So for a couple years, my husband(24)and I(23) often only have sex maybe twice a month or less. I had become fed up with it. He claims to have a low sex drive. Well the other day his phone was unattended, I knew he had hidden accounts containing hentai because he’s quickly clicked off them and gotten very defensive if I’ve seen anything on his phone sitting next to him. I decided to open the apps and grab the usernames.
Well I watched his activity and noticed, specifically his Twitter likes were loading in while he was on break at work with some pretty sexual hentai. I utilized this knowledge to my advantage and sent him some flirty texts. I also decided that maybe I should dress in a way that is sexy and lewd like a lot of these anime’s, so I did with a body suit with a chest cut out and a sexy push up bra and sent some photos while he was at work.
To say the least, he came home and was very excited to see me. We had sex for an hour, including where he put handcuffs on me and pulled my hair and made me scream and squirt multiple times. Literally the best sex we have had. (I may have decided to order a beginner bondage kit after this).
For those that read this far, I feel somewhat guilty for going on his phone and looking at his private stuff. But I also appreciated how it told me when he was feeling horny and also has shown me things that he’s into. I casually brought up Twitter and he lied and said he didn’t have an account. I literally don’t care that he has porn. If anything I’m happy he does cause it means he doesn’t have a low sex drive.
I want to be honest and tell him how snooping and finding his porn accounts helped me learn what he liked, in turn gave us really amazing sex, but I don’t want him to be angry and I don’t want him to make his accounts more secure. If anything it’s a turn on knowing his secrets, I just wish he would tell me himself.
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/uxkab1/i_found_myf_husbands_m_accounts_he_uses_to_view
Damn. This is some kind of package deal. You either tell him and make him realize that communication is key. Or you don’t tell him and keep snooping in his stuff.
Either way there’s big possibilities that he’ll get angry. I’d try to just tell him and make sure you tell him in a way that shows you trust him and you want him. Without making him feel like you don’t trust him or something. I don’t know how you would do it. So damn what a situation.
Just remember that relationships are build on communication. With good communication allot can be reached. It made me and my Fiancee find out allot of sexual interest we would have never dared to bring up.
Allot of luck wished to you…
This is why communication is key in a healthy relationship. Maybe try to bring up kinks and see what you both are into and would like to try.
Communication is key and all that other stuff but unless your hubby is dumb as a brick i think he has a feeling you went through his phone.
I did it once to my wife. Shamefull admittance, yes, but we had a period where we stopped fucking like rabbits and i just wanted to check if she watches porn and what kind of porn. Saw some light bondage and cuffs stuff so i went shopping, bouth them cuffs, came back and cuffed her to the chair. No foreplay, no talks. Just cuffed her fucked, her and told her she coud have said to me she wanted to change our dynamics to uphold our sex life.
I saw her turning red but she held her words, nodded and we had a golden age in our bedroom
What‘s non-sexual hentai? 🤔
It can take alot to open up about something you think is Percy or wrong somehow. Even with someone you trust. Have you tried confessing a kink to him? And make a big deal about how worried you are about telling him. If you show yourself in a more vulnerable light it may get him to do the same
FUCKIN A JUST TELL HIM!!
Ur already his wife if he ain’t gonna tell u then he gonna tell someone else!! And hide around fking prostitutes and bring STDs to ur house and maybe beocme a serial killer !!
😂😂 Jokes jokes embrace his inner kinks and share urs too
Sounds like more communication is needed in general. You have to know what each other need to be able to help fulfill each other.
Remember that “Communication is lubrication”.
I’m so glad you told him, but not because I think you did something wrong in the first place. I actually think it was a good idea in the circumstances. Sounds like you’ll develop a much stronger sexual relationship. I recommend showing him the kind of porn you are in to. He’ll think it’s hot. I love seeing the kind of porn my wife watches.
My ex did something like this for me. Discovered my other Reddit account and all my weird kinks. Then one night when we were getting busy, she asked to restrain me to the bed with our cuffs and things, proceeded to pull up my account, blow and fuck me while talking about and forcing me to watch all the videos with her. I never hid anything from her after that and the sex was great. Got to explore all my kinks irl.
Whatever initial discomfort it gives him by having you privy to his kinks will disappear if you go all out and forcibly show him you’re into it with him.
I would not shame him if I were you, I wouldn’t advise that with anyone.
If you break someone’s trust, don’t do it again. However, often to assuage one’s guilt, we confess, which often, like in this case only embarrasses, shames and pisses off the other person. I don’t see how that helps either party.
I think privacy needs to be respected between parties. If legit cheating, gambling, drug use, dangerous behavior becomes an issue, one should be able to determine it pretty easily without violating someone’s trust.
Just because your partner violates your trust, it doesn’t make it even for you to the same. Be the bigger person, you’ll always sleep with a clear conscious.
As someone who was part of a really shitty relationship, where I was dishonest, mainly in the fact that I didn’t like my wife, let alone love her, but didn’t have the balls to tell her the truth. I basically shut her off emotionally, which took whatever her issues are, leading her to think i was cheating, or something similar. She also shamed me pretty regularly. It was toxic, just as much my issue as it was hers.
I only wish I could have been a better person, and been honest. And to keep communication open and forthright.
All I can do is try to do right the rest of my life.
U r a great wife… 😊
Maybe you could explore some of his kinks together now that you have told him?