Hallo again! I wanted to write more but dont have time for a full story. But I have had several people ask about my toys and toy chest that I mentioned in my groceries story.
If there is one topic that I have the knowledge and passion to get on a soap box about, it is sex toys. Lady readers, I can not think of a more empowering symbol of feminism than proudly owning and loving your own collection of toys!
When I worked at a bank in uni there were several older ladies who worked as tellers (60s and 70s age). I will never forget what one of them, Rosanne, told me:
“You only get one body, take good and careful care of it. You only get one body, enjoy the hell out of it.”
Sex toys are about using our brains to help enjoy and celebrate the amazing things our bodies can feel and do. As long as you are taking good and careful care, enjoy the fuck out of it!
So what do I have in my chest? First, let me start with the container. As I explained in my “how I met my husband” story, I first kept my toys in a lockbox. But it wasn’t very big. And my collection isn’t exactly small. So around when I moved into our current place, I was looking for a good replacement. I found an old small piece of luggage that we never use. (My husband does not belive in the concept of hard luggage, or checking luggage of any kind) it was the perfect size. It has a built in combination lock without looking at all suspicious, and best of all: POCKETS!
inside my travel luggage toy chest are the following:
Myss, the original vibrator I got with dong Kong. She is very old now and her battery pack has seen better days [ALWAYS REMOVE BATTERIES BEFORE STORAGE]. But I love her and cannot get rid of her.
The rechargeable bullet vibe that was my first quality toy purchase. The battery has seen better days, but her setting three is still one of my favorites, so she gets pulled out from time to time.
the vibrator from my groceries story. She’s not the best or most intense vibe. Really she needs firm contact to press her against the clit. But as a tease, shes great.
My lipstick vibe. It genuinely looks like a tube of lip stick. It was given to me as a gag gift. It is supposed to be stealthy, kept in a clutch for easy access. But it’s pretty obvious. And also not the most well designed. But as silly as it is, the tip is designed to look like lipstick and has this small ovaly dimple which weirdly works well for me. So it gets more use than it deserves.
My pride and joy, and the first big purchase I made when I graduated uni: a Hitachi Magic Wand. (Though now they aren’t actually sold by Hitachi). This baby does NOT disappoint. She has a broad head, because she is NOT about precision. She is about flooding your entire lower body in delicious mind blowing vibrations. (Plug into the wall 20watts levels of yessss) But I do have to warn: alone she has two settings which are more or less: ah? And BBBUUUAAAAHHAHAHAHAHAHAAAA. Which can be quite… jaring. But since she plugs into the wall, you can use all kinds of fun controllers that were designed for other electronics. I use a dimmer switch to control the intensity and its AMAZING. I also got this little box designed to program lights to turn on and off and different times. It. Is. The. Most. Delicious. Cruel. Device. Ever. Seriously cannot recommend this enough. Just be aware, you can feel a bit numb after. It is completely normal, no damage has happened. It goes away in a little while. No alarm. Also she is NOT quiet or subtle.
A newer toy, this one does like this little suction action for my clit. Overall its good. But very much a mad dash sprint to orgasm kind of toy, which isn’t really my goto. I like the long agonizing build. But it’s also not great at getting me off without some internal assistance. I have seen some combo toys and those look very interesting. Overall, novel but not a goto.
Next is the single most expensive vibe I own. My husband bought it for me before a long business trip. She is u shaped and designed to squeeze onto the clit and g spot at the same time. Honestly, in vibrations and feel department she is not worth the money. But what makes her different is the brain. She has a remote, but can also connect to a phone app, so my husband could control her while we video called. I dont like being out of control, but telling him what to do and feeling it in real time really did help make the distance between us feel so much smaller. But the best part is the apps music sync function. I can listen to a song, and she pulses in rhythm and time with the music. It’s really nice with a soothing, chill beat as a slow and take my time lady session. Or, I can blast heavy metal and get blown away in the storm of extacy. Overall I wouldn’t be able to justify the price to myself, but as a gift it is AMAZING
Next I come across our more shared toys. (I say that, but I made it a personal point of pride to make my husband cum using every single one of my toys. On their own. Some took quite a while of torturous build up before he finally erupted. He likes my toys very much and is always eager at the idea of buying more.)
