Just walked in on the babysitter… (weird)

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1. As I read this, you: saw that your son was fine; didn’t do anything creepy when you found her; made sure she was ok; made sure she wasn’t being exploited; didn’t try to exploit her; tried to set her mind at rest; and paid her what she was owed for babysitting. All your actions are laudable, above-board and praiseworthy: well done. If later you are privately turned on by the memory of what you saw, well, yeah, who wouldn’t be. There’s no reason to feel any guilt over that. Don’t tell your wife – at least, not unless you have some reason to think she’s not a suitable person to leave your son with, though the mere fact that she enjoys sex (like virtually everybody else) is not such a reason.

2. She should probably be in the same room as the baby she Is watching. Who knows how long she was on the computer.

3. If the baby was asleep or resting for nap time it’s fine if he’s unattended with a monitor for audio. It was likely mid afternoon so that’s prime nap time.

4. Speculate on the scenario If it helps make your point or whatever but the sitter should absolutely be watching this baby and not masturbating on a computer in another room.

5. Just do it mannnnnn

6. From what you have written here, you sound like a perfect gentleman. I applaude! If I was in your shoes, I would tell your wife and make sure that your wife won’t tell her parents. And I would never hire her again. She wasn’t doing her job.

7. Arguable. It’s possible that not being in the room as a child is neglectful, but on the other hand there are all sorts of situations where babysitters are perfectly legitimately in another room, doing something else. Parents are not in the same room as a child every single moment. The issue is whether the child was safe. I am assuming that if there were some reason to worry that he was not, OP was likely to have mentioned that.

8. Only issue with that is that she couldn’t hear the monitor because she couldn’t hear him come home and yell for her (unless it was a smart monitor that connects to a phone but I doubt it)

9. I’m not married, and I know some married people just don’t keep any secrets, but if you’re allowed to keep things private that don’t concern her I probably wouldn’t tell her. If it was just a random babysitter it’d be fine to tell her if you thought she wouldn’t tell, but since it’s her best friend’s little sister it’d be harder for her to keep it to herself and cause drama if she lets it slip.

10. So update: I just fucked up… About 20 minutes ago I get a text from her. She first asked if I was mad at her, I told her I was not. She then asked me if I had told anyone, and I assured her I hadn’t. "Not even (my wife)?" No. I told her I didn’t think it was anyone else’s business. She thanked me. She asked, "aren’t you going to ask why I was doing that" and I told her I figured it was for her boyfriend… Then I guess the blood had been rushing to the wrong head for too long. Before I could give it rational thought I said, "lucky bastard." And hit send. It was several panicked minutes before she responded with a blushing, smiling emoji followed by, "did you like what you saw?" I haven’t responded. Shit.

11. And this is where you fess up to your wife. Now. Do it now. Or this is fake and we both move on with our lives.

12. At this point, I’m wishing it was.

13. BRO. DON’T FLUSH YOUR LIFE DOWN. Get YOUR shit together. Bate. Tell your wife wtf happened. Be transparent. Remain the beast that you are. She is not worth another thought. Do not let a temporary feeling ruin your life. Or I’m getting trolled. In that case, carry on: thank you for the laugh, the smiles, the suspense, and from the final FU, the cringe, and more laughter.

14. "I wish my wife did something like that for me when she wasn’t with me." You maintain an indifference to her and just skirt around the question making it about your wife rather than her. She isn’t worth it, and that way you don’t express any type of interest in her that could be misconstrued in anyway by your wife or others.

15. fuck her and post the story to the sub you know you want to get her out of your system

16. Not sure saying "I wish my wife would do what you do" is a good way of getting out of the situation.

17. So… did you like what you saw? Problem here is a question about trust. Trust everywhere. Would you trust that girl on not passing it ahead? I have a girlfriend and sometimes I miss the rush of adrenaline of the courtship. Good luck. I’m not married, but I think I would let the texting fun happen. After that, my friend, I wish you good luck. Everywhere. But yes, the right thing is not to flush your life down the toilet.

18. dude go jerk off before you do anything even more stupid

19. Op please listen to this. You cannot trust this girl to always look out for your best interest. And when it bites you in the ass it’s gonna be a shit show and a local hot topic. If she was 18 then roll the dice but you can’t afford to lose if she’s not.

20. Tell her you like what you saw laugh about it and either get some head for her cooperation or leave it alone. But don’t tell your wife. There are somethings that are best left unsaid.

