There is an exemplar gonewildstory nested herein, but this post is more an observation of gone wild lifestyle vs. actual stories.
When I was in college I really wanted to be in a committed relationship. I was always on the lookout for a girlfriend. But I also absolutely loved the hookup culture of university life. We didn’t use the term “hookup culture,” but there definitely was such a culture at my (and I’m sure most other) colleges.
When I would have the opportunity to go home with (or take home) a woman from a bar or party, I could never resist. that temptation. And while I typically didn’t have sexual intercourse with them, it was pretty much a given that we’d do oral. It was so much fun, and I always wanted to do it again and go out exclusively with them. Sadly, when I would call (because I’d always ask for their number), I would seldom get an actual date. I inferred it was because we had gone too far on the first night and I was relegated to ‘random hookup’ status. Does that ring true to any of you?
So the next weekend, I’d be prowling all over again. And if I was lucky enough to meet a woman I’d make the same mistake all over again. I remember one woman in particular, Julia, who I really wanted to date. I could tell after the first five minutes of meeting her. She came back to my apartment and sat on my face, and I distinctly remember how bittersweet it was. Yes, I wanted to go down on her, and, yes, it was very pleasurable for me (and it would seem, her), but I recall thinking, ‘The second you lick her vagina, you’re going to blow any possible relationship.’
I called two days after, and while she did take my call, when I asked her out she bluntly told me, she’d rather not take things any further.
Sure there were some women that I was able to take out a few times, but typically these did not result from the bar/fraternity party hookup culture.
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/100la6f/my_attraction_to_fast_sex_versus_desire_for_a