Struggling with uneasy kink: I find my wife very attractive when she’s quite drunk.
We have pretty rock solid relationship and have been together for roughly 4 and a half years. We have a very healthy sex life, but I haven t really divulged how much I fancy her when she’s been drinking. I’m embarrassed by how creepy it sounds.
Here’s some context. She went out for a hen’s night last night, and as the hours went on her texts became increasingly misspelled and incoherent. When she eventually stumbled through the door at 2:30 am, she was very obviously sloppy drunk—glassy-eyed, reeking of booze, slurring her words, hiccuping, dropping her phone, repeating things every 30 seconds. What she doesn’t know is that I find her incredibly sexy in such a state.
“Becky an I haada thew shaas,” she slurred. She starts clumsily getting handsy and trying to messily make out with me. One thing led to another, and we ended up having sex. Now, we’ve already established an idea of inebriated consent before in previous conversations, and I would never cross any boundaries that would be respected when sober, but for some reason I just feel guilty about how much I enjoy being with her when she’s so drunk.
The thing is she rarely drinks, so I just enjoy it every once in a blue moon. Because it rarely comes up, I’m not really sure if I should share this kink with her. If I do, I’m not sure how to talk with her about it because I find it quite embarrassing.
Source: reddit.com/r/Erotica/comments/hd2a6c/i_often_fantasize_about_taking_advantage_of_my
So first and foremost, you have to tell all this to your wife, explain your desires to her, and explain why you feel bad about them, then you two can work up a good way for these desires to be filled in a way that both of you can enjoy them. If I was in your shoes, i would sit down with my wife and tell her what I was feeling and thinking