The most important part of any oral sex is enthusiasm. Be genuine, giving a blowjob because you think you should isn’t enjoyable for either party. Think about how much power you have sucking cock, or (if you’re a sub) how much you want to service and please your partner. Keep that thought in your head throughout the act, and make eye contact every once in a while to show how much fun you’re having.
Start slow. Not only will it build tension and make the experience more fun for him because he’ll be more sensitive, it’ll make the actual blowjob time shorter. Win-win.
Kiss him slowly. Push him back down onto the bed and move to his neck. Spend a few minutes there, nibbling, licking, kissing. Breathe on his neck as you move up to his earlobe, sucking gently and maybe adding in some teeth. Experiment! Listen to his moans and exhales. Watch his body to see how he reacts. Vary your pressure while you work his ears, neck, and shoulders.
Once you’ve spent enough time there, move on to his hands. If I’m being quick I’ll just kiss his arms from his shoulder to his hands and then suck his pointer finger while staring into his eyes. Get as much of it into your mouth as you can. Don’t be afraid to gag, most guys are into that! Use your tongue, swirling around the tip before dragging your tongue up his finger while you pull it out of your mouth. If you want, do this to all of his fingers, otherwise move on to the next step.
This step can also be skipped, but I always like to trail a line of butterfly kisses from his shoulders to his pubic area. Caress his happy trail if you want, drag your hands and nails down his chest as you go, maybe go back up and spend some time on his neck again. The key here is not just to tease physically, but to worship his body. You want his body and mind to feel completely satisfied at the end of a blowjob.
Alternatively to all the above foreplay, a back massage works great as well to relax beforehand! Or, if you’re feeling extra, do both! Or just skip it all and start with the below steps.
Next, slowly work your way towards his cock. Kiss the inside of his thighs and then work your way down his cock. Start with the head and kiss it, then keep placing light kisses down his shaft and increase the pressure as you go if you’d like. Make sure to include the balls! Kiss them as well, or maybe caress them with your hands while you work his shaft.
To play with his balls treat them as a unit. You don’t want to separate them from each other. Hold them both in the palm of your hand and massage them gently. Some guys like when you grab just above them and GENTLY tug on the ball sack. You can also use your mouth! Lick them all over and then suck them SLOWLY into your mouth. Massage them with your tongue. Try to get both of them into your mouth at once, but if they’re too large suck on one before you move on to the other, always keeping the one not in your mouth close to your mouth by using your hands, doing the same motions with your fingers as your tongue is doing.
To work the shaft, start with the head and slowly work your way down. Do long licks from the bottom of his shaft up to his head. Then take just the tip in your mouth. Wrap your lips around his head and move his cock slowly in and out of your mouth. The wetter the better! Make sure you’re properly hydrated and your mouth is full of saliva. Use your tongue to trace the ridge of his head, moving in circles and slowly increasing the pressure. You’re exploring his cock with your mouth! As long as you keep moving you really can’t do anything wrong.
Now you can start moving down his shaft. For every millimeter you move down, go all the way back up. Do this over and over until you reach as far down the shaft as you. Don’t worry if you can’t get very far down! With practice you’ll get there. Make sure you use your tongue on the underside of his cock as you move your mouth.
(Oh, a note on positioning! This is written as if he’s laying back on the bed and you’re kneeling between his legs. This is my favorite position. Yes, your back and knees will hurt. Yes, your neck and jaw will hurt. Yes, your arms and wrists will hurt. It’s worth it. You can play around with where to put your head or arms or legs to help the pain. But if you delve entirely into the act you won’t be focusing on the pain, you’ll be focusing on his cock. You can also throw on some music or TV in the background for you to focus on. Or 69! Playing with yourself is another way to make it fun for everyone. Another position is kneeling on the ground while he stands, but I find this makes my knees and back hurt more and only do it once and a while, either as an opening or finishing act (use a pillow under your knees for more comfort). 69 on your side is a fun variation as well. Or you can lay as if you were 69ing but then sit off to the side of his head and suck your partner’s cock that way.)
As you move up and down his shaft, make sure to create some pressure with your mouth. Sucking the whole time is exhausting, and not at all necessary for a good blowjob. But throwing in a little occasionally can be fun. Use your tongue! Move it side to side as you move your mouth, or draw circles. Stop every once in a while to circle the ridge of his head. Massage the frenulum (underside of the cock where the head meets the shaft) as it’s very sensitive.
Use your hands! If your mouth gets tired you can use your hands instead of your mouth. Use one hand (or two depending on size!) to stroke him. Make sure his shaft is nice and slippery, if needed you can spit on it. Some men find it hot to watch you drool on their cock as well. Then use one hand to grip firmly and smoothly jerk him off. I’ve found that the best method is have him show you what he does and then try to mimic it. If you can balance, use your other hand to fondle his balls.
You can also use your hands as an extension of your mouth. Use your hand right below your mouth during a blowjob, don’t disconnect them. You can keep your mouth on your partner’s cock the whole time, or bring your hand up far enough that your mouth comes off his shaft and your hand goes over his head. Add a little bit of a twist at the top as well for added sensation.
While you’re doing all this, watch your partner. Listen to his breathing. Ask him what he likes. If he doesn’t know, give him two choices and ask which one he likes better. Dirty talk! Tell him you love sucking his cock. You love how he tastes. If that’s too much, just moan occasionally while you work. If you know he likes to be called names (daddy, master, sir etc), say them!
Of course the goal here is to make your man orgasm, but not all guys can do that from oral sex. Even if he can’t, he gets a lot of pleasure from it and that should be enough reason to do it often for the both of you! If you want to move on, swing into 69 or crawl up (or down) him into cowgirl/reverse cowgirl. And if he does finish in your mouth, I make sure to always say “thank you”.
Source: reddit.com/r/eroticliterature/comments/ooy3ud/basic_blowjob_howto_mf
Excellent finish! 👌