I’m (F23) and the guy I’m seeing is 24. It took him a while to initiate sex. He said he didn’t want to make me feel like just a hookup. And I appreciated that. One night when we first started hooking up, he stopped after going down on me and said he didn’t want me to be a hook up. So we stopped. The next day, we did just oral because every time we tried to have sex, he would lose his erection… every time…he told me to stop and that it was okay, as long as I was pleased… it took like 2 hours and when I couldn’t make him finish he kept going down on me. We tried again the other day and it took over an hour..he said he just takes forever to finish.
Has anyone that experienced this, whether you are the person who cannot stay erect/takes a while to finish, or you’re in my situation being the one that can’t do the pleasing, have any advice? I seriously have never encountered this and I do like him a lot. But I need the sex to be good or else I’ll get nervous that I’ll get left. Please give any kind of advice. He’s not interested in discussing it with me yet.