For a little background, we’ve been married over 10 years, sex life is meh, stagnant, at times non-existent. Maybe once a month. Other priorities for her these days it seems.
For Christmas I tried spicing it up with a bunch of private stocking stuffers for her. Things we’ve never really used before. A vibrating cock ring, an 8 inch realistic vibrating dildo, plugs, some flavored lubes, and so forth. At first she was a little put off by it I suspect and said we aren’t using these. Honestly, the answer I suspected, but hey shoot my shot, right?
Until last night. She was clearly in the mood, it had been 6 weeks since we did anything, so we were due. While I tended to the kids to get them to sleep, I took out the stuff and told her to pick out what she wants to use tonight. Fast forward to later on, I finally join her and she says she surprised at how realistic the dildo feels in her hand and she’d be interested in at least trying that. Bingo!
We get into our usual foreplay by me going down on her and I start using it on her. I should say this toy is obviously bigger than me. I’m an average 6 inches, and this toy is 8. She’s not used to this size at all and it takes a while for her to truly take it. But fuck, was she into it. I can’t remember the last time she was moaning and groaning, thrusting into the toy like this with me, if ever.
At this point, I want some too, of course. So I take the toy out and slide up to fuck. But no, she stops me and says please make me cum with the toy, she’s “never felt this good” (words I will never forget). I plead my case about wanting some too, it’s been a while, but she clearly wants the toy. And heck it’s pretty hot so why not, I’ll get mine later I think.
So back to the toy with me giving her oral at the same time. She gets to cumming, and cumming hard. Body shaking and moaning like I’ve never seen from her. I stop and let up because she’s normally the cum and done type because she gets too sensitive. But no, she says “keep going,” and not long after she cums again with a deep groan. This time she’s done and tells me to stop. I have never made her cum back to back like that before.
I jump up to kiss and cuddle and rub my cock all over her because I’m dying for anything, and she tells me she’s spent, tired, and needs a break. “We’ll take care of you tomorrow.” And that’s that we don’t speak more of it. I was fine with it because man, that was incredible. Best “sex” I’ve had in ages, despite not getting much of any direct attention myself.
And of course today came and went and not a hint of any desire to help me, and here I am tonight perusing reddit to get myself off while she’s asleep. I keep thinking my wife cucked me with a toy I bought for her, and I liked it because she got pleasure she’s never had before and it was just a really hot situation all around.
I guess I sort of got cucked and liked it?
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/rtavan/i_think_my_wife_cucked_me_with_a_toy_mf
Lol
That’s really hot.
Sorry Bro, your wife isn’t attracted to you any longer and doesn’t value you as a sexual partner. She’s indifferent, because if it mattered to her, she would find a way to be a contributing sexual partner with you. Indifference is the worst. I know, because I’ve been through nearly the same thing you describe.
Time to focus on your happiness and stop pursuing her sexually. Get yourself fit and happy, put down the phone, turn off the TV, hit the gym, learn some new skills, read some books, start a new hobby, play a coed team sport, do some manly shit, be interesting as a person. Put lots of effort into the kids and family and being a solid partner for her emotionally, communicating and contributing chores/errands, a hug each morning, but nothing sexually. Become attractive to women overall, get a new haircut, upgrade your grooming and clothing a bit, be the DILF on the block. In short, be the attractive, charming, contributing, caring guy that she wants to fuck but isn’t available for her to have sex with.
Either she’ll take notice, realize what she has and her desire for you will rekindle or it won’t. But simping after her or throwing toys at the issue, just makes you less attractive. Right now, your sexual connection and orgasms are just another chore on her list, below vacuuming in her priorities. Wish you a better 2022.
Talk to her about it. Tell her how much you enjoyed seeing her get off and how much you liked doing it but how you felt left out of the action bc you really didn’t get any. Mixing things up and adding toys into the mix can be really fun and help jumpstart a sex life again. Talk to her.
You two need to desperately work on communication. That’s 100% of your problem.
Go for a drive with her somewhere nice. Make it a long drive. Ask her all these questions outright. You two will be trapped, and not have to look each other in the eye while opening up about things. Tell her how you feel. How that night made you feel. How it was hot but sucked because you wanted to reclaim her after. Ask her how she felt. How you two could do it better next time. The best and easiest way to improve your sex life is communication. Seems you two have none.
I am not shocked at all that you bring sex toys into bed for the first time and she’s super super excited. That is always exciting. That’s why she got off so quickly. Not the size of the dildo, but simply new sex toys, new play. You actually made that happen for her.
Lol never get married
This is a really hot read and relatable. Using a larger realistic dildo is the closest I’ll ever get with sharing her. Seeing how she reacts to it is amazing.
Well. You’d better hide it because she’ll start using it alone and never have the need or desire for you again. Or she’ll begin to wonder what a real dick that size or larger feels like & pursue someone outside the marriage & end up in a truly cuck relationship or worse.
If she got off like that w you working the toy I bet she’d get off much better when she uses it alone & gets it tuned in to exactly how good it can feel.
Wife & I have toys & we use them together when we use them. She’s never refused me like that. This may not sound that bad on the surface but if y’all went over a month w o any sex then you made her cum more times, harder & longer than ever w the toy (“never felt so good”) then she flat out refused you & left you hard , horny & ready that’s an issue. She didn’t give you a second thought & went to sleep w an empty promise that she never went through with.
As I said it might be worth it to hide the thing or else she’ll have alone time often & you’ll never know about & then you’ll end up in a sexless marriage before you know it. If you hide it at least she’ll have to ask for it & you can somewhat be a part of her sex time or at least know about it & watch, maybe help again. Or he’ll she may buy her own w o your knowledge & have alone time w it. When we open these sexual boxes we better be prepared for the consequences that come w them. Majority of the time it’s a good thing. I think this time w your wife it might have been a mistake.
I feel for you. Best of luck