My (56m) wife (41f) and I have an amazing connection when it come to intimacy. A short time ago we both entered a phase where we decided to let go of all of our preconceived notions about sex and intimacy to discover what we enjoy sexually. It has been life changing when you drop all of the religion and societal stigmas of what is good or bad and experience freedom.
We watched porn together and it turned into an open and frank discussion about what arouses us and what works vs what doesn’t work for us during intimacy.
A week or so ago while we were being intimate I was attempting to run her clit. While typically this isn’t a challenge our changes in attitudes and behaviors have resulted in a flow of vaginal lubricants that could rival the mythological “great flood”. Her clit was very hard, and far more mobile than usual. She will periodically adjust my hand if she knows of a spot I need to touch that I am not hitting. I have no problem with this as my goal is to please her and who better knows where she needs touched more than her.