[F] Me ranting about being a switch

Everyone who has even one kink has probably heard of the BDSM tests you can take online. Once you take these magical tests the all-wise internet tells you what you like in bed.

I personally I have taken these tests many times as I have explored my sexuality. The first time I took the test I was around 15 years old. I had a big crush on a sexy co-worker and all I knew was I wanted to be dominated. At the time I found a song that encaptured how I felt. Anyone ever heard of the song Closer by Nine Inch Nails? Yeah… I felt that way. Looking back that is super cringy but hey, everyone was super horny and crazed at that age. Unfortunately, I don’t have the results from that first test anymore. But if I remember right, I was submissive and very vanilla.

The next test was probably a year later. I had a crush on a boy in one of my clubs and a 30 year old co-worker. Still wanted to be dominated by them but at the same time I was gaining confidence. I figured out that I wanted to be the reason they came. I wanted to be skilled enough to push them over the edge. *Disclaimer: I never slept with any of these people.* My next test revealed I like being dominant too and a bit of ageplay in there.

My next test was with my first boyfriend of a year and a half. I discovered more of the specific kinks like bondage and anal. The fit for domination and submission was pretty good for me looking back. I finally knew for sure that I was a switch.

After that I decided I didn’t the tests to tell me what I was. I knew what the good fit was. But just because you know what you like, does not mean you are going to get it.

I discovered I love experimenting. Therefore I had a lot of partners throughout the rest of my process. But I started (and still am) getting frustrated. I would ask my partners, “Are you more submissive or Dominant?” I would usually get the answer of, “Both” or, “It depends”. Okay… So I can understand that as, I can expect both. Not the case 90% of the time. During those 90% of my experiences we would have sex multiple times. I always give it time for them to show their true colors.

All that would happen most of the time is, it takes forever to even get started. We are just making out for like 40 minutes and I am letting them touch me and feel me up. But THEY NEVER GO ANY FURTHER. Eventually I get sick of this shit and just take my clothes off (Even though I would prefer getting them ripped off). Then they act all surprised like they weren’t expecting it (worst acting ever). Sometimes they will start off on top. They either do a terrible job (even with me grabbing their ass and guiding them so I can cum) or they start sweating like a fat old man in a sauna and I can’t take that shit anymore. So I say if they want to change positions. Usually they right away are like “Yeah! You wanna be on top?” And then I’m stuck on top being dominant and giving them a good time while I didn’t get squat.

I want to be clear that I love being on top sometimes. I can tease a guy so good he is shaking. But when a guy sucks at being “both” and dominating me I am going to be pissed for false advertising.

At this point I feel that I shouldn’t even say I’m a switch so guys don’t expect me to be on top. It’s like they think to themselves “Oh good! She can be dominant and I don’t have to work too hard to fuck her”. If I wanted to fuck a lump on my bed I would get my pillow and a vibrator.

I guess my point is, I want to be dominated in a satisfying mannor so I can feel like things are equal when I give a guy the best orgasm on his back. Please don’t falsely advertise.

This story doesn’t fully explore all of my experiences (believe it or not there are a lot of good ones). So I guess just let me know if you want to hear any of my other ones. Thanks!

Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/fv8k5s/f_me_ranting_about_being_a_switch