We had been dating for almost two years, but never had sex because she is Muslim and wanted us both to save ourselves for marriage. About a week before our two years anniversary she broke up with me because I wasn’t “the one”.
I was really struggling from the breakup because I love her, so I took my time griefing and had no interest in seeing anyone else. Apparently she felt differently. She started talking to this group of guys, got the birth control pill prescribed, got them and herself tested, shaved her pussy for them upon their request (something she wouldn’t do for me) and then had basically an orgy with them that lasted a whole weekend. Parts of it apparently got filmed by one of them.
Now she contacted me out of nowhere and admitted everything. She said she regrets it deeply and should have never broken up with me in the first place. She wants to get back with me and stay with me.
I’m not sure what to do.
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/i4fxk4/my_20m_girlfriend_18f_broke_up_with_me_for_two
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As a fellow Muslim myself, take her back. If she’s being genuine and is legitimately sorry for what happened, then why not? There is a Hadith about marrying women who aren’t virgins, it’s a good thing. Allah knows best, good luck brother.
If I were in your position I would say, you had your chance and you blew it. You did with 3 not 1. What I asked you to do it. Now, after you denied me and had fun some place else want to come back, too little too late go f*ck yourself I don’t want sloppy seconds or in this case fourths ?
Best way you could think about it is:
how much did it hurt when you broke up?(emotionally, mentally, physically);
are you willing to, hypothetically, go through it again?;
what is the best case scenario that could happen? , example: Marriage, children, etc… ;
and finally is it worth the risk?
If you said that it is then I do hope it goes well for you
In the event that you said no, my best recommendations are that you treasure the good times with her; while, not forgetting how you felt after the breakup, and only start dating anyone when you are ready to take the risk.