Making peace with my daughter’s boyfriend – update 32 [F]

In the last few weeks, I have stayed true to my decision of not taking it any further with my daughter’s boyfriend.

I have also tried to find other avenues to express my kinks, and that is what I wanted to confess about today. However, looking at all the DMs with similar questions, I feel like I can write about my recent adventures while answering your questions as well. Here it goes.

How is it going with your daughter’s boyfriend? Pretty good. I had ‘the talk’ with him, and he has been respectful of my decision. That is not to say that he has not been mischievous. He still steals those glances, still tests my control by sitting too close and letting his hand linger on my shoulder for no good reason, but from what I can tell, he is not doing this with an intent to test me, but as a prank, a situational joke. He still appreciates when I dress well, but does not stare in a suggestive way. I guess he stares in a way that women look at other women in appreciation of their efforts to look good. I am not sure how to describe the chemistry we have now, but it is somewhere between healthy and unhealthy, between fun and formal, and between risky and harmless. So, in short, the tables have turned. Rather than me teasing him, he is now teasing me.

Do you still fantasize about him? Sometimes, I do, yes. I think that is natural. But I don’t long for it. I simply think about it as a possibility that could have happened, but one that I am glad did not happen.

Did he tell your daughter? From what I can tell, no, he did not. In fact, given that I have tried to hold back from being too open with him, my daughter asked me if he has done anything that I didn’t like, and if there was a reason that I wasn’t as friendly with him as I was before. That was a difficult question to answer with a straight face, but I managed.

Are you dating someone? I have been on a few dates. Some of them have been good and some of them have been meh. I have not been able to find someone that I’d like to possibly get into a relationship with.

How are you dealing with your newfound kinks? This has been difficult. I have to accept that the whole saga with my daughter’s boyfriend made me comfortable with my inherent kinks, and now that that outlet has been closed, I have found it difficult to express myself sexually. Things get especially difficult (or horny, depending on how you look at it) when there are instances that remind me of how things were before. So, if I see him sitting by himself in the living room, or when I hear them having sex in their room, or when he teases me with his little touches, I need more self-control.

Have you had sex lately? Yes, I have. Let me share how it happened. I initially started dating with an expectation that I will find someone I could get kinky with. However, I did not want to go all out and start having sex without knowing the person first. So, I started going on dates with people I thought I could connect with. I went on multiple dates with multiple guys, but what I realized was that the more often I saw them, the less I wanted to sleep with them. That is no fault of their own, I simply did not want them to know both the normal and kinky version of me. So, I decided to sleep on the first date. I was not very thorough about finding the right guy, but honestly, most guys seemed right enough. So, with this one guy, I was very suggestive that I would want to sleep on the first date. I was dressed for it, in a short outfit and a wrap coat that I took off as soon as I could. He knew what I wanted and was eager to provide it. The sex itself was great. I really cannot complain about the physical aspect of what happened in bed. I thought that sleeping with an almost-stranger on the first date would make me feel slutty, but it did not. It was great sex, but it was simply sex. There was no backstory that added to the experience, no kinks that were being satisfied as the physical urges were being satisfied. It felt half-good half-empty. There was some dirty talking involved, but without a history that would make those dirty words relevant, even the words felt shallow and meaningless. What’s the fun in calling someone a slut if you don’t know how slutty she has been?

Are you going to keep posting? Absolutely! Discovering Reddit was one of the best things that happened to me in 2022. This place is amazing, and let’s me be myself. So, unless something weird happens, I’ll be around.

Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/zi797j/making_peace_with_my_daughters_boyfriend_update