Am I still a lesbian? [19] [F] [FMF]

So being 100% honest here– this isn’t exactly quite a sex story, but I really need to get it off my chest. My whole life I’ve never been attracted to men. Romantically or sexually At all.

Yet, there are times were I’ll be in a headspace where my kinks instanty twist into the realm of things like “breeding”, “daddy/sir, ect. If I fall too deep in the hole of horniness. And overall, being desperate.

I don’t know exactly why. I’ve considered myself homosexual my whole life, however I considered both Pansexuality, and Bisexuality. As any type of femme, and or, masculine looking person I find attractive.

But those who consistently identify themselves as men.. I just don’t know.

I don’t know If I’m subconsciously liking humiliation and putting men down as my ‘punishment’ persay, but I’m completely lost.

Mainly due to the fact, even now, I sometimes message guys with the idea that we can get each other off. Especially If I’m desperate- I will actually beg to be ‘stretched out’ or ‘bred.’

So either I’m just a hormonal 19 year old, or Incompetent as per usual.

Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/ayf248/am_i_still_a_lesbian_19_f_fmf

16 comments

  2. Sounds to me like you are more homoflexible than straight up homosexual. Im actually heteroflexible [m]yself, and I find myself thinking about taking a guy in the rear at random times, but have never actually done it. Experiment and see, that way you will know for sure!

  3. 1- is being a lesbian so key to you/your personality that being curious is determintal?
    2- it’s ok to be curious. I’m a Male, who doesnt find men sexy, but the idea of being fucked/taking a cock is at times the sexiest thing in my head. I consider myself straight, but describe myself as bi because, well, dicks.
    3-you can be homosexual/lesbian, and still have curiosities. You can also change your labels without changing yourself. Worry less about how everyone labels things, just be you.

  4. I’m a straight guy, but I can appreciate a good looking package. And I’m a fan of transsexual porn. But I only have sex with women.

  5. Thanks for sharing. I’d consider posting in r/sex as well for more advice.

  6. Most importantly – you’re **you**.

    Sure, for ease we have broad terms like gay, straight, bi.. which help pigeonhole folk into mostly or exclusively fancying people of the same, or opposite, or both sexes. It doesn’t mean those are the be-all and end-all.

    I mean, someone might think of themselves as vegetarian, but occasionally have a hankering for a juicy steak. It doesn’t mean they aren’t *mostly* vegetarian, just that occasionally there’s other stuff they fancy too.

    And that’s fine. There’s no rule that says you have to fit into a neat pigeonhole.

    You’re a girl who mostly likes girls, but occasionally has other things that appeal too. That’s fine. YOUR brain, YOUR body, YOUR desires. As long as whatever you get up to is consensual (and doesn’t involve minors) – enjoy your life the way that feels right to you.

  7. I’m a pansexual girl, mostly lesbian. Don’t let a simplistic label define you, but be yourself and discover your sexuality as you feel.

  8. Consider how you would feel having sex with a woman with a penis, or a man with a vagina. Maybe then things will be clearer. Or more confusing! Like some else said, ask /r/sex for good advice, that’s just my two cents.

  9. I’m a Male. I say be who you want to be at the moment. Satisfy your own needs as you need them. It’s ok.

  10. You are 19 and still sorting out your sexuality so don’t be in a rush to put a label on everything. Go explore the vast world of sex and sexuality, just remember to be safe and have fun. I’m 39 (for the second time) and it really wasn’t until I was into my 30’s that I realized that I was somewhat attracted to men as well as women but that I wasn’t interested in having a romantic relationship with other men.

  11. Honestly- you are whatever you want to be. Call yourself brand new name you just made up.

  12. Lots of good stuff already here that I won’t repeat. Two things:
    1. Labels are tools, and ultimately must serve the user. They are useful for communication but they are the map, not the territory itself.
    2. How we feel about things changes, too, and folks sometimes get very worked up trying to fit their entire history into something coherent. You aren’t a novel, so being self-contradictory is just fine. Real life is messy like that.

  13. “My whole life…” “Am 19…”

    Sooooo….yeah. It’s normal to be super horny and open to experience at this point in your life. Don’t sweat it so much sexuality isn’t about finding the box you fit into its about making your own thing with your own rules.

  14. Hormonal 19-year-old. You don’t need to label yourself though. When you find a person that is right for you, you will know. Beyond that, you are overthinking it.

  15. I just wanted to say thank you everyone for your very supportive comments. ‘Means a lot. ^.^

  16. I’ve known lesbians who had a very occassional craving for cock – they only had romantic realtionships with women, they only “made love” to women, they almost always only had sex with women, but occassionally they just wanted to have some cock, and then go home to their wives and girlfriends. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that (so long as the wife or girlfriend is fine with it).

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