21. So update part II: I just got off the phone with my wife where I told her everything (except that I posted the whole thing on reddit). She was an interesting combination of shocked, amused, and weirded out by the whole happening. Truthfully, I rarely give her enough credit for being as confident, easy-going, and fun-loving as she really is. After the initial shock she told me her friend had told mer her little sister had been caught sending sexts before, so she wasn’t surprised she was doing it, just shocked she was doing it at the house. She gave me good-natured shit about the "lucky bastard" comment and the "did you like what you saw?" question. It’s obvious that the babysitter is attractive, but she knows I’m not going to leave her for some kid. While I was still on the phone with my wife I message the babysitter back and said something along the lines of "Yes, you’re very beautiful, but I’m married and you don’t need to be showing yourself off like that." She responded "Too bad – you’re missing out" with a wink emoji. I told my wife about it and she laughed. Suffice it to say, I don’t think we’ll have her back anymore, but we’ll still see her around from time to time since my wife and her sister are so close. We’ll see how awkward it is down the road.

22. I read the title and thought here’s some fantasy fiction. Read the story, ‘no seems legit’. Read this comment. "Here we go."

23. Best advice in here.

24. Please keep updating! very interesting to hear a situation like this handled by a rational person! whether it’s fake or not.

25. Juicy.

26. News Flash, 20 month is almost two years old. You don’t need a baby monitor for that dipshit. When you grow up you’ll know what I mean. Do a RemindMe for 30 years and understand how to raise a kid.

27. You’re right ,you need full attention as the child is now capable of walking around pretty well and are known to be fucking escape artists and bad things can happen quickly dipshit. I’ll send myself a reminder though in 30 years when I’m 57. Hey maybe you are right though. Maybe the person’s whose job it is to watch the baby should be in another room masturbating on a computer instead.

28. And who said anything about a baby monitor? Not me, dipshit

29. No, but you obviously think parents can be awake for 24/7 watching a 20 month old. Doesn’t happen and if you think it does then you’ve never parented before.

30. Yes that is what I think even though I Said the person who’s job it was to watch the baby should have been watching the baby. I actually think that a parent stays awake 24/7 even though I didn’t say that. Thank you for clearing that up. You also let me know that I said something about a baby monitor even though I didn’t so thank you for that as well. I know I know I am so out of line by saying the person he paid to watch the child should have been watching the child but I guess I am just such a dipshit!

31. When you pay a babysitter to be at home with your child, in this case a 20 month old. You expect the baby to be asleep and unharmed when you get home. Most kids when they finally sack out will sleep out for a good few hours. While I’m not condoning the activity she took. I’m saying she could have left the room for a few hours without incident. You are saying it’s black and white and ~~that~~ that’s where you fail at my parenting argument. edit: that >> that’s

32. Yes I am saying black and white if someone Is hired to watch a child they should be watching the child and not be in another room in the house. Bingo . That is what I am saying. I am not saying anything that you have hallucinated I said that is not there in text like something about a baby monitor or that parents somehow stay up 24/7. Apparently though, since you are going to the lengths of making up things I said, you disagree that a person hired to watch a baby does not need to watch the baby. Edit: ok you edited 70% of your comment I replied to lol

33. Wait, what? If she’s in an upstairs room with the monitor in the room, doesn’t it seem reasonable that she could hear the monitor much better than she could hear somebody downstairs?

34. I, as many others (just not you) have taken care of kids and don’t need to watch them like a TV Show. Babysitters are just a "fill in the gap" parenting. I am going to concede now though because I don’t quite think you are comprehending what I have been saying and getting tired. Good night, sleep tight and don’t let the bed bugs bite.

35. You edited well over half your comment pal.

36. You conceded when you started making things up that I said and hammered in the final nail in when you edited over half your comment after I replied

37. That’s a damn good wife you have there, sir! Kudos to her!

38. Lucky bastard

39. He said she had headphones in too?

40. if seen a lot of movies like this. you should ask your wife if you can fuck the teenager together. im 100% certain she will say yes.

41. *oh fuck* Haha oops uh ?? sorry uh

42. I cringed so much when I saw the first update but it looks like it turned out alright (apparently you married a fucking saint). Given the girl’s response to you it’s obvious she’s bad news and shouldn’t be around your child (or you). At the very least it will prevent her from wiping her vagina all over your bedroom again. That’s just disrespectful. I suggest spending some extra effort on your wife when she returns and doing something particularly romantic. She already seems to have a ton of trust in you but deserves to know that you appreciate her for that. I don’t think people should be congratulated for not being cheating scumbags, but thank you for not being the sort of person who would hurt the person they love for a cheap thrill.

43. I don’t think it makes her unsafe to be around the child. The kid’s 20 months old. If he was down for a nap it’s not like he needs attention. That said, the rest of it you’re totally right about. Like… have a little restraint, y’know? You never know when the person you’re sitting for is coming home.

