I’ve not really talked a whole lot about this but this seems like a safe place. Anyway, my first ever relationship was a sub/dom relationship and at the time I had no idea what sub/dom even meant. This guy was a lot older than me and literally introduced me to everything related to sex since I had never even had sex before. He was also a person who was close to my family which made things very complicated lol. The first time I ever had sex with him I was handcuffed and even from the beginning I liked the feeling of being controlled. Looking back on it I wonder if maybe I thought that’s how all sex and relationships worked since I had never been in one before. Over the span of two years he introduced me to lots of things like butt plugs and nipple clamps and big dildos and I really loved all of it (not always at first though lol). He also had a fetish for voyeurism in the sense that he liked having me show off (mostly my boobs through sheer shirts) in public lol. That took a while for me to get comfortable with but I kinda started to love it and is probably why I work as a cocktail server in a strip club today lol. I guess I’m writing this because it’s been a year since that relationship ended and I’ve had one other relationship since then but it has been really hard for me to be satisfied in a normal relationship. Is it weird to want to be in a sub/dom type of relationship again? Has anyone else been able to have a happy normal relationship after something like that? If anyone has any advice I’d really appreciate it. Thank you for listening and being respectful :)
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/749qsn/f_my_subdom_relationship
You like being controlled and forced; very common. PM me to discuss other ideas…
Wanting a D/s relationship isn’t weird at all! The BDSM community is quite large, but hidden if you’re not looking for it. I think that if you have a relationship with power exchange and then try to go back to being vanilla it’s not uncommon for that to feel unsatisfying. I would suggest talking with the new partner and asking about incorporating some D/s into the relationship. Even if it’s just a little bit in the bedroom that might help. I would also suggest heading over to r/BDSMcommunity or r/BDSM and perhaps posting/looking at posts there.
Go to Fetlife…
Did you make it known to your current partner you want to be dominated? I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wanting to be in a sub/dom relationship. You never know, he might want to experience his dominant side with you.
Good luck, I look forward to reading more of your stories.
FYI, you’re hot AF!
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