I [M] 37 have a secret life that no one else knows about

My wife and I were married young(ish) – I was 25, she was 23. I love her to bits – she really is perfect in every way, except our sex life hasn’t always been great. Enough to produce a couple of kids, and still it’s not been awful. But not enough to stop me straying from time to time.

I’m the first person to admit that I’m a twat for this, so there isn’t really a need to point it out (though many of you will, because there are more than enough cheat-haters around). But I find the whole cheating kink irresistible. I love cheating stories. I love cheating girlfriends and wives. I’d give cheating boyfriends and husbands a high five – if I ever met any in real life. It doesn’t tend to happen though, at least not in my social circles. If there’s cheating going on, it’s a very well kept secret.

Speaking of secrets, that’s the hallmark of my approach. I’ve fucked four girls since I’ve been married. All of them met online – 3 Omegle, 1 Craigslist when it allowed sex ads. All of them a fair distance from where I live in the north of England (two in Oxfordshire, one in Bedfordshire and the the other in Liverpool). None of them know my real name, or any personal details – except for the fact that I’m married – that seems to get some women going, which I’m not gonna complain about. I’ve got a fairly comprehensive backstory to aid my exploits so they can’t trace me back. I exclusively use messaging apps which I can burn if things start to look dodgy. Never shared my real mobile number. None of them know where I really live.

Just writing this give me ambivalent feelings. I hate myself, but I’m also hard as fuck.

And the sex? The sex is fucking great. At some point I’ll write up the details – that is, if there’s interest. And of course my DMs are open.

Until then, I’m gonna keep doing my thing. And no one else will ever know.

Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/u5pygc/i_m_37_have_a_secret_life_that_no_one_else_knows

29 comments

  1. Yes, I’d love to hear your stories! I created this account to talk about a cheating experience that I had too.

  2. Why do you speak about people hating cheating like it’s shocking go be against it lol. The rational and obvious response for cheating should be negative. Just find it funny that cheaters call others haters 🤣

  3. Cheating “kink”? There’s a first – anything somebody wants to do they now define as a kink.

  4. How would you react if you found out the wife was cheating too?

  5. I understand and have been there myself…before the proliferation of smart phones. While my desire to have extramarital sex has declined to some degree, it is still there. Because I’m a lot more concerned about being caught, I’m not as smart about separating messaging accounts, etc., I have done all I can to avoid those situations.
    I also hate myself for what I’ve done and the feelings I continue to have.
    Good luck to you sir.

  6. You sound like a person that would love to get caught just so you can enjoy seeing the pain and possibly of your wife committing suicide (yes it happens) because of the trauma that you will cause.
    Not to mention what you do to your kids.

    This just proves that cheaters thrive on being deceitful, dishonest and have no respect for the vows they sworn to.

    You not only ruin your marriage but destroy your kids as well.

    You should post on r/adultery, that is were they brag about it. You will fit in perfectly.

  7. That is an incredibly interesting collection of stories. Please, do share more, on the flirting, on the dating, the sex and your afterthoughts.

  8. I get it. No judgement. Some people just aren’t satisfied sexually in their marriage 🤷‍♂️

  9. Recommended reading: The Dawn of Sex. They make a point about humans not being monogamous. Also, check out Esther Perel on YouTube.

  10. This is me in Australia, one off Reddit, one off Insta, I friend an ex and countless massage girls.
    I love it too

  11. Monogamy is a social construct not a human one. Do your best to not bring anything (VDs) home, and live your best life.

  12. Man I feel you. I’m in the same boat. Beautiful, great wife… She is just not ever into much sex anymore. I even tell her she should go see a Dr about low libido but she doesn’t believe me. So I usually go do AMP’s or a few side pieces every so often.

  13. Not gonna lie
    Sounds like you’re living the dream mate
    No hate from me 👍

  14. You need to see a therapist, holy shit.

    Cheating isn’t a kink- it would be one thing if you found the idea of it hot, but to actually follow through with it? Several times? There’s something deeply disturbing about that, and you so clearly feel absolutely no remorse, which is just as disgusting.

    The fact that you feel compelled to not only CHEAT ON YOUR WIFE, THE WOMAN WHO LOVES YOU MORE THAN ANYTHING, but to brag about it too? You legitimately need help. I seriously hope your wife finds out and she leaves you, because she deserves so much better than this, and your kids do too.

  15. Just a random question, what if you find out that your wife likes to slide down random 6 to 9 in poles as much as you like some side strange every now and again. Does the cheat fantasy still turn tou on???

  16. Lol. You’re so sheltered you think being a douchebag to someone you love is hot. Sad.

  17. Cool trick: Don’t fuck with your childrens feelings. Kids will probably blame themsevles for it and be devastaed if they find out. It’s a shitty thing to do to a kid. If I was you I’d tell your wife outright and face the problem. if you like monogamy, try that in a healthy way, be open about it rather than make others suffer for your plesure.

  18. I would love to hear your stories! I admit there’s a certain thrill in the risky n illegal)

  19. alternate title: “I [M] 37 am sick in the head and needs therapy” 💗💗💗

    Edit: Put “am” instead of “is” per OP’s suggestion. Cheers!

  20. I find the tone of the discussion so different in this thread than an earlier one in which a woman had a drunken one night stand at her bachelorette party and was called all kinds of horrible names. While some people disagree with this OP, the conversation has been mostly civil. I don’t judge either person, never judge anyone, we are all different. But wow, the tone is definitely easier on male cheaters than female cheaters.

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