I’m in my 40s and have been in a successful (so far, fingers crossed) “triad” situation with two women in their early 20s for about a year now. (Whether I’m sugaring them or not depends on your definition, and doesn’t matter much for the purposes of this post.) Here’s a few notes on “making it work” from my personal experience:
– Be able to take care of them. Seems obvious, but a lot of guys fall short. Remember, two girlfriends is (generally) twice as expensive as one.
– Keep things balanced. Jealousy occurs when someone feels neglected or left out. It takes work to avoid this, or repair it when it when you can’t. Do the work. (Note: this applies on the bedroom as well.)
– Everything will be easier if they have a pre-existing bond. My girlfriends were best friends and roommates for several years before I started dating them. Their pre-existing bond is invaluable. Trust is harmony.
– Be open to a new dynamic. A three-way relationship is unlike a traditional relationship (sugar or not) in many ways. It’s more complex, and can feel exhausting at first, but when it works the payoff is rich. Once you’ve experienced, you may not want to go back. (Although some do.)
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/q8gg85/mff_im_45m_in_a_threeway_relationship_with_two
I guess some us would like to here some stories of your situation because to me this is rare situation to have.
it broke me. never again.