Author: ErotiC90

The Horror, Stereotypes, Misconceptions and the Truth about being an Asian Woman: Part Two [r/findingerotica]

Taken from [findingerotica]

“*I had to do my own research, often from watching tv and film, which also set up impossible expectations of romance and love. It also complicated my view of my sexuality. Any time there would be an Asian character, they were often reduced to over-sexualized roles (sexy assassin, sexy dragon lady, sexy nail salon worker, hookers, etc.) or de-sexualized ones (doctors, engineers, and other nerds). Where’s a happy medium?? Also, as a muscular girl of above average height, I’ve had to contend with the ingrained notion that Asian women have to be delicate and small to be beautiful.”* – Dani 

In part one of this blog series I highlighted some of the horror and stereotypes of being an Asian Woman with examples from the stories of The Comfort Women and Chanel Miller.  In part two I’ll focus on some misconceptions and generational truths regarding sex, sharing how modern-day Asian women have taken stands to proclaim and establish their full humanity. Read more »

Interracial Love: Is it a fetish? Part One [findingerotica]

“I’m a white man with a lifelong attraction to Black women. Often I’m asked why? Recently, a white friend added another question to the inquiry: Is my attraction a fetish?  

Popular modern vernacular, internet variety, suggests that a fetish is heightened pleasure found in strong emotional and often sexual attraction to a particular objectified body part, activity, skin color, power relation–pretty much anything–that lies outside the bounds of what is thought of as ‘ordinary’. 

As one online pundit explained, a man’s sexual attraction to women’s breasts will be deemed to be ‘normal’ simply because many men are attracted to breasts. In contrast, an attraction to a woman’s feet qualifies as a fetish because not that many men are turned on sexually by feet. 

But there’s much more to the story: when I dug beneath the internet surface to explore the term’s roots, I found that ‘fetish’ originated from Portuguese sailors’ 16th Century initial interactions with various West African tribal groups.  In need of a word to capture previously unobserved cultural practices—in particular spiritual worship of objects imbued with otherworldly powers–that fell outside the limits of their Eurocentric colonial lens, the sailors created a new term. They called what they saw “fetish.”  When the sailors returned to Europe, among the many things they brought home was their new word.  Read more »