**Intro:**
I have had a lot of quick and orgasm-focused handjobs for guys with the goal of making him ejaculate as quickly as possible to relieve him from his arousal. There can be a lot of circumstances for them. For example you’d be at the swimming pool and don’t want him to be clingy because of his arousal, or you’re less in the mood but still want to help him out. A quick, efficient handjob can be both fun and convenient!
I have started writing these experiences down, this is the third example, you can find the first, [about a quick handjob during studying here](https://www.reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/pfipbh/when_hes_distracted_by_his_arousal_during/) and the second, [about a quick handjob before swimming here](https://www.reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/pjzgue/when_his_arousal_annoys_me_at_the_swimming_pool/).
**Experience:**
Before I met my current boyfriend every once in a while I had a bad date. Often enough it wasn’t that I really disliked the guy, often he was friendly enough, it just was so that I knew it would lead to nowhere (not interesting long term). Call me old fashioned but when a guy pays for everything during a date and he is friendly and it’s just me who’s not really into him, I’d still like to thank him for a nice paid for night out.
I know for a lot of girls that can come in the form of a kiss on the cheeks but like I said earlier, I always was really easy with handjobs, it just didn’t have the same weight for me as it does for most others. It wasn’t so that this happened so often (I didn’t go on dates that often) but every once in a while I met a guy that ended up to be a great friend. We went for dinner, sometimes followed by a movie or something like that, and we ended for a drink at his place or he drove me home and ended in the car and then came that awkward moment.
I had a bit of a promiscuous reputation (which wasn’t fully true as I didn’t have sex that often although I didn’t mind doing other sexual stuff) so some guys had the hope for sex while others were too nice for that. I knew I could just go and send them a message the day after but in the end I already knew it and I didn’t want to disappoint anyone (which is one of my flaws). So in the end I opted to always tell them right then and there if I knew it and tried to be as nice about it as possible.
The conversation usually went a bit like this: “I really think you’re friendly but I’m afraid it’s not going to work out. I like you but just not enough in that way. I know it’s shitty to hear this and I’m still really thankful for the nice night out, so can I help you out?” They often were a bit puzzled and I like to be direct and explicit so I bluntly asked if they would like it if I would jerk them off. I never got a no in response to that question.
I really like giving handjobs and it helps that I’m good at it. I like the feeling of control when I have his penis in my hand and I like how I can make it feel great for him with an act that is generally considered one of the lesser sexual acts. So when his pants are down, either through me or through him, I slowly and loosely have my hand around his penis and only slowly up the tempo and the grip. Ironically slowly starting up makes for a faster guy. I’m quite talkative, both outside the bedroom as inside, so I like to encourage them a bit. Usually only a few minutes later he ejaculates in my hand, I clean myself up and thank him for the date.
Usually it ends there. Some would call it a pity handjob and some would think that’s the worst. I like to think about it as a consolation handjob. I don’t exactly do it out of pity and I put energy in it to make it as nice as I can (I’m quite talkative and I know what I’m doing which tend to help) and to me they are never negative about it. I think most that think so badly about it, are the ones who can afford to do so.
Then again, to be honest, the first date with my boyfriend ended the same way with a consolation handjob but we kept talking and in the end got together anyhow. What helped was that he was praising it so much even at a much later date that I got intrigued, which lead to further talks and in the end our relationship. So a consolation handjob isn’t so bad! It’s fun and it can lead to great things.
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/qfvdwb/when_a_bad_date_ends_in_a_consolation_handjob_why
Great story!
My wife gives me handjobs like that sometimes. She doesn’t have the energy for a full blown sexual encounter or doesn’t wanna have to clean up too much. I’m not complaining. It gets the job done in between longer, more sensual sessions.
She’s a little shy with the talking though. What do you say that you’ve found is helpful? Only if you’re okay with sharing it.
Omg I’ve read all your stories and I must say, they are incredibly hot. There’s something insanely erotic about the methodical, matter of fact to handjobs thst you have.
That’s a hot as hell! Much better than getting ghosted. Lol