James and I started dating three months ago from Okcupid, and I could tell off the bat he was a quirky guy. Always cracking jokes, so cool with everyone, a nerdy programmer with an edge, yada yada yada. Honestly, into month two, I was like, I could totally see myself bringing him home to my parents. Personality-wise, we’re very similar: both extroverted, both liberal, both kind of chill but we do campaign stuff for Bernie and just generally have an awesome social life with good friends (we actually have a ton of common acquaintances too, which made things super easy). We both even work in academia.
But into month one, we finally had sex. Look, I’m not some size queen or whatever. I’m a curvier woman and average penises actually do wonders to me, so I don’t really feel I’m complaining when I say that Jim was a bit smaller than what I’m used to. The sex is… fine. It’s workable. He has a dad bod. He doesn’t really have an aggressive bone in his body, so it’s a lot of maneuvering, grunting on his part, some maneuvering again (lots of maneuvering), and then the grand finale (from him). I like moaning a bit to make him feel like a rock star, but I usually masturbate afterwards.
This isn’t a question though of how to deal with a boyfriend like that (if you have advice, though, throw it my way!). It’s more… what I learned about him into month two and three. He seems super comfortable with his small penis, which in today’s society is actually kind of amazing. But he’s so forward about it. Two instances come to mind: one time we were at a bar with a few of our friends, and a guy that we both sort of know, sort of don’t cracked a joke — after we were all talking about sex — that Jim “probably can’t even get it up.” Everyone kinda laughed a little because Jim is sometimes the butt of the joke (aren’t we all?), but then he goes, very loudly with a big grin, “Yeah, with a cock as small as mine, you can’t even tell if I’m hard.” Everyone burst out laughing… but it’s kind of true. And he winked at me…
The second was with some friends and my sister when we were all at brunch. My sister made some off hand comment about how we’re so new in the relationship and probably having great sex. And across the table with 10 people at it, Jim loudly proclaims, “Yeah, it’s amazing she can even get off on my tiny dick.” My sister is pretty liberal and openminded so she just laughed it off, but I’m seeing a pattern here. There are also times where he talks about his penis during sex that has me wondering this too (it’s actually increased in frequence, which is why I started posting).
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/elv29n/f_im_three_months_into_a_relationship_with_a_guy
Damn. His he that small. Lol
I feel like this would fit better on r/sex if you want advice!
It could be a kink, or the humor is how he deals with it.- curious is it small compare to the charts or literally that small ? Because size can be relative-
We all want to know how small it is!
Could be a coping thing. It was for me at least.
I was A LATE bloomer. Puberty started on time I’d say but didn’t really “finish” until I was probably 27-28. At 21 I was probably sub 5″ which was a lot smaller than all my friends. Being in the Marine Corps, jokes come fast and are fucking brutal. By the time I could drink I had the same sense of humor he did. Self “degradation” jokes that I really did think were funny. I was insecure but only to a point as I was married with kids and my SO DGAF so why would I?
Weirdly by age 28 somehow my body changed and my dick was no longer sub 5 or sub average in length or width. My sense of humor about it hasn’t changed and I still think it’s funny to say my dick is small, especially around friends who don’t know any better.
I obviously can’t speak to his reasoning but sounds like a pretty good headspace to have when society says anything shorter that 6″ might as well not exist.