Jesus, I get asked about size so much from men who follow my account. I get why this is an insecurity, but I’m going to tell y’all a tale to set a few things straight.
*I’m writing this in two parts because I also fucked a very average-sized dude who made me climax into oblivion.*
Does size matter? Not in the way you think. I’m not going to lie, the two best male partners I’ve been with were quite large (my husband included). However, I don’t think their dick size made them magically good in bed. They were just confident and… um… creative.
I would also like to point out, one of my favorite sexual partners did not have a dick at all as she was, in fact, a girl. If anyone understands how little size matters, it’s queer girls. We don’t have a penetration obsession.
There has never ONCE been a time that a dude dropped his pants that I was like, “Oh man, that sucks.” You know why? Because I’m about to get fucked. All penises look good when they’re attached to someone I’m attracted to who is about to get freaky with me.
Once I was in such a position. My friend and I had sexual tension for a year and when he broke up with his girlfriend we finally found ourselves making out in my kitchen.
He was hot and I was digging the way he kissed. He held my face in his hands and used the right amount of tongue.
I tried to press my body against his to start some friction, but he just stood like a statue. I tried to subtly beckon him to my bedroom but he wasn’t moving.
“Do you want to hook up?” I finally asked, a little confused.
“Sure!”
Not the most passionate seduction, but whatever. We awkwardly made our way to my bedroom.
*I realize this is an odd thing to criticize, but if you’re about to fuck, you show some affection on the journey to the place that said fucking is about to take place, right? He didn’t even grab my hand or anything.*
Then he didn’t say anything. He just started getting undressed with a goofy smile.
*I don’t mean to harp on this, but like… We should have been undressing each other, right? That’s how this usually goes.*
I shrugged and just took my clothes off.
“You’re really pretty,” he said almost matter of fact when we were both naked.
“Thanks? You’re… big.”
He was. He had a very large penis and was already hard. I was very grateful he had a condom because I don’t think the ones I had would have even fit. He didn’t wait to put it on though…
*Usually you play for a while first, right? I was kind of confused. I thought maybe he wanted to be extra careful during foreplay with his cool, but we could have done SOME hand stuff to start.*
So, we are naked, the condom is on, I am lying on my bed waiting for… something?
The man gives me a thumbs up.
*A. Thumbs. Up.*
I awkwardly give him one back, unsure of what exactly I’m communicating here. Apparently he took this as a signal to enter me.
*Bro, never do this anyway. For the love of god, please don’t go inside a woman without foreplay. We don’t just magically get wet at the sight of your large penis. We need physical stimulation, damn it.*
Yep. This dude just spreads my legs and fucks me. It hurt so bad I cried out, which he mistook for pleasure.
“I know, it feels really good,” he said.
*Ok, so it takes two to tango, right? I’m great at sex. I can turn this around.*
After I adjusted, I reached to play with his hair and then took one of his fingers and stuck it in my mouth to suck. He pulled it away.
“Oh if you do that I’m going to come too early.”
“Ok…”
I took his hand and guided it to my breast instead. He shuddered. “Definitely don’t do that! I’ll really come.”
*Bro, I am not here to shame swift ejaculation. However, if this is something you struggle with GET YOUR PARTNER OFF FIRST. Jesus, how hard is it to use your damn tongue or fingers?*
So I lie back and basically stop moving because every time I do this dude flips out and tells me not to. Then he just starts going really, really fast and grunting. Like long, awkward grunts.
I felt NOTHING. I was not tight. I was not turned on. I was just kind of existing as a vessel for him to come into. His dick was huge and I was trying to calculate physically how it was even possible he wasn’t hitting my g-spot.
He came.
He came within thirty seconds actually and then laid back on my bed and smiled. “That was like the best sex I’ve ever had.”
*I. Am. Not. Kidding. He said those words.*
I didn’t say anything so he asked, “Did uou climax?”
“Honestly no, but maybe we can try again in a bit.”
“Oh I can usually only go once a night.”
So here is my problem, just because HE can only go once a night does not mean sex is over. There is more to life than penetration. I had a vibrator, he had fingers and a tongue, and I was thoroughly unsatisfied.
When I brought this up, he said he was REALLY tired.
We never fucked again.
Moral of the story? Big dicks are not everything, friends.
Stay tuned because I WILL be writing a story of a very average-sized man who blew my damn mind.
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/x3al5v/the_worst_sex_of_my_life_was_with_a_man_who_had_a
I’ve never seen how that can be pleasurable for a guy. I’m on the larger side of average, and even condom on it HURTS to try to get into a partner who isn’t sufficiently turned on or at the least lubed up. I got decent with my fingers and mouth quickly for that very reason.
If this is a response to your AMA, darn Viola you work fast.
