I’m the kind of guy that loves to talk about kinks and fantasies with other people. Like it absolutely is probably my most favorite thing to do. Why? Because it’s nice to simply just converse about something that may be seen as taboo. It’s nice to know there are other like minded individuals out there. Also, it’s hard to find those people that are like minded and enjoy talking about sexual things. The only thing is that bothers me is the sexual tension. Even if it may not be from the other side, I feel it on my side. When I start talking to someone about what they are into, fantasies, kinks, sex stories, etc. I start getting aroused.. like not in a matter of holy shit I want to fuck right now, but like, wow if only we could I would absolutely be up for having sex and role playing the mutual fantasies. I hate it but I like it. But I know it’s not good for me. Especially when the other side is simply talking to me about things and having no intention of trying to turn me on. Which is fine, I have no intentions of turning the other party on either, I just simply start fantasizing.. do other people feel this way? Or am I supposed to be completely numb while talking about this stuff? Or am I normal? I’ve talked to online strangers and so far only two people I know in real life that I see frequently about this stuff. I have never slept with either of them but still… am I wrong in feeling this way while talking about this stuff?
TLDR: basically wondering if my emotions that I have while talking about sexual endeavors is wrongful or if it’s okay.
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/9qjerw/i_hate_the_sexual_tension_thats_caused_by_casual
I have the same issues, I enjoy a good conversation about sex with the opposite sex, but when it does go down like that I tend to want to just get with them. I’ve pushed a couple coworkers to the brink where we became FTFs for months, as well as just random women I met online. Problem for me is I’m married and cant do the same with my wife. Its been years since I ended up fucking another woman, but the want is still there to be real with people, and not hide my true ideas. Good luck my friend
I feel the same I enjoy it.