Want to suck off my friend again.

I am a bi male 29. I’ve been with the same woman for 10 years. We have great sex and that’s good, but I’ve had a desire to suck dick and swallow. I don’t tell my girl cause I’ve never had that conversation with her but my main thing is I have a budy who I experimented with when I was 14. He got hard while we were watching a porn as young dudes do and one thing led to another and I was getting throat blasted with cum. I have secretly been wanting this daily since then. I talked to him but he’s not wanting it again. He’s kinda embarrassed about it given the people in our town have been know to bash that sort of thing pretty hard. I even now kinda want to take a load from behind. Curious for thoughts….