Do I want to write a wholesome BDSM romance where two people who love each other indulge in dark and fucked up fantasies together, in a healthy way that deepens their bond and trust in one another?
Or do I write *about* those dark and fucked up fantasies because fuck it it’s my story and I wanna get off?
Problem is that my answer to this question changes at least 3 times a day, depending on what my dick wants or what my *soul* wants at that moment.
Write both..
Start with the dark desires version. Then you can build the living romance around it as a frame.