She has a submissive kink, I could tell from the first time we fucked.
From the jump, she told me before we started dating she was in a throuple before with another guy and girl, who were really into bdsm and humiliation. She was like their “toy” but they dumped her when they found someone better apparently. When she talked to me about it she acted like it’s something she regrets. But I know those bdsm and humiliation kinks still turn her on.
That doesn’t bother me. What bothers me is constantly whenever I try to push boundaries and expand our sex she gets visibly uncomfortable. She even broke down crying like a week ago and said “that’s what he used to do”.
And all I did was cum on her face… literally for the first time since we’ve been together for 4 years…. like what? You’re still thinking about that?
I’ve always been cautious with the things I do because of what she describes as a bad past. The other half of me wonders and wants, should I just go full alpha on her like I want to, despite what her past experiences are?
I just feel at this point, I understand her trauma of getting fucked over but at the same time I’m not going to live my life being compared to someone els that did you dirty. Fucking move on and enjoy the sex we’re having right now.
Or am I wrong?
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/vvqrh5/why_is_my_girlfriend_so_edgy_when_im_dominate_m
You say that you understand her trauma, but you clearly do not. Trauma isn’t something you ” just get over”. You deal with it the rest of your life. Granted, it should get easier over time, but that’s not for you to decide when. That’s her call. You seem to have a strong desire to explore things that she’s not able to do, despite what she did in the past. I think you should break up with her. You’re headed that way, just do it before you add more trauma for her to heal from.