Also, how clueless can a guy get? The only explanation I have is that all the blood rushed from his head to his penis leaving him temporarily empty-headed.
I am fascinated by heterosexual encounters like this. So foreign to me , don’t get me wrong I’ve known some “pillow princesses” but encounters like this seem…so strange to me.
Some fellas who are “hung” seem to be of the belief that the sight mere sight of their appendage will have ladies dripping and on the verge of orgasm as soon as they drop their shorts. I don’t have a huge dick, but it’s in proportion to the rest of me and I am just fine with it. I do also know that skillful use of my average dick along with a side order of tongue and some deft fingering has made me quite popular with some of my lady friends down the years……… ;)
Bahahaha, this was so funny!!
A. Thumbs. Up – hands down the funniest bit😂😂
Honestly made me laugh out loud. I feel I should apologise for all mankind that you had to ‘lay’ through that ordeal. Probably for the best it was only a one time thing!
Thanks for the chuckles
It varies with women. Some are insatiable size queens who hold the view that a dick could never be too big (personally I blame porn and giant dildos), while other women prefer more average sized dicks.
👍🏼 great writing
Hahahah not trying to shame anyone, but this reminds me of a buddy I had. He’d coooooonstantly brag about how big he was, and his girlfriend’s always looked so depressed when he mentioned it.
Thank you very much for this. I get self conscious about my size and pass experiences with women being self conscious in bed and not allowing me to be ‘creative’ (as you put it).
So what is it about those well hung men that was nice then?
Omg😭😭😭😭 your poor vagina!!! I sat with my mouth open reading that like “NO? IT’S GETTING WORSE. OH GOD”
THANK YOU FOR SHARING and thank God you don’t have to experience that again
My policy is if they don’t make some kind of effort to find my clit they’re not getting a call back.
Holy. Shit.
This is the pinnacle of all women who complain about bad sex. I feel SO BAD FOR YOU. But thank you for making a story out of it!
If anything, as someone with a larger piece; I like to use it last. Immediately giving them the dick is not as fun. Getting them to want the dick is the real fun, cause the payoff is going to be worth it. Get their needs met and they become putty, after that it’s almost like the big dick doesn’t have to work that hard. It’s should be a powerful asset when needed, not used without caution.
I’m sorry you had a horrible experience. Not many men take time to make sure a woman is taken care of first and they should.
Same. Like I love image of big dicks and sucking them, but when it comes to fucking, average is the best
This story sounds like a guy who is wildly inexperienced and is just oblivious to cues. 👍
Yea… can’t even take this seriously
I am not confident in my ability to last long with a pretty woman, so yeah, I’m making sure she gets her fun first and isn’t just an after thought. I honestly think more clearly before the release.
I have a rather small dick yet every girl I sleep with comes back for more. Sometimes even years later…it’s because they are satisfied before I ever even think about my own pleasure and most women at that point just need the satisfaction of knowing I got relief as well. I’m not handsome, I’m over weight, yet I seem to have no issues getting women 🤷♂️
You should cross post this to r/bigdickproblems for a little deflation (in both senses of the word) on that sub!
The audacity to ask if you orgasmed when all you did was lay there like a sack of potatoes is hilarious 🤣. I hope someone someday let him know he ain’t no sex God..
This reminds me so very much of the song, “Business Time” by Flight of the Conchords. Are you familiar? If not it’s worth a good chuckle.
Biggest guy I’d ever been with was also the worst I’d ever been with. TMI….but dude just came up behind me without much warning and slammed it it in, causing damage and I bled for almost a week. Probably should’ve gone to the doctor but, America. Absolute best partner I’d been with was of average size and very attention to me and my needs.
So yes, size kinda matters, but knowing how to use what you have is way more important.
Men with average – smaller sized penises to tend to work harder or know what to do to pleasure a woman vs man with larger penises. I think men with larger penises only think fucking is it.
I lost it when he gave you the thumbs up.
We know why he’s single.
Hahah, preach. If only guys stopped putting so much importance on dick sizes.
EVERYTHING IN THIS POST IS SPOT ON!!
MEN, please take note, especially cubs!
Pics of dicks, hard dicks, big dicks, small sicks don’t turn me on.
Seduction, words, actions, slight touches, FOREPLAY turns me on!
And yes, if you cum quick, then please pleasure the woman first or I won’t be calling you back!
This story was definitely interesting to me because I suppose watching to much porn or stories that I’ve read I have become quite conscious of my size( 5.5-6 inches) thank you!
>Moral of the story? Big dicks are not everything, friends.
Been saying that for years.
For future advice thanks 😸😸
Sad that you had go through such an awful experience, but 20 year old virgin me would’ve loved to have heard that story.
Dick size has never played a role in how satisfying my sex was, except once – the guy was big, and it hurt. Everyone else has been all about how they use it, and their clit game. My most phenomenal lover had a very average size dick.
