; we were both just so giddy! Clothes began to come off, and we kept eagerly escalating, confirming enthusiastic consent at each step of the way. We had glorious, slightly awkward, first-time sex. It seemed almost like a dream!
She went home way later than she’d originally intended to, and we’ve made tentative plans to do this again. I’m still glowing… and I’m still not sure if or when I’ll tell her that we had that missed connection on OKC years ago!
And as a nice bonus: I got to brag about it to my other partners :)))
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/ufjtzw/mf_just_slept_with_a_gorgeous_woman_who_i_swiped
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