I (25F) got invited to a 3some by my friend with her BF. Now she is mad at me😅 [MFF]

Couple of summers back, my friend from college invited me over for a threesome with her bf. They were exploring new things in their relationship and she trusted me as we were close friends. I knew her bf fancied me a bit 😋 and hence, I was hesitant at first so as to not ruin anything. But after her frequent requests, I complied. Nisha even encouraged me to get to know Dheeraj, her bf and we even flirted a bit over texts. Dheeraj was 6ft tall, a bit muscular and cleaned up real well and a rich brat too…checked all my criterias for a good fling.😈

So we had a few talks and then had a long weekend planned at the guy’s farmhouse in Delhi. At his place, we clicked instantly as we already knew each other by then. Even Nisha didn’t mind me flirting shamelessly with her guy now 😬

Both us girls teased Dheeraj a lot on the first day right from the time we reached the place. Changed to our tiny bikinis for a swim in the pool giving him a good show.
We had chosen our sexiest thongs to wear around the house. Even made out quite a bit infront of him to get him on the edge 😂

We had already opened the drinks and stuff for adding on to the fun times. Nisha was at her slutty best. She broke the ice by unzipping his shorts and began blowing him by the pool. I sat beside them watching and playing with myself giving him a full view. Things escalated and we started having full blown sex by the poolside.

Dheeraj was a happy man but I was surprised by Nisha being so much into me. I loved the girl playing with me. And it was such a bonus, as Dheeraj could only do so much with two of us 🤣 and Nisha was insatiable ☺️

The next few days were awesome. We partied a lot, did a lot of naughty dares, even had a ‘no clothes’ rule for a day😈 I made it a point to always engage when we all 3 were together so that there are no complications but I could see Dheeraj getting smitten with me.

It started with small things at first. A few looks between us and compliments thrown my way. He complimented me quite a lot for my ‘assets’ and would take every chance to make out with me. He would even sneak in for a one-on-one session when Nisha was sleeping or was busy in some work.

Usually Nisha slept late till noon and we both were early risers. A few times she had walked in on us going all out in the common area with Dheeraj pounding me with loud moans. She didn’t seem to mind at first but was a bit off when she saw me and Dheeraj once get out of the shower all wet and spent😋

There were a few other instances too when Dheeraj, in drunken state, proposed anal play with me and complained Nisha wasn’t really into it. I politely declined infront of her but later I let him eat my ass out in a private session 🤣 I’m pretty sure Nisha doubted about it later when Dheeraj started complimenting my ass a lot.

Barring these few instances, we all had a lot of wild action going over the 3 days and was an awesome experience.

But a few weeks later, Nisha started blaming me for ruining their relationship. I think Dheeraj fucked up by calling out my name once during their love making perhaps and he got caught pinging me to meet him up on the side.
I feel a bit guilty for this but she was the one who invited me for the threesome 🙄

I love my friend and don’t want to ruin our friendship. Any suggestions on what to do ?🤷

Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/125txdo/i_25f_got_invited_to_a_3some_by_my_friend_with

31 comments

  1. Invited to a threesome, then going for 1on1’s. If this wasn’t discussed beforehand and agreed on. Then you can kiss that friendship goodbye, because you did your worst, without thinking about your friendship. 😐

  2. Nah you did nothing wrong. Let her be angry and get over it. Is the relationship still together? Just continue being a supportive friend and wait for her to burn herself out.

  3. If her friendship is important to you, and it can be salvaged, you should talk to her about it and set some ground rules. No more solo trysts with her BF without her knowing about it, for one.
    That’s probably the part that got you into trouble. Sure, she invited you for a threesome, but that doesn’t mean you get unrestricted (and secret) access to her man.

  4. Why the hell would being a rich brat somehow indicate a “good fling?”

  6. Go to her and say you deeply regret Dj’s behavior toward her.

    Let her know you care for her and don’t want to lose her friendship.

    Don’t try to explain what she already knows, that she’s responsible for the threesome.

  10. Threesome fun that didn’t include the two of you cheating on her for solo trysts. You and D are both assholes amd nether of you deserves her.

  11. Lol, you will be fine. She did the whole thing for him and has to deal with the consequences. He will be fine too.

  26. Such things can happen in India too? Like friend inviting her friend for a threesome

  27. Reading thru these comments but reading back thru her story another way to look at it was Nisha was into you. You said it yourself she kept coming after you, so it sounds like they were both into you, but maybe she thought you would be more into her. That jealousy bug is not always about the man, but she might have been jealous. You were spending more than 1 on 1 time with him than her.

    I would go to her and just lay it out. Also, I would walk back any 1 on 1s with her BF. Men always want what they don’t have, and since you gave him an amazing weekend only.you can stop it. It also sounds like Nisha and him are having some issues, so it is easier to blame you than him. There really isn’t a rule book when you bring a third in, but if there was being open. Honest and setting boundaries are probably high on that list.

    Overall, I think the story was hot, and I put myself in his place, and yeah, if it was great, I would keep after you. Now, if I was really into my gf, I would not because I would not want to disrespect her. Just another perspective and seeing all the hate comments, chill out. We don’t know everything this is just a moment in time in their lives. We weren’t there, and if we were, would we do different. Who knows. When you get into a crazy fun weekend like that, it is hard to remember boundaries. The fact the guy keeps coming after her tells you everything you really need to know honestly.

  28. You crossed some lines, likely because it gave you a sense of power over your friend who had the rich BF to begin with.

