I will try to keep this as short as possible.
I met this guy and have began hanging out / going on “dates” for 6 times now. He is 30m and I am 26f years old. We always have had a great time together but have had drunk sex twice now with me left thinking it will never work sexually or if I’m being too negative and writing him off already with sex being too new to make any calls…
Non-judgmentally asking, men can you confirm?
Do you finger a girl with your fingers pointing upward or another specific type of way? He finger ed me as if you pointed your index and middle finger simply out in front of you. He did not turn his hand upward the other way and it didn’t feel all that pleasant.
He asked me if I liked to be licked or sucked more. After I answered, he proceeded with telling me it was a “treat” for him. I did not orgasm and feel he isn’t that great at eating pu$$y. In simple words that translate well to a male, what would I verbally express to let him know to do more than to just push his face into me and move his tongue any which way? This takes more effort than that and I’m afraid, along with many other males, he isn’t quite aware of this…
He pulled out and came on my back after I told him earlier that I took birth control. Why??
He finished very early and then asked me if I can orgasm and if so, how?
I feel like it’s too soon to go into such detail about how I can finish. I didn’t really answer and he apologized for being “forward”. Its not that easy for me but I also feel like he is inexperienced in the sack.
I can orgasm with a man who knows how to eat pu$$y (in an intense manner) or with squeezing my legs together (his hand would be in between my legs while I would squirm around). I feel embarrassed about the leg thing this soon and don’t know how in simple terms to disclose he needs to up his game in the cunnilingus dept…
I really like him but we aren’t “together” this soon in the game and feel awkward being so directive and detailed over sex…
Please help! Give me your male advice. Thank you .
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/f1nokk/weve_slept_together_2x_mf
Hell no tell him what you want and how you want it, coach him if you must when he does a good job make sure to satisfy him
Firstly – don’t be the least embarrassed in wanting a good time, both of you should be enjoying time together fully!
Definitely guide him with what’s good for you. Men can be clueless enough at the best of times, and when you’re naked together, all his thinking is being taken over by his cock. ;) There is absolutely no shame in telling him what you like, what you want, and how you want it. Obviously think about *how* you ask/tell him things (“Fucking hell, that was awful, have you ever actually fingered a girl before?” is a terrible way to hint his technique could use improvement for example ;) .. but “Can you do X more, that feels really good for me” is good.
If you don’t cum super easily – there is no shame in letting him know that, everyone is different. But let him know that you *want* him to make you cum, and that he might need to follow your guidance quite closely while he’s learning what makes you tick.
Why did he pull out and cum on your back? He maybe just thought that seemed hot in the heat of the moment. If you want to feel his cock pulsing inside you as he cums – tell him that. He isn’t a mind reader and may not have realised that you wanted it. Again, thinking with cock does not always equate to the smartest thought processes. ;)
Now go have some better sex. :)
Personally i always eat pussy and finger it at the same time but i never just point my finger and go in and out. Maybe you could try and have “sober” sex first and see if its any different and if its not but you like him you should just teach him what you like and how you like it. You’ll never be satisfied if you just keep telling him its good without ever changing anything (changing his habits isint gonna be easy) but if you teach him and say the right words you can get yourself a great dude and great sex (my ex thought me a lot and i learned on my own too trying new things). You gotta be open to him failing because its with practice that you become perfect!