My general rule is the girl should have a bare minimum of 2 orgasms before I even take my underwear off. Or at least before I enter. She’s wet and willing and ready to go!
It’s like turning on the ignition and switching the car on immediately only to hear it splutter vs turning the ignition on, letting it warm up and then getting the car on.
Most. Helpful. Post. Ever. I literally do not, I repeat do not, have a big dick and that’s an insecurity of mine. I always thought size matters & so did my exes… yeah. Plus I take waaay too long to cum (2-4 hours sometimes) so I’m glad to hear that it’s a good thing.
I really don’t understand guys who don’t do cunnilingus. Given that there’s no hygiene problem eating pussy is like nitro to sex. She gets totally in the mood, has at least one climax (which always adds up as +1 on your account), and on top of that it feels so empowering being able to control her pleasure with the tip of your tongue and two fingers ;)
Not sure if you meant for this to be somewhat of a “manual” but here’s what I got so far:
> I tried to press my body against his to start some friction, but he just stood like a statue. I tried to subtly beckon him to my bedroom but he wasn’t moving.
1. I like to move it (move it)
> I realize this is an odd thing to criticize, but if you’re about to fuck, you show some affection on the journey to the place that said fucking is about to take place, right? He didn’t even grab my hand or anything.
2. Affection goes a long way
> I don’t mean to harp on this, but like… We should have been undressing each other, right? That’s how this usually goes.
3. The art of stripping works wonders
> “You’re really pretty,” he said almost matter of fact when we were both naked.
4. Compliment like you mean it
> Usually you play for a while first, right? I was kind of confused. I thought maybe he wanted to be extra careful during foreplay with his cool, but we could have done SOME hand stuff to start.
5. Foreplay is just as important as “the sex”
> I awkwardly give him one back, unsure of what exactly I’m communicating here. Apparently he took this as a signal to enter me.
6. Clear verbal consent is a prerequisite not an accessory.
> Bro, I am not here to shame swift ejaculation. However, if this is something you struggle with GET YOUR PARTNER OFF FIRST. Jesus, how hard is it to use your damn tongue or fingers?
7. It’s a cooperation, not a competition
> “Honestly no, but maybe we can try again in a bit.”
8. Everyone should or rather deserves to orgasm
> So here is my problem, just because HE can only go once a night does not mean sex is over. There is more to life than penetration. I had a vibrator, he had fingers and a tongue, and I was thoroughly unsatisfied.
9. Sex is like cereal, it ends when BOTH the “cereal” and the “milk” is done
10. You didn’t really get to this one but “Aftercare” too
I think that’s it, do tell me if I missed something please and thank you.
But bruh the thumbs up is one the funniest things ever LMAO!
On the flip side you got a bunch of other awesome sex to offset this one, not to mention you got your husband now Pavlov-ing you heh. Stay awesome and cheers to you Ms. V!
>I’m not going to lie, the two best male partners I’ve been with were quite large (my husband included).
This is the real moral of the story. A big dick won’t make you a good lover automatically, but it is something you need.
I really hate when stuff like this happens. Sorry OP that you went through it. (Or more accurately, that it went through you)
As someone with this issue it’s such a terribly handled topic. Can’t really discuss the reality of it as a guy because you’re a statistical minority and the people you’re talking to don’t take you seriously or think you’re trying to make them feel insecure about their own member.
So you’re pretty much on your own when it comes to figuring out what to do. You have the option of believing the hype and social fables surrounding large members, even though realistically how many people singing praise have actually seen/experienced one. Or you can just avoid genuine sexual discussions completely and figure out your own way of making it a fun experience for everyone involved, and this is assuming you can even attract someone on a regular basis.
The guy OP dealt with was all hype, no consideration at all and yeah just sucks cause he’s making the incline steeper for the rest of us
I am so so sorry. I can’t even imagine. I almost died at the thumbs up
I was once eating a girl out after teasing her thighs and asshole for almost 10 minutes straight and, when I looked up at her longingly with my eyes and began to slide my tongue into her pussy, she waved at me
But that was cute and she was immediately embarrassed. This is like. This guy thinks he’s in top gun the sex tape
Damn this just keeps getting worse as I read it🤣 holy fuck🤣 even the passable chicks I will fuck twice always
Damn.
I’m hung too but I’m also a virgin with NO IRL experience. I feel like even I could have done better stumbling.
Tell us more about the “creative” part that does so much for you
It would seem that the moral of this story is that the possession of an erection cannot be counted towards one’s personal growth as a human being.
On a separate note I have noticed that just as well endowed men seem preternaturally blessed with large amounts of confidence; so to do well bosomed ladies. So much so that they might take offense if the opportunity to gander upon said bosoms is declined.