Yes, that’s right. I am doing what I never wanted to have to do. I am spelling it all out for you because apparently I cannot find what I am looking for without doing so. So please read carefully =]
This is what makes me mad:
“Dominants” who claim online, and even in person, to have so much experience in their trade, and then when it comes down to an actual scene or session, I find that they know close to nothing.
“Dominants” who act like timid kittens when I bring out my bag of toys. Please, don’t glance at the toys, blush, and then put them in the corner, never to use them on me or for your own benefit. I brought them for a reason! And chances are that if I have a particular toy, then I am probably into that sort of play.
“Dominants” who want or need me to write them a script/playwrite for a session. I am a sexual submissive. In a scene or approaching a scene, I cannot and will not tell you what to do… That would just be very unnatural for me. And besides… I do love that nervous anticipation of not knowing what is coming. Plus, planning it out ahead of time (or in the moment, as an experienced and/or natural Dominant should be able to) is your job anyways. My job is to serve, obey and please.
“Dominants” who are wishy-washy. If you say that you are going to do something, then do it! Don’t not follow through with it. Being a “little” type, I am especially prone to the expression “give her an inch, and she’ll take a mile.” I need a firm hand to exact control and keep me in-check, when necessary.
“Dominants” who ask for my permission in the middle of a scene about whether or not they can do something. If we did not discuss it previously as a hard limit then yes, of course you can! And if I really have a problem with it for any reason, then I will let you know via my safe word or some other signal.
What I expect from a Dominant (personality wise):
You will be outgoing and confident in yourself. I cannot be confident in you and put all of my trust into you if I do not feel that you feel comfortable in your own shoes. Also, there are few things sexier than a man who can take control of a conversation or of a situation. If you lead with confidence, I will follow adoringly at your feet.
What I need from a Dominant (sexually):
First and foremost, personal hygiene, and at least moderate physical fitness please. No, that certainly does not mean that you need to be extravagantly muscled, but please let it show that you take pride in your physical appearance. I spend a lot of time keeping up with my own personal hygiene and fitness, and I expect that you would have the courtesy to show me the same.
When it pleases you, instruct me kneel before you on the floor, and tenderly place my leather collar around my neck. Clip on my leash and make me crawl on the floor beside you like a dog, like your good little sex pet. Lock me in a cage while I wait for further instruction or attention for you. When I have pleased you like a good little pet, tenderly pet my hair as I nuzzle into your chest or your crotch, and whisper sweet nothings into my ear.
When it pleases you, make me beg to lick and suck on your glorious cock. Maybe you would like to throat fuck me, or maybe you would enjoy watching me slowly tease and worship your cock. This is for your oral pleasure. Guide me and show me what you like, and I will happily oblige. Make me beg to be allowed to swallow your delicious cum… And make me thank you for the special treat after.
When it pleases you, tie me up. Bind me so that I cannot move or get away from you, even if I wanted to. Tie my arms high above my head with only my toes touching the floor. Tie me spread eagle on the bed. Tie me on my back, or face down, ass up, with my limbs pulled tightly out to the corners. Once I am bound to your liking, please have your way with me.
When it pleases you, repeatedly deny me orgasm after orgasm, bringing me close to the edge and then stopping before I have the chance to cum, whispering threats in my ear about what may happen to me if I disobey and cum without your permission. Wouldn’t it be such cruel fun to force me to cum when I am not allowed to, then punish me for it later? Once I get really worked up, I am often unable to hold back an orgasm, regardless of how hard I may try.
When it pleases you, play with and fuck my little asshole. Although I have taken a break from anal play for quite some time, I have a large assortment of anal toys. Wouldn’t you enjoy stretching my ass out for the first time in so long? I crave to feel that pleasurable pain again. Make me get on all fours on the bed, face down ass up, lube me up and stretch my ass out with my dildos or buttplugs, getting my ass ready for your cock.
When it pleases you, spank me hard. Take me over your knee like a naughty little girl, or bend me over a table, the bed, or the arm of a couch, whatever it be, and spank me hard. Spank me until I’m squirming over your lap, and my ass is bright red and bruised, spank me until I’m panting, crying, and begging you to stop, and then spank me just a little bit more.
Then at the end, when I have pleased you, look deeply into my eyes, tenderly touch my face and hair, pet me gently and tell me what a good girl I am.
Source: reddit.com/r/eroticliterature/comments/ogluyf/what_i_am_looking_for