  30. Hey, OP. I’ve seen people say some pretty cruel shit to you in the comments. It sounds like you didn’t sit down and have a nonsexual/nonflirtatious and clear discussion about what you all wanted out of this, what you were and weren’t allowed to do, and what you all felt comfortable with.

    Communication is deeply important to non-monogamy. Being open and honest about how you feel and what is/is not allowed, and being a good listener/accepting and comprehending what you are being told- are all extremely important before anyone should even consider opening up a relationship sexually (or engaging with a sexually open couple). Even with someone you care about. Or have known for a long time.

    It was a poor choice to make an assumption that N was okay with you and her boyfriend hooking up without her. You, and D both fucked up there. You should have checked in with her when it started, and made sure she was okay with it. Even when she “caught” you (which insinuates that you were sneaking around/trying to hide it from her) and appeared fine with it- you should have still checked in. It was inconsiderate to not think of how she could be feeling about being left out of your hookups. She agreed to threesomes, and letting D watch the two of you make out (which also involves all three of you partaking in one act). Consent needs to be specific. She did not agree to the two of you making out without her knowledge, hooking up without her, or interacting sexually beyond that weekend.

    It was also a poor choice to invite someone into your sexual life without having a long discussion about it beforehand. It may not be “sexy” but it is definitely necessary.

    I’m polyamorous- meaning that I am open to romantically and sexually being with multiple people at the same time. Before I started, I did my research- reading books like “The Ethical Slut” and “Polysecure” to better understand how to healthily navigate the situations, people, and feelings I would encounter. (Honestly, The Ethical Slut [edition 3] is a book everyone should read- it has amazing advice for navigating conflict in any relationship. Monogamous or polyam).

    Romantic relationships can bring up really powerful feelings and fears, and sometimes we as humans can act irrationally, or blame eachother or ourselves for things that aren’t our fault. And if we don’t have the tools to deal with these feelings, or to help our partners and friends, we can end up really hurting eachother.

    It looks like you and Deehraj really hurt your friend.

    It looks like Nisha and Deehraj didn’t really know what they were doing, and should have had a private, intimate, honest conversation and multiple check ins while moving through this new area.

    Threesomes are no joke, believe me. They can cause a lot of pain to everyone involved if not navigated with intention, emotional intelligence, care, and mindfulness.

    I hope you and Deehraj are taking your friends’ emotions seriously. I hope you are both taking how you as individuals feel seriously too.

    Now, next up- Deehraj’s actions and choices are not your fault. It is not your fault or doing that Deehraj is attracted to, or excited by you. It is not your fault that Deehraj asked you if you wanted to hook up without consulting his literal girlfriend. It’s not your fault that Deehraj agreed to hook up worh you without consulting his gf- and making sure she was okay with it.

    It is not your fault that Deehraj called out your name while sleeping with his girlfriend.

    That’s all on Deehraj.

    No matter what you said or did- Deehraj is an adult, and is capable of making his own decisions. If they were decisions that hurt his girlfriend, then it’s up to him to act accordingly.

    It is not your fault that you and your friends had a threesome without knowing how to emotionally prepare well, people seldom teach that in sex ed.

    But there are multiple choices tou made here, like not checking in with Nisha or validating her feelings, that are your fault.

    Also, it is not Nisha’s fault that you hooked up with Deehraj without telling her.

    She made an agreement to a threesome, not to that. She also has no control over your sections.

    It isn’t Nisha’s fault that Deehraj wanted to sleep with you without telling her, especially after the weekend was over.

    It isn’t her fault that D tried to. That isnt your fault either.

    It also isn’t Nisha’s fault that you agreed to having a threesome with them. She didn’t make that choice for you.

    Or, that you didnt tell her that Deehraj was secretly messaging you and asking for sex.

    How was she to know about these outcomes?

    I think, first, you need to check in with yourself. Answer each of these questions. Either by talking out loud, or in a journal, etc. Spend a lot of time on each question. If you’re busy, come back to it later. At least five minutes taking the question in, and letting whatever answer come up- come up without judgement:

    How are you feeling right now?

    What emotions came up for you during that farm weekend? During the threesomes?

    How did you feel about sleeping with Nisha before that weekend? During the weekend? Afterwards? How did you feel about Nisha as a person? As a friend?

    How did you feel about sleeping with Deehraj before that weekend? During the weekend? During the threesomes- specifically? Afterwards? How did you feel about Deehraj as a person? As a friend?

    How did you feel about sleeping with both of them before that weekend? During the weekend? During the threesomes- specifically? Afterwards? How did you feel about Deehraj as a couple? Are they good friends to eachother, and why?

    How did you feel about yourself, sexually, before that weekend? During the weekend? During the threesomes- specifically? Afterwards? How did you feel about yourself as a person? As a friend?

    What do you want?
    Why do you want it?
    What does wanting that mean about who you are? Why?

    Do you want to remain friends with Nisha? Why? Why are you and Nisha friends?

    Are you friends with Deehraj? Why?
    Do you want to keep sleeping with Deehraj? Why?

    Why was sex with Deehraj thrilling?
    Was he sexually compatible with you, or were you thrilled by the fact that you felt desired, and what you were doing felt a little taboo/wrong? (taboo things tend to feel really sexy/arousing, or tempting)

    Then, answer these questions as if you were Nisha.

    Then, answer them as if you were Deehraj.

    I wish you luck. Please do this work honestly and privately.

  31. You should take his cock from her any time you can. She asked for it and then got jealous and suddenly you are a piece of shit??? No. Take that dick and enjoy it

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