1. Follow Instructions. Being a good sub is about following instructions. It’s that simple. The entire point is for me to eventually reward you for being obedient by allowing you to have your fix – whatever that fix may be. I get off on the control, you get off on being controlled. This is the core of it.
2. Be clean. I can’t stress this enough. Trim your nails. Keep them clean. Dress neatly. Good grooming. Don’t make my tasks for you be things like “get a haircut!” Just because you are not someone I would fuck doesn’t mean I am fine with you not being the most attractive version of your pathetic self.
3. Never lie to me. Just be honest. If something isn’t working for you then don’t lie and try to trick me. This whole thing is mutual – you want to be controlled in the way you want to be controlled. And this is a 2 way street – if I don’t find the control you give me intriguing, I’m not going to want to participate, so I’ll be honest with you too.
4. Money. Unless it’s your fetish to have me spend all of your money, I’m not ever going to demand you just start paying my bills or anything of that sort. Still, if you’re working two jobs in order to meet your financial obligations, then you probably don’t have time for a 23-year old vixen to control your life. I do expect you to subscribe to my OF and keep up to date with everything I’m doing. You had better be my biggest fan!
5. Dating. We are not dating. Our relationship is different but still very real. That being said, just follow rule number 3. I never EVER want to get a call from some girl thinking her guy is cheating. I don’t need the BS. I have Dom’d a couple before and, honestly, it’s too messy. Being a Dom is a set hierarchy and the couple thing doesn’t work unless there is a set hierarchy within the couple ie the man is subservient to his girlfriend. These things usually involve cucking, which I will happily participate just as long as the hierarchy is maintained. That being said, I’ve done things with my sub and my Dom at the same time. I can make my sub grovel at the foot of the bed while I get fucked by a real man. I can make him clean up afterwards. Then my Dom can instruct me on how to deliver instructions, punishments, and treats to my sub.
6. Texting. I understand that you have a job. A life. Responsibilities. But we’re all on our phones the majority of the day. I’m tolerant to a 2 hour reply but not much more than that. Honestly, in most cases, you should be texting me back within 1 minute. I’m going to want daily contact which is important if I’’m going to control certain agreed upon things in your life. And the interaction is key. Checkins in the morning and at night are important. Tasks will be assigned and I’m not tolerant of failure. I’ve let a sub go a whole month without cumming for not following instructions and, to be honest, when I finally did let him cum it was a crazy amount of jizz and I know he wasn’t lying.
7. Sex. You will never fuck me. Never. I’ve fucked my subs in the past and the whole thing usually falls apart right after. My authority to control your orgasm goes right out the window. I’ll allow you to jerk off but only with my permission. On a rare occasion, I’ll jerk you off but it’s going to have to be a reward for something exceptional. And I probably won’t jerk you off to completion. I’ll have to make yourself cum after I’ve sufficiently teased you. Remember, I truly don’t see you as someone I want to fuck. I’m not attracted to you. Otherwise, I’d be fucking you.
8. Pain. Nothing that’s going to land you in the hospital. I’m not going to stand on your balls in my stiletto heels and then have to explain in the ER how you got seriously hurt. If that is your thing, then we’re not going to work out. But anything that doesn’t require stitches or a ride in the ambulance is a punishment I enjoy delivering. Being a sub is mostly about the control being given to one specific person you idolize. I do not let people bottom from the top with me. You are not going to be the one calling the shots while pretending to bottom. I don’t do permanent cock cages unless the sub is pretty insistent on wearing one. I don’t want to find out you needed to be rushed to the ER to cut the cage off you and I had the only key. Plus it’s impossible to keep those things completely clean when you’re wearing it all day, every day.
9. Pegging. Yes, I’m going to peg you. I know what I’m doing and you’re my bitch…. And you’re going to love it. Being penetrated is the most intimate act possible and to experience that as a sub is one of the most fulfilling sexual experiences you will ever enjoy. I could write an entire post on this subject.
10. I will give you a pet name. And when I say, “bun bun, jump!”, your answer should be “yes, my queen. How high?”