How our sex life got wild and kinky. [MF]

Husband here with a 2020 success story about how we reignited our sex life and a progress report on how it’s going. Apology for the long back story, you can skip ahead to the ** Good Part ** marker if you want. TLDR at end.

So starting with some obligatory background, when I was still dating my now wife our sex life started off as well as I could have hoped. I was never particularly successful in that area before her so needless to say I was in heaven (mostly). It all came as a complete surprise to me when almost immediately in our relationship she started sexting me, sending nudes, and got a dildo. For perspective, she was this curvy Asian from the south that still went to church every Sunday and had a professional career. Nothing about her even suggested slut to me at the time, but as I have come to discover over the years that is very much the case. Our relationship was long distance while we were dating so I would only see her every other weekend or so and we definitely made the most of it. Sometime she would come out during the week and all day while I was at work she would be sexting me from the hotel room. I would even go home during lunch for sex, and this was after having sex before leaving for work too. And as you can imagine, a few more times after work. All credit goes to my wife for this because as much as my young sex craved mind fantasized about all this, I was too big of a coward at the time to ever suggest this stuff. Growing up very sheltered with a highly conservative Catholic mother clearly had left it’s scars on my self-image and self-confidence, so as much as I thought I was into kinky stuffy, the reality of it was hard for me to enjoy and even more hard to admit my fantasies to anyone. My wife wife wanted sex daily too, but that became exhausting and it really prevented me from enjoying it and that started sending things downhill. Thankfully, not so much as to prevent us from getting married and having kids though.

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My wife and I got married in our mid twenties (now mid 30s). We had our first kid pretty early and second more recently. Compared to others of our generation we’ve been pretty lucky, but still struggled a lot early on financially. We both worked full time too and had stressful jobs (especially mine). With my personal issues limiting our sex life already, life itself started having a big impact and basically killed off what was left. What started out as three to five times a day went to one or two times a month, if that, and it stayed like this for years. Earlier this year we even threw away all our sex toys we had accumulated over the years (except the magic wand of course) since we never used them and didn’t want to hide them any more.

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** Good Part **

Fast forward to August this year now. We had started binge watching Billions every night once the kids went to bed. Without giving away too much about the show, some of the characters are into hardcore BDSM stuff which I would later discover, surprising to me, really turned my wife on. She made some comments like “oh, that’s hot” and stuff like that when we watched it, but I didn’t really take her that seriously at the time and she didn’t take it much further that either. A few weeks later we are sitting outside on our front porch at night after putting the kids to bed and the BDSM scenes from the show come up in our conversation some how. I was more open that night than I had been in a long time and was actually able to admit to her that I liked some of it too. For the first time in years I had told my wife a fantasy and wasn’t embarrassed by it, which felt great and really got the conversation going about sex stuff. We both opened up about things we liked and were into for what was probably the first time ever where both of us were honest and uninhibited about our desires. This ultimately led to her admitting to me that there was one thing she liked, but was pretty crazy and wasn’t sure if I wanted to know. I had been pretty successful that night opening up already and didn’t want to ruin anything so I didn’t push it and the conversation moved on to something else. Also, I admit I was bit afraid it would be something too extreme for me and take what had been a big turn on and turn it into a big turn off.

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Maybe 30 minutes later my curiosity gets the bets of me and ask her what the crazy fetish thing she likes is. She double checks that I really want know first and then proceeds to tell me. Without being specific, there is one scene in Billions where they show a pretty extreme fetish. It’s in the first episode I think even and might be part of the very first BDSM scene in the show but I can’t remember exactly. Now this is something that is on my list of things I never want to do. My initial fear that I didn’t want to know this was starting to come true, but surprisingly instead of being disgusted I found myself being really turned on. More so than I’ve ever been probably. Not by the act she described itself, but the fact that she was so open and into something so extreme. I expected myself to feel embarrassed for being turned on by the situation as I would have 10 years ago, but I had changed more than I had realized over the years. Without getting into the details, those self-confidence and self-image problems were gone and I realized I could actually enjoy my sexual desires no matter how crazy or kinky and I saw the same thing in my wife for the first time too.

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In that moment of realization something snapped and it was like I was horny teenager all over again. I thought my sex drive was gone for the past 5+ years, but now realized it wasn’t gone. It was being compressed, bottled and stored the whole time and now it was being released all at once. We both realized that a lot of the life stresses that killed our sex life in the first place were gone now and that we had mostly just gotten used to not having sex out of habit more than anything. Since COVID had both of us working from nearly full time we started taking full advantage of it and have been fucking again like when we were dating. This is all on top of frequent kissing, spanking, and fondling all throughout the day.

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Now that we are talking openly about what we like the sex has been amazing and gotten a whole lot kinkier. It’s why we started posting on Reddit in the first place. We watch porn together all the time and tell each other exactly what we like about it. I now call my wife upstairs frequently during work for quick blowjobs too. She’s even brought up the idea of going to a swinger resort (just as voyeur/exhibitionist)! As you may have guessed already, my wife likes it rough too. I used to be afraid to hurt her, but now the only limit is how loud we are since the kids and their grandfather are in the house all the time. Once already we spontaneously booked a hotel in town and called in sick to work just so we could get out of the house and fuck loudly. However, this was still not enough and we are currently planning on getting away to a cabin on 40 acres just so I can fuck her brains out while she screams as loud as she wants and not have to worry about a neighbor calling the police LOL! All our Black Friday shopping was for sex toys for this trip. I’m particularly looking forward to trying the butt plugs since she’s finally agreed to try anal with me! And yes, we’ll probably post pics :).

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Overall, the past several months have been the best ever with my wife. I know there is a ton more in store for us and I look forward to making all her fantasies come true!

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TLDR: Fuck like bunnies while dating. Life stress and mental health issues kill sex life. Kinky BDSM scene in TV show spurs conversation that leads to us discovering we are better and like sex again. Leads to posting an ever increasingly kinky sex life on Reddit and planning trip to remote cabin to fuck LOUD!

Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/k44q99/how_our_sex_life_got_wild_and_kinky_mf