Hello,
As you may have read, I’m kinda scared about my first time. It came up about half a year ago while masturbating, as I noticed I’m… finishing way too fast. And I mean really fast.
Last night, I had a chat about sex and stuff with my best friend and brought up this problem a bit. She said for her, and probably most other woman, it’s actually completely ok to not last long, since she experienced the same at her first time and that I shouldn’t get fooled by porn. She said I should just be relaxed when the times comes, it it probably comes pretty soon, and then it’ll be ok.
But it still makes me uncomfortable. I haven’t talked to my girlfriend about it either.
So is there anything I could do about it?
And what are your views on finishing early?
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/fz0ppx/im_not_sure_if_this_belongs_here_im_scared_of_my
It’s all about how long the foreplay is
Hey man, don’t think anyone had a ‘good’ first experience. I couldn’t even stay hard because I was overthinking it that much! You’ve got a girlfriend which is a good start so if you trust her and feel comfortable around her I’m sure you’ll just be fine. With anything in life practice makes perfect my dude, don’t overthink it or compare yourself to others! ?♂️?♂️
I would rather be scared of not getting hard if you are so scared of coming to fast. Its all about the foreplay man. If you get relax and dont rush the humping, nice long strokes, you will last at least 10 mins. If you feel yourself cumming, stop and just feel your lady, kiss your lady and tell her how beautiful she is and how perfect she feels, when having sex is the best time to compliment your lady.
Totally normal man average length of penetrative sex is 3-5 min. Shocking right ? But that’s it. However, most girls takes 10-15 min to get off meaning you have to make up the gap with foreplay and oral. You can train yourself to last longer ie good diet exercise and edging ( jerking off but stopping before you cum) builds up tolerance and the will power to stop and hold back if your worried about not lasting long enough. Not to mention yeah the first time is usually a mulligan man.
Nobody’s first time is good! Haha and I’m not sure how old you are but as a young girl the last thing I wanted was to be pounded for an hour straight..haha
I mean could always try anti depresents XD darn things took me for like 30 mins wanking to 2 fing hours but also as you do something more your nerves get used to it So you will get better at going longer and longer. Also if it helps my first time with a girl she came withen 5 seconds and couldn’t go any further so its not only a male problem
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