This will get a bit lengthy (sorry). I’ve always been very casual about sex. It’s something that feels good. Sure there is love making. An intimate sharing of each other. Then there’s sex when you both just want to cum. Then there’s FUCKING where both sides just let their inner animal go and it’s great. But I’m also a one woman man type of guy.
The first time my wife and I were together sexually was when she was 18. She had the normal amount of hook ups for a girl of her age (three guys before me) so she was a little shy and a little reticent at first. But really got into it before the weekend ended.
Over the five years we’ve been together I’ve managed to knock a lot of the social stigmas that I don’t believe in out of her head with calm rational reason. Sex is natural and fun but Western Society puts such a damn stigma on a woman enjoying sex and multiple partners (more on that later)
One of the things I ‘taught’ her is that masturbation is normal, healthy, and good for you. She used to hide it from me until I caught her one day. I just said ‘proceed baby it’s okay’. When she finished I held her and told her there was nothing wrong with it. From that day forward if she was in a ‘down’ cycle and I wasn’t it was cool with her if I watched some porn and vice versa. I even downloaded some for her.
Now she had mentioned in passing that she’d do a threesome with Joe Perry and Steven Tyler (she’s a huge Aerosmith fan). She always said it as a joke but I have a philosophy that people don’t say things like that they haven’t considered it but I didn’t think much of it.
Fast forward to one of her ‘down’ cycles. I’m browsing porn and come across an MFM where the girl reminded me of her. I got off pretty good to that one and started thinking about. The more I thought about it the more the idea stuck. Then she added to it when she mentioned her Aerosmith fantasy and threw in a Van Halen one (David Lee Roth and Eddie Van Halen) and that just anchored the thought in my mind.
Over the next six months I did a lot of thinking, researching, and soul searching and I came to some conclusions.
First the philosophy of the Western Hemisphere is based pretty much on the King James bible. But that Bible was interpreted by man and no matter how ‘righteous’ a man is he will interject his own bias into his interpretation. Why would God give us instincts that we’re not supposed to act on? While I’ve considered murder before I’d never act on it unless it was 100% justified. I’d never just go out of my way to kill someone that wasn’t actively trying to hurt someone innocent or someone I care about and then only in the heat of the moment of defense of self or others. I wouldn’t steal a car. Things like that. Because it’s ingrained in decent human beings that doing such things is wrong. But sex? PSH. I’ve had a lot of emotionless sex in the past and it was fun.
Secondly jealousy is bullshit. I’m confident in our relationship and our love. Jealousy doesn’t prove you care. It proves you’re insecure. If you have insecurities there’s no place in swinging for you.
Third swingers aren’t generally running around willy nilly and fucking everybody they meet. They look for what they’re looking for. Same with me. I considered the types of guys I’d be okay with and came to the conclusion that I’d like for her to experience all kinds of new guys. Different guys will hit her in places I don’t / can’t and I’m okay with that. I’m an ex club DJ so I’ve had a lot of partners. Could have had a lot more but I was a bit insecure back then. A woman would pretty much have to say ‘I want to fuck you’ to get me going LOL. But I thought it was kind of unfair that she couldn’t have her wild 20’s like I did.
I have an analogy for the whole relationship. Love, trust, symbiosis between two people is like cake but no icing. Sex, love making, and fucking, is like the icing. Too much cake with no icing is nice but you get sick of it after a while. Too much icing with no cake gets old quick. But cake and icing are great. Now the swinging portion is like those little sprinkles. Fun but not really necessary to make life satisfying it’s just a little added bonus.
Enough philosophy.
So we joined SLS back when it was worth it and in very short order found a guy she found interesting and was willing to meet. So we went to a local sports bar and had a few drinks with him. He was intelligent, articulate, and had a sense of humor. Knowing my wife after a couple of drinks she’s going to need to go to the restroom. While she was gone I flat out asked the guy if we were a ‘thumbs up’ or a ‘thumbs down’ (I tend to be direct) and he was all in. When she returned he excused himself and I asked her the same question. I was a little surprised when she said ‘yes’ as I figured she’d want to take it a little slower.
So when he got back I got his address and said ‘lets get out of here’ and we all split.
When we got to his apartment we were all a little nervous so I started making out with her on his couch to get her going. Then I gently pushed her face to his and let them make out some while I was caressing her back and breasts from behind. By now she was fully in the moment and ready to go so he and I led her to his bedroom, laid her down, and started slowly undressing her. She was nervous and even shaking a bit so I took over and she started to relax. Pushing her back towards him I moved in beind her and started to gently fuck her in doggy style while they made out and she started making her way down to his dick. I got a glimpse of it and it was THICK and the thought went through my head that ‘this is going to sting her a bit’. As I was fucking her gently from behind I noticed her head was going WAY down on him and thought ‘oh my God she’s deep throating him’ and it was HOT to me. I made eye contact with him and said ‘ready to switch?’ and he was. So we moved her around and he got behind her. I watched her eyes as he got inside and I could tell he was stretching her good. He started moving inside her and she proceeded to start sucking me off. His style was more aggressive than mine and he began to pound her and I could tell she was loving it. Suddenly she clenched and screamed as her first orgasm of the night took over her body. He came in his condom shortly after and we all dropped on the bed.
It didn’t take us long to start fooling around again and she decided to blow him to help him get up again. I’m still hard and start taking her from behind again but I can feel my nut building soon. I pull out and (being new to this and totally unprepared) grab my shirt and came all over it. In the mean time he had rolled her over missionary and started pounding the hell out of her. It was amazing to see her taking that kind of brutality with her breasts popping almost up to her chin and loving it. They both came again and we were all pretty spent for the night.
On the way home she and I talked about it and how we felt. We determined that we both loved it. It was hot for me to be there and see her feeling so good and participating and it was good for her to know that she could have NSA sex and not have negative feelings about it. I finally asked her about deep throating him and she said ‘well he was way thicker than you but shorter so I tried it just to see if I could’. I was actually proud of her for having the imagination to try new things.
When we got home we had some of the best sex we’ve ever had and having her seen enjoying being pounded I gave it a shot. We’ve since incorporated good pounding into our sex lives much to our enjoyment.
Sorry for the text wall but that’s the short version :)
T
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/bqhe3a/mfm_philosophy_and_first_time_sharing_long