44. And using facetime/skype/whatever, not music. If you can’t hear a monitor through some shitty apple earbuds (Dollars to donuts that’s what she had in) then you should get your ears checked.

45. Haha I wasn’t implying that the child is unsafe around her, just that she clearly isn’t an ideal babysitter given what we can infer from her behaviour. Without making any assumptions I’d choose the person half-asleep watching netflix over the butt-naked lady two thirds of the way to orgasm if I wanted someone ready to respond to my child if they cried or had an emergency. If nothing else, I would just prefer there be a 0% chance of getting foreign vaginal fluid on my child.

46. In the story, she couldn’t hear a grown man calling out her name. If that’s he case, then she probably couldn’t hear a monitor through the headphones

47. Anybody else really worry that this girl had headphones on in another room while the baby was in a crib? I mean, that’s just downright irresponsible babysitting!

48. You are a good man. Others would have don’t other things. Good job.

49. A grown man who’s baby is asleep doesn’t shout very loud.

50. I’m not exactly in favor of getting domestic vaginal fluid on a 20 month old baby either.

51. Nice story, perhaps you could edit it to describe the baby sitter.

52. You are an amazing guy with a fantastic marriage. Well done.

53. What…. What kind of idiotic logic is that?

54. > I don’t think it makes her unsafe to be around the child. You have absolutely *terrible* judgment…

55. Wow, you married the right woman. Congrats

56. Forget about her age. If he does anything, OP will lose companionship, assuming he lives in the US, he is 95% likely to lose custody and visiting rights to his own two kids. He will lose arguably everything he’s worked for his entire life.

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58. This submission sexualizes a minor. Not all participants are over 18, like the sidebar says they must be. Assuming this is a real thing that happened and isn’t just OP’s wanking material, here is my evidence: The babysitter asked OP >"Are you going to tell my parents?" This indicates she is young enough to live with her parents and that they are people she must obey. OP says >I asked her who the guy on the other end of the camera was and she said "some guy from school." High school or university? I’m guessing high school because… A few posts down OP refers to the babysitter as "some kid" >It’s obvious that the babysitter is attractive, but she knows I’m not going to leave her for some kid. Op is sexually attracted to minors (as evidenced by his calling the boy the babysitter was texting a ‘lucky bastard), and is sharing this story because the child who babysits for him also arouses him. Everyone giving upvotes and leaving approving comments is complicit in OP’s preying on a child in this way (by flirting with her and calling the guy she was sexting with a ‘lucky bastard’), and is supporting the systemic sexualization of female children (google what sexualization means before criticizing my use of the word). OP has a kid and a wife.. And he’s flirting with a child. And you all support him, and call his wife ‘good’ for being complicit in his preying on a female child. For being obedient. OP is yet another reason why women SHOULD NOT trust men.

59. OP texted the child, calling the guy she was texting with a ‘lucky bastard’. That is creepy. That is predatory behavior. That is trying to exploit her. Fuck you for claiming otherwise. And there’s a difference between enjoying sex, and sexting when you should be babysitting. You ignore the babysitter’s inappropriate actions because she enjoys sex. How icky.

60. Oh yes she’s a good wife because she simply laughs at her husband preying on a child. A ‘good woman’ to you is simply one who agrees with men and doesn’t call them out when they prey on kids.

61. OP texted the babysitter ‘lucky guy’ in reference to the guy she was texting. That isn’t being a gentleman. That’s being a predator.

62. Out of curiosity, have you ever discussed the possibility of a threesome with the wife? Might be fun. ;)

63. Your understanding of the word "predator" is very different than mine. OP said "Yes, you’re very beautiful, but I’m married and you don’t need to be showing yourself off like that.". He could have kept this thing a secret with his wife, flirted with the baby sister and could have easily fucked her if he wanted to. He took the high route. The real "lucky person" in this incident is OP’s wife because she is married to a faithful guy.

64. It won’t have been obvious to you because you’ve come to the conversation late, but OP’s "lucky bastard" update came along about two hours after my comment was posted. That *was* stupid of him. He introduced it by saying "I fucked up", and his self-assessment is correct.

65. Everyone’s all talking about doing the right thing and I’m over here like, "$40?!??!??!?"

66. How old is this girl?

67. I’m saying she’s a good wife because she has enough confidence in her husband & herself to know her husband won’t do something stupid. Instead of most female reactions to get angry at their husbands for no reason; And I’m sure it clearly states that he isn’t ‘preying’ on the teenager who threw herself at him. Maybe should reread the text instead of attacking a comment, sir.

68. Go read OP’s updates, and grow up

69. tell your wife

70. LMFAO

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