Me and my boyfriend are new to swinging and we’ve actually never had sex with another couple. Its a big step we’re trying to take but we wanted it to be with the right people. So we went to a couple swinger subreddits and we chatted with a couple who wanted to make a date with it us. We all agreed it would be fun to go to a nude beach, something I’ve never done. Both me and my bf were nervous as hell but we went through with it.
So the weekend came and we headed out to red rock beach to meet the couple! We pulled up and waited about 20 minutes before they got there after us. They were older than us but they were legit! The guy looked great for his age and his wife was okay. We talked in the parking lot getting our stuff together and I was so nervous.
We headed out to the sand and got a nice spot close by the water. I laid down on my towel and the couple sat behind us. I noticed the guy angled himself perfectly behind me, this made me feel kind of uncomfortable but I got over it. We chatted for a bit and then a problem came up. We were joking about whos getting naked first and the guys wife said she didn’t want to get naked. The look on my boyfriends face was full of disappointment and he got really quiet after that.
I figured no big deal, its her body. But I really wanted to get naked. The guy behind me hyped me up and kept saying “take it off!” I could see my boyfriend getting angry. I asked him aside if everythings okay and he said he didn’t want me to get naked since she wont. I got pretty pissed after that because he was telling me what to do in an aggressive way. He was saying the guy were with is a perv. I thought they were nudists so I ignored him.
I walked back to the towel and dropped my bikini and laid down to tan. The guy behind me started hitting on me and then he saw my butt plug and things got crazy.. My boyfriend blew up and started bitching at me about being a slut for wearing a plug but he doesn’t own me, I can do whatever I want. He left after that and I was just sitting there with the couple. Things got so awkward after that because we stopped talking.
About 5 more minutes went by and I started feeling revealed because it just all hit me.. I’m laying infront of strangers with my legs open and an ass plug in.. I remember what they were saying an hour ago about how theyre nudists and its normal for them. That made me feel a bit better. So the guy asked if I needed any sunscreen, which I forgot to put on. I thanked him for reminding me and he asked if I wanted him to put it on my back.
This is where I started thinking my boyfriend was right about them being pervs.. because he got right behind me and had his legs between mine while he put the sun screen on. When he reached to my shoulders I could feel something poking my ass and I knew it wasn’t his hand because the were on my shoulders… he moved his hands down fast and started putting sun screen on my butt.
Honestly it didn’t feel all that bad, almost like a massage. I was enjoying it until I felt him tugging on my butt plug… wtf… I asked what he was doing and he said it was falling out. He completely yanked the plug out and held my cheeks apart. I kinda just let it happen because I didn’t know how to react. He put the plug back in and pulled it out again and kept doing that until I asked him to stop. Thing got really awkward after that and they took me home and told me to give them a call when were ready.
When I got home I didn’t talk to my bf but after a few days we made up. I’m debating on telling him what happened at the beach because I know thats just a whole nother fight.
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/k0mmbh/fm_boyfriend_got_jealous_when_we_went_to_a_nude
Ummm you went to a nude beach with a swinger couple. I’m not sure what you thought was supposed to happen?
This may be a r/askredditafterdark kinda thing? If you’re looking for advice I’d say that neither of you are ready for swinging. He’s not ready because he shouldn’t care what the other people are doing and should be there as **your** partner, if the swinger lady wanted to stay clothed that is on her and bf should be supportive of what you want to do. You (to a lesser extent) aren’t ready because you should set the boundaries because swinging should be a comfortable environment for everyone, and swinger guy should have asked permission before playing with your plug.
Btw if he’s jealous now cuz he didn’t get to control the scene at the beach, he’s going to lose if you’re actually with some other dude. Sounds like he likes the idea of getting to fuck other women, but not letting you do the same.
Was the other guy naked? If they are nudists and they sey it’s natural to them why didn’t she undress? Something’s sketchy about all that.
I say your boyfriend was right. Something was wrong with this couple, perhaps it’s just him who’s the swinger, not her, she just tags along when he goes to score someone. To bad you guys met strange people on your first swinging attempt.
You said you were very nervous bear in mind your boyfriend was probably feeling very same. When he talk to you about you not getting naked he was hoping you’ll just cooperate, he wanted you two to act as you together decide on everything, his aggressive way of saying that was caused by him being nervous and afraid you’ll stand agains him. He was feeling insecure about the situation and hoped you’ll support each other.
Have you two been to the nude beach before, or was it you first visit there? If not then you should do that before attemting to mix that with another emotional stuff, such as meeting another couple.
Please, do not think I’m totally defending him in a sexist way. I find it incredibly hot that you had this plug inside you and that you wanted to get naked so badly, but I do believe his opinion on the situation was… maybe not exactly better, but definitely safer and more reasonable than yours.
He definitely did wrong by leaving you there, he should not do that. At the same time tho, what could he do? Force you to go back? Start arguing with you more than just bitching about? As you said: he does not own you, but you together decided to go for such meeting. People you met made him feel uneasy, they creepied him out, just as they did to you too some time later.
If you care about stranger’s opinion then I say you talk to him first, apologize, do NOT go into details related to sun filter or butt plug but agree that the guy was a creep. Your bf will bitch about all that for some time but it’s gonna be better after that.
If you guys want to become swingers you both really need to support each other, you need to trust each other more and you need to care about opinion of each other more.
Good luck on your further attempts!
People who swing need to be in agreement with each for what’s ok and what isn’t BEFORE you are doing it. Neither of you handled that well. You aren’t ready.
You guys need to talk. A lot. Don’t bother telling him about the specifics of what happened, but be honest about your assessment of the people involved. And ask for his assessment. What was good and what was bad about about this encounter for each of you. Listen to each other. Learn more about each other.
Swingers need to have a strong relationship. Jealousy can easily surface. First and foremost is to respect each other’s feelings. If you don’t do that, swinging will end your relationship.
Swinging ain’t for pussies!