A few years ago, I met this girl – “Hannah” – on, of all places, reddit. I post on r/LadybonersGW from time to time (different account) and she liked what she saw. I am significantly older, which she’s also into. I’m 41 now and she is 25. Turns out, we don’t live too far apart. After a while, we hooked up and actually started dating. (PSA: I do not recommend reddit as a dating site, btw, even though it worked for us.)
As things got more serious, and we actually started talking about getting married, we had to figure something out: how to make our particular sexual fetishes sustainable in our relationship. Specifically, I’m pretty dominant, and Hannah is extremely *sexually* submissive to me. It turns her on, and just suits her better, for me to take the lead in almost all things. But she wasn’t sure how she felt about a marriage based on a big power differential like that, long-term. Frankly, neither did I. Didn’t seem sustainable.
And then she proposed something that would kinda balance the scales: what if I “owned” her body, in the way we both liked sexually, but she owned all of the money in our relationship?
By all the money, I mean – all of it. The mortgage – in her name. Our credit cards are in mine, so I’m liable, but she keeps them all. My salary goes to a bank account she controls. I get an “allowance.” 401s, IRA – all in her name. (She also happens to be a certified financial planner as a part-time thing, so she is quite good at all of this.)
In return, I own her body. I get to dictate pretty much whatever she wears. How she does her hair and makeup. How she shaves herself. (I got her laser hair removal.) She is mine to use sexually however I please.
We got married in early 2019. And this… has worked well!
For two weeks earlier this year, she was not allowed to wear any more but a thong, skintight cami and, on occasion, heels around our house. She gave me a long, sloppy, messy blowjob each morning while I was working in my office. I sometimes will give her a butt plug to wear for the day. One of my favorite things to do is order her to fuck herself doggy style against a suction dildo against our bedroom wall so I can watch. It’s incredibly hot. Sometimes I’ll kneel down so she can suck my cock at the same time.
Before the plague took over, we would go out occasionally with her dolled up like a stripper. She turns a lot of heads. She gave me a handjob in the middle of a Ruths Chris last year like that.
I have taken video clips and posted them before, which is a lot of fun. It’s entirely up to me. When she gets pregnant – we’re planning later this year – I can’t wait to take a lot more pics. I think she’ll look incredibly hot with a bump.
I think this arrangement works because, with all the power I have over her physically, she holds at least as much over me financially. I signed over pretty much everything into her name with an attorney. She says it made her feel safer, which in turn has made her totally uninhibited.
I know a ton of guys – and gals – who are into this. I strongly recommend it. Just remember, you gotta balance the scales to create trust. If it works, though – it works!
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/hyxwie/how_my_wife_and_i_arranged_our_ageinappropriate
Um, be aware that the “control her body” side has no legal standing but the “controls your money” side DOES. Depending on your state, you may still be entitled to some of it in case of divorce, but in others you may lose everything. That would be especially significant if you came into the relationship with highly different levels of assets, as is likely with a big age difference. If she phases out of liking the sexual submission, you could face a rough road renegotiating. I’d suggest that anyone considering this kind of thing consult their own attorney alone, without your partner, to be sure you fully understand the scope and long term implications of what you’re discussing.
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