Originally posted in r/Swingers and was told it would fit here.
(I put “swinging” in quotes because what we did was *technically* hotwifing but, as we’re using it as a springboard into the swinging lifestyle, I still consider it swinging. Anyway, here’s Wonderwall…)
My boyfriend and I had decided before the *dreadful days of darkness and despair* that we would like to swing together. All very healthy stuff and boundaries put in place; we knew that all it would take was a word from the other person and things could end or change (so long as we were both on the same page, obviously). We were hoping to start at parties where it would be easier to socialize and dip our toes in the water. We had even been approved for an invite to a private party, but nature had different plans and we had to cancel… We were pretty bummed.
Unfortunately the dark times began almost immediately thereafter, and we took the precaution not to attend swinging parties/clubs until things headed back toward more “normal” territory. We took that time to learn each other better; communicate more of our needs, wants, and fantasies in the bedroom; and really overall improved our sex lives with fairly constant vigilance.
Recently, we felt more comfortable with (instead of parties) entertaining the notion of private play with a uni/manicorn or couple. I joined us up to sls and the neon apps and waited. We got a bite from a very kind gentleman who was part of a couple, but whose wife was currently with two bulls and didn’t fancy a third. This was great for us, because my boyfriend mostly just wants to watch with a possible option to join later if he’s up for it. It took a minute to organize, but we finally got together. Ho man… You guys, I have no idea what took me so long to step into the SLS. It was so freaking awesome.
We were going to meet for coffee, but places are still mostly closed indoors. So, we went back to my place and my boyfriend ran to grab condoms and some drinks while our manicorn sat and chatted with me on the couch. Things were already heating up while my bf was out at the gas station. So much that I had to pause things because I wasn’t sure if this was technically outside of our agreement (my bf’s boundary was always being present during the activities). I later learned that had he walked in on that, apparently it would have been *even hotter* for him (I am often overly cautious, but hey better safe than sorry).
He was super respectful, incredibly attentive (dude, I came 12 times in the span of probably 30-45 minutes), and very sensual. I have bad body dysmorphia, so this was crazy important to me. And my boyfriend sat in the corner with a beer, never looking away.. Every once in a while when I came, I heard his “desperation” in the corner (that’s his aroused noise lol), which just made everything hotter. Occasionally I would find him and lock eyes with him during an orgasm. It was fucking magical. My bf said he had such a good time spectating that he really, really hopes we do it again. And shit, as well as I was treated, *sign me up for the next one*. LOL
Thanks for coming to my TED talk
TL;DR we finally popped our swinging cherry and it was fucking fabulous. Can’t wait to experience more of the community and lifestyle! ???
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/j42i7e/we_had_our_first_swinging_encounter_and_it_was