One of the first lessons I learned by talking about my problems online and in the counselor’s office, was that everybody’s situation is different. What works for others may not work for me and what works for me may not work for others. You’ve got to take the time to delve into your own situation and find a solution that works for you. And to save a marriage, it’s got to be a joint solution, not one that is found by one party working alone. But another glitch that got thrown into the mix for me was that my wife didn’t want to participate in counseling. Her position was quite clear. There was nothing wrong with her. She didn’t need professional help. But if I felt the need, especially since I was still reeling from the grief of losing a son, she encouraged me to go for it.
So like a one armed paper hanger, I went for it all alone. Well, to be truthful, I wasn’t 100% alone. I had her involvement on a limited basis. She would ask me what we talked about and what the counselor said. And when the counselor recommended masturbation as an outlet for all the sexual energy I couldn’t get out in bed, she approved of these exploits, with one small caveat, she didn’t want to participate in any way.
I studied my craft. The counselor recommended “Sex for One: The Joy for Self Loving” by Dr. Betty Dodson, and I tripped over “The New Male Sexuality” by the late Dr. Bernie Zilbergeld. Both books are very explicit when it comes to techniques and I liked Dr. Zilbergeld’s exercises so much, I had them recorded because I was having trouble masturbating with one hand while reading a book in the other hand. LOL. [Male Masturbation Techniques](https://www.comealot.net/product-page/male-masturbation-techniques).
It didn’t happen overnight. It took months and months of research on the internet, a study of neuroscience and neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) and an adaptation of audio description found in movies for the visually impaired before I tripped over the sweet spot for me. Maybe it’s the sweet spot for you too. Are you aurally excitable? Check out [GWA](https://www.reddit.com/r/gonewildaudio/) subreddit “for those aroused by sound” and you’ll see what I mean. I gravitated toward “JOI”, Jerk Off Instructions, but there are many themes to satisfy the masses. The tags tell the story. [Cum on my tits]( https://www.reddit.com/r/gonewildaudio/comments/77ar3s/f4m_cum_on_my_tits_script_fill_joi_cumplay/) is one of my favorites.
But as luck would have it, this was only a partial cure. It helped relieve the stress of a lot of pent up emotion, and it brought back “muscle memory” like masturbating as a teenager to the lingerie section of the Sears catalog, but along with the upside, there 2 downsides. One was guilt and the other was sex addiction. To explain the guilt, I have to go back to the brainwashing I received from a catholic nun in second grade. In those days the catholic doctrine was unwavering and unequivocal. Masturbating was a sin. If you masturbated you go to hell and burn for the rest of your eternal life. No kidding. Check out [Religious Views of Masturbation](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Religious_views_on_masturbation) if you don’t believe me. “After the turn of the first millennium, more theologians began to condemn masturbation in an increasingly strident manner.”
To be continued…
[Part 1]( https://www.reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/7afnst/m_how_audio_erotica_save_my_marriage_part_1/)
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