Being married for any amount of time can cause strain on a relationship, I think. My eyes have always wandered, but I remain physically faithful. Married sex turns into a routine. You’ve been with the person for years and know their body like your own. Vanilla sex becomes the norm.
Sometimes one has to take initiative to make things more exciting. My wife has always been the less adventurous and has the lower sex drive. I’ve made suggestions to spice things up ex. Lingerie, cock rings, vibrators, we even bought a polaroid camera to take naughty pictures. But she is very set in our married sex. The truth is, I’m bored.
We go through dry spells ever so often where we won’t have sex for over a week. I spend a lot of time on here, by myself, dreaming what it would be like to fuck someone new. Someone else’s body to learn. Then I feel guilty. Not in a i’m a p.o.s. kinda way, but in a my dad cheated on my mom, it’s only a matter of time I inherit my bloodlines evils.
Last night, I took matters into my own hands. I threw her in our chair in the living room and ripped off her panties. I could see her pussy through her bush already glistening. She is self conscious of her bush, but never turns down the opportunity for me to bury my face between her thighs. After teasing her clit til her hips were writhing, I slipped two fingers inside. She moaned as I caressed the upper wall, continuing to flick her clit with my tongue. She almost came, but I wasn’t finished. I pulled her hips to the edge and shoved my drooling cock deep inside her. She was so fucking wet. Squeezing her nipples as I thrust faster and harder she said she would come, but I wouldn’t let her. I flipped her over on her stomach and fucked her from behind. Her hand struggling to hold herself up as the other searched for her clit. She is a very soft girl and doesn’t like it rough. I didn’t care. My thumb caressed her asshole and slipped inside. She didn’t protest. I fucked her harder and felt my cock thrusting through the wall of her tight neglected asshole. She cried out that she was going to cum. With my other hand I grabbed her by the back of the head pulled her hair tightly. She cried out in lustrous pleasure as I pulled out and blew my load all over her ass.
Then we cleaned up and I went to bed. This probably still sounds like unexciting married sex, but it was at least this time a bit different. I’m not complaining about boring sex, I just wish I was having more of it. I like using reddit as a sex diary at times so I can go back and revisit.
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/i3n33j/sometimes_being_married_has_its_perks
The fact she didn’t protest seems to me as if she is more submissive. Begin to be more dominant and you’d be surprised. I am a bit of a switch, i like being dominated however I like for my wife to treat me like a stunt cock for her own benefit. I’ve told her this and she gives me a treat from time to time, she’ll grab me right out of the shower get my hard and ride me like my cum’s got the cure for cancer. I communicated to her this is what I like also.
Is it weird that I found this romantic? I can relate to having a wandering eye and my husband knows I do because I confess it regularly. He loves me anyway but he’s vanilla. Sometimes I worry that I might cheat eventually but I know I couldn’t actually do that to him. And I don’t think you will either because you turned your sexual frustrations toward your wife and I think that’s what marriage is about in many ways. Sorry for being off topic lol
I am in a very similar situation as you. In my early life I had many partners and exciting sex. I miss those times, but am glad I married my now wife.
I too use Reddit for inspiration and excitement. It actually inspired me to start writing up my own experiences (sexperiences!) from back then – for the fun of it and for the re-excitement of those times. Some of them are posted here on Reddit.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experience – I might try something similar with my wife!
This is super-normal my man. Especially for normal guys who love their wife and are attentive to her needs. My wife and I have been married a while and gone through this as well. She’s still super-hesitant to go out of her comfort zone so I have to take charge. I don’t do it all the time as I’m not dominant with her since I see her as an equal not a sexual object. I do it when she’s not expecting it or when she’s had some stressful times at work due to her employees. She’s not dominant in bed at all, it’s always a mutual thing. Which is fine, but damn, it would be hot if she did. It’s more common also in couples that are in their 40s and up. Younger people have been exposed to more during their sexual awakenings and seem more comfortable with things that scare me to try to do, like calling my wife a slut and that whole communication style during sex. I just don’t see how that would be a good idea, I like my balls.
Talk to her about it. Listen. Tell her what you want. Tell her you want it to be a surprise when she does it. If that’s not working, then do what you did in your story but stop all together and tell her you won’t do anything else unless she commands you to do it. It’s still you taking control and doing different things but hopefully it will give her some idea that you are looking and more importantly, taking action, into bettering your sex life and your relationship.
Good luck brother!
Sometimes women are turned on by the primal, male, dominating actions of men. Me for example. My ex-boyfriend used to be in the army before I met him but was still a proud veteran. So sometimes on the weekends when we weren’t working, we’d sit in his backyard and I’d watch him shoot his guns at cans and water jugs for target practice. It was something he’d like to do sometimes if he wanted to reminisce on his military days. Me, however, when I’d watch him…something would just click inside of me and my vagina would turn into a fucking waterfall. It was just something so hot about watching him do something so manly…It would just keep me on edge until I couldn’t take it anymore. Then I’d pull him by his shirt and kiss him as hard as i could and drag him back into the house to fuck at least 3 times. It would turn me on so much when he’d be on top of me, fucking me and telling me how fucking drenched I was for him and how much he loved it.
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Aww that is sweet. Im glad you got to reconnect with her instead of someone else. I would see a sex therapist. They could probably help you a lot. Bonus points if you take the initiative and find one.