My [M] partner [F] shares NSFW photo with friends – unsure how to react

Apologies if this is the wrong subreddit to post this on – have been looking for some time for a place to ask advice on this and this place seems to fit.

So I’ve been with my partner for some time, and we’ve been part of the same group of friends for longer. We have a fairly open group and do tend to talk about sex quite freely which is fine. I have a friend, let’s call him Jeff. Jeff has been attracted to my partner in the past before we were together (only sexually though) – he flirts with her but it’s all in good spirit and we all know that’s all it is. Jeff has recently started seeing a girl outside our group and feels the need to overcompensate by acting like he’s never been attracted to my girl whatsoever. One way he’s been doing this is repeatedly saying my partner is flat chested, which is laughable given she’s busty for her size and he’s commented as much in the past.

We have a group chat with 7 people, 4 boys and 3 girls, including everyone mentioned above. All close people, everyone we trust. An idea of the level of openness we have here – someone might send a selfie from the bath but with nothing naughty visible, or one of the girls might ask for an opinion on a bikini. So it’s open but not sexual (most people in the group have seen eachother in their underwear at some point)

Back to the matter at hand, my friend has once again mentioned my partner being flat chested to which everyone present is telling him he’s being ridiculous. My partner, losing her patience a bit, asks me if I’m okay for her to prove it and put the whole thing to bed. I say yes, expecting her to send a picture in her bra or something with a ton of cleavage – that wouldn’t bother me. To everyone’s surprise, she sends a picture of herself completely naked, practically full frontal (whilst nothing was technically visible except her tits, it’s very clear from the image she’s not wearing knickers either). I couldn’t believe it. Everyone sort of politely complimented her and we moved on like it was nothing.

I can’t decide if I’m angry about this or not. I feel like I should be but at the same time I can’t quite make myself angry about it. It didn’t seem a big deal to anyone and part of me even sort of liked it. Very confused and looking for advice.

TLDR: my girlfriend sent a picture of her tits to our friends to prove a point, not sure how to process

Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/np0arq/my_m_partner_f_shares_nsfw_photo_with_friends

8 comments

  1. It kind of depends on the photo itself. Is she properly posing like she’s showing off or is it just casual?

  2. It happened. Live with it and move on. Be proud of your girl standing up for herself.

    If need be, have a talk with her about your feelings regarding this. However, bear in mind she might have already moved on and consider what outcome you expect.

    Done is done.

  3. relax bro they’re just tits. He was calling her out and she called his bluff. Good on her. Millions of people have seen my wifes tits. Doesn’t bother me a bit. They’re pretty nice ones :)

  4. I wouldn’t be cool with it. I don’t know why she got so upset when she clearly knew that they were egging her on just to hopefully get a pic of her.

  5. I think it was wrong to post this picture, but nothing to argue about. It happens all the time that people misunderstand each other. So talk with each other about it. Tell her it was not okay, but do not argue about it. I think it is not worth the hassle, not worth the pain.
    Still I am curious what the picture looked like, especially whether it was very sexual in nature or not. But that’s just me, a curious gal :D

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