First up is some attachments for our under the bead restraints. Sadly we dont have a nice four post bed. so these allow us to still get our restraint play in. These are SUPER fun and versatile. They go under the mattress and come out the sides. We used to put them up after each session, but it was a real hassle. Tucking them in the sides is fast and easy and very well hidden. Plus, it let’s me be spontaneous and catch him unexpectedly. (As I said before, I am bad at being submissive and bondage (especially full bondage) doesn’t work well for me. But my husband LOVES IT. And I love the deliciously complete control it gives me.)
Next is my black silk rope. Again, bondage that involves a loss of mobility is a big turn off for me so at first I was very against the idea of rope play. But Shibari is so much more than that, as I was shown. There are whole designs that dont bind arms or legs together at all, I am really into the intricacy of the knots and how crazy sexy the patterns across my skin look. Plus it’s so easy to conceal, it give me that sexy secret feeling and I love to surprise my husband with it. (Would have done it in a heartbeat on grocery day if I had had the time.) Plus it can be super handy to hold vibes in place. Especially if I want some hands free time with the magic wand.
Next is the soy “massage wax” candles. Still new to these and I was VERY hesitant, I didn’t want to burn my husband and pain is a big no go for me. But the idea of making my own candles for sexy time was too much of a draw for my crafty self. The soy wax melts at a much lower temperature (50C as opposed to 75C for normal candles). it’s a more of pleasant warm feeling and is good on my back, ass, and thighs when I’m in a strong sexy mood, but still makes me nervous. Plus side is actually fairly good at moisturizing the skin afterwards.
Last but not least in the couple’s toys: my husband’s toy. He expressed interest to me about exploring his p spot, and so we looked around and settled on a fun, smaller vibrating massager. It even does the “come hither” motion. Waterproof and best of all *remote*. I was more than a little hesitant at first. Butt stuff is still something I’m having to actively overcome my religious childhood brainwashing with, but this was for my husband. Once I got used to it, it really was like having a push button for his whole sexual experience. The moans and writhing I’ve gotten from him with just the push of a button… the most delicious thing. It is my power move now with him. Taunting with that remote. I’m getting turned on just thinking about it.
And over here in the butt stuff corner is my most recent purchase: a small metal butt plug with a light blue gem set in the base. I’m nervous just looking at the thing. I didnt get it expecting to get any actual physical pleasure from it. few women do I think. And I still don’t know if I’ll ever be gutsy enough to try it. But my husband doesn’t know about it, and the idea of him “discovering” it. That look of surprise, excitement, arousal, mmmmmmmmm makes the idea worth serious thought. I’ll probably need some intense self teasing first.
Finally, the most brave purchase I have ever made: a very small silicone suction cup dildo. I bought this for the same trip that my husband bought the app controlled vibe for. It was the first time he would be away a long time since I had discovered the pleasures of penetrative sex, and I wanted something standing in for him while he was away. It was also something I needed to do for closure. The suction cup was so I could use it in the shower since the hot water can help me relax. Best choice I could have made. As scary as it was, the dildo did a surprisingly good job of replicating not just that filling feeling, but thanks to the suction cup I could get the thrusting sensation while still having hands free to hold a vibe on my clit. Downside is, those showers take a LOT longer now. Still I’m sure my husband would feel proud to know, it doesn’t compare at all to the real thing.
I have lots of other accessory toys (brushes, blindfold, condoms, lube, strings of beads, markers, feathers, etc.) But these are the ones that are in my mind the main toys.
Hope this was entertaining to read! (Writing it was my task that I needed to do before I would let myself have Magic Wand time) Will write again soon!
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/hm9t3h/a_look_into_my_f_toybox