I’m not a bull. I don’t enjoy demeaning a man while dominating his wife. I don’t even really think of myself as all that dominant. I have, however, taken the wives of other men, both with and without their knowledge; both with and without their being present. I have never belittled a man while doing so, however, regardless of how little I might think of him.
Is that a distinction without a difference? I don’t think so. My understanding is that the dominance and degrading are a critical part of the bull experience. I have noticed in the last few years a dramatic increase in the number of “beta males” I come across. Men who are passive. By comparison, men who are assertive or openly masculine seem to be more dominant.
I have seen that some women like a man who they can bend to their will. I have also found that some women react quite strongly to a strong, masculine man. I don’t necessarily mean physically, though that is a factor. I’m a fairly burly man. I lift weights regularly and while I’m not a bodybuilder, the strength shows. However, I’m more referring to the masculinity of spirit, so to speak. The man who gets things done, takes what he wants (without being an ass about it) and doesn’t bend to any external pressure.