Denial made me do it. 🥺👉👈 33F anal training/orgasm denial reflections from the sub’s perspective

Perhaps it is egocentric, but I thought maybe writing about my experience could interest or help my friends in this subreddit. 💕🤗 or maybe I’m just suuuuper fucking horny right now and want to trigger/corrupt you 😈😈

Does denial make you feel so needy that you have this impulse to push boundaries that don’t usually appeal to you? Do you have a slight interest or curiosity in anal play but are hesitant to train because you feel like your hole is too tight for even the “training kit starter size” and you aren’t particularly masochistic? Me too!!!

[Disclaimers: This story is not for anyone whose interest in anal is sadistic, you’ll be bored and can feel free to stop reading 🤣. (No judgement, it’s just that painal isn’t for me)This is definitely about cultivating anal as a pleasure and denial tool; particularly making it feel accessible to the open&curious but anxious type. And this got really long because I took lots of time doing several sessions at every stage and I talk a lot so I’m gonna do multiple parts. This post stops before moving on to penetration]

My interest in anal play was primarily the mental aspect/theoretical feeling of being vulnerable and exposed, which are common threads in my enjoyment of orgasm control and submission in general. I also have a tendency to attract ass men despite my spectacular tits! 😉 having the body of a fertility goddess–it’s a curse! 🤭🤭

Have you ever had your hands tied behind your back and been pushed down on the bed on your knees with your ass in the air? Maybe you’re blindfolded but you can sense your partner is somewhere behind you, free to stare and take in every aspect of your body. Then they walk over and spread your ass cheeks and the cool air on your exposed hole drives home how helpless you are… does the thought make you whimper? Is your heart racing as your little slit dampens, betraying your arousal? What is coming next? You have no control. 🤤

…FUCK, is it horny in here or is it just me? 🥵🥵 Denial is making me freaking needy… just typing all this is making me feel like humping something… ugh! 🤦‍♀️

Back to our regularly scheduled salacious corruption… If you have an IRL partner, getting your ass eaten is a great way to start associating training with pleasure, but there are all sorts of viable approaches. Incorporating games, dynamics, or other things that arouse you into the early phases can help build neurological pleasure pathways in this new arena. Teasing the idea of anal play as an aside while something more purely pleasurable is the focus was a reeeeally successful tactic for me. It helped dispel the anxiety of the thing, and with early steps of anal play, relaxation and lubrication are key.

~~Pardon the ranting interlude but I hate when I hear stories of someone being hesitant but curious&eager to please about anal, and their dickhead partner ruins the potential for them having fun with anal by pushing for penetration too soon.~~ Make it about the journey, not the destination and it takes a lot of pressure off, and makes everybody have more fun!

Anyway, I probably would never have gotten around to training at all if I hadn’t started to experiment with edging and denial. Tease, edge, get the jitters out. Getting yourself really aroused, getting to that relaxed floating feeling where your brain is kinda melty and you maybe forgot how to formulate speech… that’s when the fun begins. Relaxed, melty brain games are very fun.

*Anatomy lesson game*

Did you know that there are two rings to the entrance of your hole? I like to think of them as two rings, because “sphincter muscles” doesn’t sound particularly sexy. 😉 Just like pussy pleasure becomes more enjoyable as you explore and become more familiar with your own anatomy, anal pleasure is the same. Now, the outer ring is muuuch easier to relax and gain control over. It’s time to get some coconut oil involved. When moving on to penetrating the inner ring, you may want to use a fluid with a little more slip, but for this stage, I like the mental aspect of preparing the area for comfortably stretching, so massaging and moisturizing with oil is good for building dermal elasticity….mmmmm 🥰🤤

So take some coconut oil and rub it on the outside of your anus. (Oh…uh… trim your nails 😉)
There’s no pressure to even slip anything inside at this point, just get comfortable with the sensation. How does it feel? Weird? Good? Nuetral? Not sure? No worries, we’re just exploring. Are you paying attention to the sensations? Is your clit still throbbing from the edging earlier? Maybe you want to use your other hand or a vibrator to play with your clit simultaneously. Recording observations and progress is a game I really enjoyed… ever a student, I like to get good marks on my reports 😁😇

Put your oiled finger right at the center of your hole and practice relaxing and clenching that outer ring. It’s ok if this takes a few sessions to get comfortable with. I know you’re impatient. I know it feels like a baby step hardly worth noting… that’s kinda the point. Relax. Breathe. Feel. Don’t push. It is really the inner ring that has the tension, you should be able to relax and massage the outer ring into flattening to give you more open access to the inner ring. Practice feeling with you finger as you clench and relax the outer ring. If I touched the inner ring and clenched the outer ring around it, it would envelope just past the cuticle on my fingertip (the distal phalange for you anatomy nerds 😉)

Good job 🤗 let’s move away from training now and back to edging and teasing that needy denied girl. Desperate, wanton, overwhelmed. So many erogenous areas to enjoy. 😘😘

Stay tuned, penetration is a whole new layer of fun. 💕

Source: reddit.com/r/eroticliterature/comments/vw0cpy/denial_made_me_do_it_33f_anal_trainingorgasm